5 Tips to Beat Inferiority Complex

To feel chronically and continually inferior to others is a toxic way to live. You will recognise the inferiority complex spoiling the lives of some clients. 

In this video, as well as offering my "anatomy of an inferiority complex", I give you 5 tips for helping clients suffering feelings of inadequacy.

Whole lifetimes can be lived, or perhaps I should say endured, with feelings of not being good enough. Sometimes people can't even say why they are inferior only that they feel that they are.

If we continually feel we come up short against all and everyone then life can quickly feel meaningless and self hatred becomes a normal way of being. 

I hope you not only enjoy the tips from this video but find they really help you help your clients too, and please share your own insights by leaving a comment below - and don't forget to hit the 'subscribe' button to keep updated with future videos.

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[n.e]

I struggle with comparing myself to others from the moment I wake up.

[ozzy.]

My inferiority complex is so bad I was even afraid to tell my old therapist about it. The very idea that someone else would know about how inferior I feel gave me a massive wave of shame and embarrassment.

[ill]

Even worse when you feel extremely inferior to your best friends

[roughryder]

I think Social Media is really messing me up. The second I wake up, I'm immediately checking Instagram and seeing other people living their lives. Knowing that someone had a wild Friday/Saturday night and seeing their pictures really fucks me up because I know I was just laying in bed or playing video games with strangers online all day.

[ArjunAchyutha]

I feel inferior to everyone on this planet, every minute is a struggle to live, bevoz of my complexes, i skip most of my classes, n resort to staying at home, n hence became lazy n put weight, this os only continuing endlessly, I'm ashamed of myself, to even live ;(

[ishitachandel]

I was humiliated by my physics teacher so bad . He insulted me in front of my classmates and compared me to my brother that how good was he and look at yourself. This humiliation has stuck with me ever since. I always feel as if i am not intelligent enough and dumb girl although i am a topper .

[rahmaali]

Feeling inferiority can only be done through comparison. Feeling inferior is different from objectively knowing we might be inferior to someone in a particular way. It’s about being emotional about it. Intrinsic to low
Self-esteem. Not a cognitive thing, but emotional thing.

We should always be on our own side. We can only b x y and z in comparison to others. If we relax our expectations as to how we should be.

1) Deal with emotional memories. Helping people examine their own thoughts can be valuable and effective.
2) Drop the mine. Be yourself, everyone is always taken. Being inspired by someone is trying to assimilate someone’s admirable traits into who you are and not being an identical replica of them.
3) Get specific. Are you being too busy as to being selective as to who you are comparing yourself too?
4) Dare to be different. Your life can only be lived by you. Explore what you want to do as opposed as to what you should do.
5) oust the Utopian assumptions. Utopian is the assumption of what if thinking etc. if only I was twenty pounds lighter I would be happier. Deeper needs and until those deeper needs are met we may have an aching disconnect as to what we actually need and what we think we need.
See differences in others not in terms of better or worse but just as differences.
I will never be a plastic copy as to what other people expect

[flamingrobin]

my parents were narcissistic shame based and projected onto me and gaslighted me. locked in double binds and shame for years keeps me to this day from succeeding. much of the emotional struggles interere with task and relationships

[carlosbravo]

Really good video, I’ve had an inferiority complex for a great part of my life, even though I’ve had no real reason. It all comes down to bad moments during my childhood and constantly comparing myself to others. I have felt as if I do not deserve success and I have ignored my passions for too long. I’ll try to get to the root of the problem and try to feel my emotions and let them go, evolving and living my “own” life, not the one that is promised.

[simplyeleza]

This was amazing. New subscriber.
I would add a quote by Jordan Peterson which says, "Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today."

[leroux-p]

Tips:
1. Deal with emotional memories (effect bridge technique) 8:38
2. Drop the mime 10:47
3. Get specific (What have u being feeling sad about?) 12:16
4. Dare to be different 13:38
5.Oust the Utopian Assumptions 15:33

[flamingrobin]

grief in mid life has me stuck to the point that my heart hurts all the time

[Nouno]

I give up so easily because I already know that I'll fail.

[CynthMzannar]

Back when I was in school (in my case a French school), I was constantly being compared to my classmates. I always sucked at science-based subjects such as math and physics, whereas my close friends thrived in them. Add to that a bit of yelling from my mom if I didn't get a good grade and you get a combo of inferiority complex and a loss of self confidence. lol

[rockchick]

Great calm and soothing explanations. Tammy is lucky she’s had such a proactive mom who observed and got her help! Took me almost 43 yrs to figure all this stuff out by myself. Could have saved a lot of time and pain if someone (my parents) actually cared about me. They strongly favored my brother and it left me with some deep emotional scares. But moving forward!

[bighiu-tofanchris]

I was mistreated and emotionally abused as a child and now i feel inferior to other people even know i know my value. I just feel as though people will never see my worth no matter what i do.

[AmirGTR]

Wow. I'm tearing up man. Turns out I was almost there anyway, but this definitely validated me.
Jordan Peterson is toxic as fuck. This is what I needed all along.

[Paramitacdewi]

I’ve been to therapy for years for depression, perfectionism, anxiety, yet this is the term I feel sums every problem I have in my life. How can I not realize this sooner.

The first sentence struck me so deeply “Feeling like I’m never good enough despite my achievements” and constant comparison really ruins my life since I was still a kid. It robs my happiness, relationships, and even time, I’ve lived >10 years of my life not doing or pursuing goals that I want, but simply avoiding feeling inadequate, replaceable, and a loser in any community I’m in. Be it about education, career, physical attractiveness, popularity, and others — I am never satisfied. Makes me almost always unhappy.

The worst part is, I’m never pushed by anyone. It’s just me and my head.

Thank you so much for the video, it means a lot to know the specific problem I’m facing and making me feel understood

[iffatabbas]

Sometimes insensitive crass comments made by your own extended family can lead to life long inferiority complex especially if you happen to be sensitive. Your video was incredibly helpful. Thank you.

[beneditamontenegro]

1. Deal with emotional memories (effect bridge technique);
2. Drop the mime;
3. Get specific (What have u being feeling sad about?);
4. Dare to be different;
5.Oust the Utopian Assumptions