Bethany Beal on Girl Defined, God, and the gays (part 1)

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[ZelphOntheShelf]

Sorry for the bad video quality in parts! We had issues using streamyard with the wifi.

[alejja]

The amount of lore I have to explain to my boyfriend for him to understand how monumental this is 😭

[mysiann]

This is what actually changes the world. This is what promotes growth. This is what our cold, hard hearts need to soften and warm to.

[bradiedean]

As a former homophobic queer person and having seen Girl Defined's stances on queer issues in the past, hearing Bethany talk about what she would do if her kid came out and heading her say that she would love them and their partner 😭 I would have killed to hear my mother say this even before i knew. You have no idea how damaging hearing the opposite can be, so I'm happy for your kids to know that you truly will love them unconditionally bc that's so sadly not always the case. There's so much love in this video ❤

[bebeenderson]

No one in my life would be able to understand how excited I am for these 4 girlies to link finally 😂

[FabricofTime]

As a person who started where Bethany is and had the luxury of deconstructing completely in private, I genuinely hope people who have wanted Bethany to give space to people to take their own journeys will allow Bethany to take HER own journey. She's a baby learning to walk right now. Neither shoving her down nor insisting she start dancing the tango immediately will be helpful on that journey.

[shayloren]

This series of events has, no joke, made me reevaluate how I empathize with and love the people in my life who believe things I don’t. I have been so hurt by religion, I tend to be angry. (which is so valid.) But I want to do better at remembering people are humans, we are all trying our best. And the only way forward is connection, community, genuine curiosity, that’s how we beat hate :’) It was my relationships and love with people different than me that got me out of a cult.
“The only thing I do know... is that we have to be kind. Please, be kind - especially when we don't know what's going on.” -Waymond, Everything Everywhere All At Once

[amielwayne]

Bethy says "I'm probably not the ideal Christian, but..."

But Bethany, that means you're becoming more *authentically* Christian. By letting go of the "ideal" image you've inherited from other people, you're finally getting the breathing room you need to show up as your full, honest, self. That's a prerequisite for any healthy relationship - whether with your spouse or with God. It can be painful to let go of that idea, especially when you've grown up in constant fear of not living up to it. But it's the bravest, truest thing you can do. 🙏

[brooke_reiverrose]

“This is my break-out moment.”
Bethany just declared her freedom from the high-control aspects of her religion. Just amazing.

[sophiaec]

bethany being a relatable queen with stomach issues is so real

[Kiki-prcy]

It does make me cry to hear the cognitive dissonance come through in Bethany’s voice because I have been there. Some things she’s able to state confidently and firmly, but with the LGBTQ+ conversation you can hear her waffling and stumbling a bit more. It’s so hard to fit all those ideas in your head at once, wanting to love people and let them be who they are, but feeling like you have to defend your rule book is so hard.

[ruliak]

Sending Bethy so much love, she has grown so much. People are allowed to be upset with her, sending her love is my own choice. Personally I really feel this deep forgiveness and redemption for her and I am excited for her and Dav's future. This is so awesome and I'm glad you all had a great time hanging out and chatting.

[jadeelizaishere]

My therapist just told me to do some self care for myself tonight and oh boy is the self about to be cared for with the youtube crossover event of the decade 😩

[miriamlevenson]

okay having watched a lot of this now, i can truly say that what started out as your girl defined commentary has become one of the most honest, beautiful human relationships i’ve gotten to see on the internet. actually, thank you

[Namari]

At 51:25 when Bethany asked Tanner what he would want Christians to know about queerness, my heart jumped--what a big, difficult question. I'm really impressed with how Tanner handled that because I don't know what I would've even said in that moment. But I've been thinking about it, and if Bethany or Dav are in the comments (if so, hello! Thank you for doing this!) or any other Christians are reading this, I think I would just say this:

We're not a political movement, we're not a monolith, we're not coming for you or your faith. We're just people, trying to find happiness in the best way we know how, and we just want the freedom and the space to do that. When Bethany talks about how much she loves Dav, when they cuddle together and they're so happy and it's so beautiful to see... that's exactly how I feel about my wife. And I think if someone told Bethany that she and Dav "shouldn't" be together, maybe because they're of different faiths right now or for some other reason, she would know they're wrong because she knows how she feels with Dav is right and it's beautiful and it's good. That's exactly how my wife makes me feel, that's how I feel when I'm with her, we love each other, we're meant to be together. We're both women, but that's utterly besides the point. I would feel like less of a person if she wasn't in my life.

[eggs]

if all christians were this compassionate we'd all be chillin right now

[Akristinaaa]

I'm so insanely proud of Dav & Bethany, but honestly, ESPECIALLY Bethany in the context of this video. Wow. She truly seems so confident and grounded. I'm so excited for her and what life has in store for her & her family. Ugh. She's so well-spoken and clearly has SUCH a deeply loving, empathetic heart.

[natashaburton]

This is what Paul and Morgan thought their “24 hours with” would be

[kalmarr]

Biggest crossover since Avengers Endgame!

[Skylar]

This was amazing. I appreciated Bethany specifically asking Tanner to speak to her more conservative audience from the perspective of a queer person. It showed in practice the love and empathy she has that she spoke about earlier, particularly despite the context of her beliefs.