7 Reasons Why You Should NEVER Date a Japanese Guy | Find Love in Japan

Here are 7 reasons why you shouldn't date a Japanese guy.

This is my subjective opinion, and I'm sure some people had great experiences with Japanese men. Please share your experiences in the comment section below!

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0:00 Intro
0:18 1. Fixation on Age
1:40 2. Use of Prostitution
2:25 3. Narrow POV
3:50 4. No Opinions
5:35 5. Lack of Compassion
10:01 6. Patriarchal
11:19 7. Work Over Family
14:04 Fun Way to Learn Japanese
14:32 Learn Japanese with Me

[figs]

as a japanese woman, thank you for telling the truth LOL

[SonDeku-yx]

This is why you have a lifetime subscriber. You tell the truth about japan and japanese people, most people want to paint Japan in the best light as possible, all the time

[cinnamon]

I know that criticism is very looked down upon in japan, specially towards one's own so I think it's very cool that you're able to be so sincere and honest withput sugarcoating anything.

[kaparky]

I came to Japan this spring, and before coming, dating a Japanese guy or anything never crossed my mind and I didn't know anything about them anyway. I just came to study and that was all. But after I arrived, I found Japanese men very physically attractive lol. I have a crush on dozens of them every day 😅
I didn't deal with any of them outside the classroom, but I think I know enough to make me determined never to be with a Japanese guy. The cheating thing is the worst and I can never accept it. I know not everyone is like that, but when something is common, I always ask myself: how can I be that confident that my partner won't be one of them?

[Karol_kurobara]

Living in Japan and knowing many Japanese, you are absolutely right

[patatedesbois]

Im french and no, being old is not that considered positively, but being 27 years old is not considered " old" for sure. The whole video is really interesting thank you so much for sharing about this.

[debbydean]

Everything you say is absolutely truth, as an American woman working for a Japanese company in the states, I came across every point mentioned here. I was constantly in in conflicts 🙄

[sweet___pi]

LOL this is all really true...😂😂 as a young girl who tried dating in japan, i noticed and felt many of these things...
thank you for an articulate and honest video❤

[nezomi]

I love Japanese culture and I'm learning Japanese as well... I'm intermediate leve" N3 " and I can really confirm what you've said... I've talked to many Japanese people and they're basically exactly what you've described.. No exaggeration or anything like that but dude you showed the true dark side of Japanese culture as a Japanese person hats off.. You're legend and very brave person to get the courage to have this critical opinion of you about Japan.
And I'm totally aware of everything that you've mentioned that's why I'm keeping it to getting to know the culture and be fulent in Japanese because I just adore it ☺️🤍🥰 チュニジア人です🇹🇳☺️ よろしくお願いします。

[elkevera]

Gernan here. I have been looking behind the curtain (culture, traditions, characteristics) for several years from afar and no point on your list was unfamiliar.
- There is one subject which really disturbs me: The public and the private face. And here is the reason: It seems like people come home, close their door and let their frustration out on the inet. I read a lot of comments and they are absolutely shocking. Insults, verbal attacks on individuals who don't deserve this kind of treatment in the least. Keyboard warriors! Many times it is envy and jealousy.
-- I despise fake behaviour, that made it really hard for me in the US where I resided for 21 years
- But altogether life in Japan seems to be quieter and more respectful if you do your homework ahead of time.
-- Thank you for your interesting insight.

[AngelSaturn-ln]

I remember that I have seen an article a long time ago, I was about 18 or 19 about japanese women who said on herself that after 30 y o they're considered expired, like if they were just a piece of meat to consume...as a young girl of not even 20 I felt it like an insult for all women and it gave me anxiety I remember, like wow I don't have a lot of time to be attractive and find the right one...but as you say french people (I'm french) are okay with women after 30s and even 40s as long as you keep your body fit and age like fine wine 💚
Now I just don't care at all 😂 I feel just good in my mind and body 😌

[falufalu]

If I hire him as a husband, would he then be committed to it cus he would consider that as his "job"

[davidpatton]

That's interesting; I posted my first comment before watching your video all the way through. Since you asked, I am gay, and I've always found Japanese (as well as Asian in general) men physically and sexually attractive. I listened with an open heart and an open mind to what you said about dating Japanese men, and I have no reason to not believe it. There is no country, no race, no place on earth that is perfect. Whether I am foolish or naive, all I have is to believe that for every rule there are exceptions, whether it is age, sex, nationality, or cultural norms. I hope maybe I can be one of the lucky ones to find that one who is an exception. Who knows? No one knows. Life is hard, and life is cold. Like I said in my previous comment, I like you; you seem rather interesting, so I'm subscribing to your channel. Cheers, David.

[RitaCavalluzzi]

Thank you for this. I did romanticize what life would be like in Japan. As an American woman, I would indeed struggle with each and every point you made. For example, I work in an elementary school and we teach and encourage individuality and to question the world around you. We promote being unique and out of the box thinking. Thinking and doing what others do just for the sake of it would be against my very nature.

[ARTHURLEYWIN-zihc]

good job dude 👏🏿 appreciate your content

[mirinah]

Whole video is just Taiki complaining about Japanese society and I’m here for it

[MariaBegonaRosaGadea]

Thanks so much for this video I.m Spanish with a Japanese boyfriend. Sometimes cultural differences are so tough to overcome😢

[hannahcrossett]

Delighted to find your channel! Thank you for all these insights!

[Beweave]

A friend from the Netherlands once had his train delayed because someone jumped and he was just angry about how "selfish" they were to affect people's commute like that. All I could think of was how sad and brutal it must be to go that way. Not that he's a bad person though but I think sometimes people are cold due to lack of understanding.

[greatwave]

Not like I'm hearing this for the first time but man it discourages me from learning Japanese... I've been wanting to move to Japan for years because there are genuinelly a lot of good things there that I like and would love to explore, beautiful nature, tasty cuisine (very to my taste), high safety, polite people (even if it's pretend I'd rather be treated decently out of common courtesy than be honestly spit in the face) outstanding design and art (I'm a designer and a hobbyist artist so I get really exited over pretty and well though-out things no matter how mundane they might be), very rich culture that's so fascinatingly well-preserved (people in my country don't even have a single holiday where it would be encouraged to wear our traditional clothes and generally our culture got majorly watered down by generic western things). And I think Japan still has a lot of great and forward thinking people, especially in the newer generation. I see art done by them criticizing the traditional way of things and those songs gather millions of views, I don't think that Japan is somehow doomed.

But at the same time I'm really scared. After all I may have consumed a lot of content and I'm learning the language but still I haven't lived there. I worry that all that effort that I'm putting towards my ultimate goal of escaping my shitty country and having a normal, peaceful and fulfilled life might be in vain. That I wouldn't be able to make friends or find love. That I won't like it and wouldn't have anywhere else to go. I don't want to live in the English speaking countries, I don't like how things are there. And as for another non-English speaking country I would have to learn from zero a completely new language and culture that I don't have even the slightest interest for, that would be torture.

I'm especially worried because I am a girl. I would consider myself young adult but it seems like I would become "old" in Japan in just a handful of years. Who tf even decided that 27 is old?? Especially considering how youthfull asian people generally are. And twenties is still pretty much the beginning of your life, you just got out of university and have been working for a couple of years and then BAM "ur old lol"??? Personally, for me "old" begins at like 60 or something. 20-35 is young and "40-55" is mature (in a good sense). Below 20 are teens and kids!
So how would I even find myself a partner if I'll theoretically land in Japan even a couple of years from now? I cannot help but feel an annoying itch of "must hurry". But you should never hurry when picking a life-long partner!! I know that I would need a partner since I'm pretty romantic and I can't hook up with strangers, like absolutely not. And if I pick a Japanese guy I might run into all those problems I don't know how to deal with and if I pick a Japanese girl (I'm bi) then we can't legally marry or adopt kids or anything really bc the law doesn't recognise gay couples and probably wouldn't for another hundred or so years. There is of course another option like picking a fellow immigrant but then it would be much harder to acclimate in the country if we're both foreign and have no clue what we're doing. Marrying a local is a good way to learn the local way of living naturally and also gain a wide circle of connections like their friends and family. Also there's like 97% of Japanese in Japan so finding a suitable person in that group is many times higher than if I'll look exclusively among other non-Japanese. My head just blows up from all this constant worry and doubt 🥲