Is Forgiveness Possible?

When you've been betrayed, it can make you wonder: Is everything forgivable? Should we forgive everything, or are there just some things we can’t forgive? Part of the answer is found in this compelling story of loss, devastation and, ultimately, forgiveness.

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[iamarethaLynette]

This video is amongst the top 10! You explained how to deal with the continual losses. I am three months after disclosure and counting my losses is a painful thing. I am also counting my blessings and gains. I choose to heal. I will be victorious. I will do the work necessary for me to overcome. Thank you Affair recovery. You guys with your videos and programs have convinced me you care about the success of marriages. We are all here to help, to empower, to love and to walk with each other in this thing called life.

[blackiegohard]

Thank you for this message this morning, my heart and mind needed that afirmation during my present emotional state dealing with my spouses acting out I just discovered again.Through all the teachings, I have remained calm, focused, and managed my inner anger, pain, and personal feeling rather well during the confrentation. Bless you all out there and take it one day at a time. Peace be with you.

[Mxtraveler]

Again, it is up to the betrayed to get over it. I didn’t choose to be hurt but I’m paying for it.

[cynthiajones]

This is literally the best podcast I have ever heard and I have heard hundreds. And I finally understand this scripture that always had confused me.

[TheMassagequeen]

At what point does forgiveness turn into being a doormat for someone to walk on ? What about times that they continue to display behavior and may have relapsed?

[ChronicChristy]

It still is difficult to watch anniversary posts on facebook.

[georgehenry]

Thank you so much Rick! Forgiveness just as Christ forgave me!

[faronyoung]

Well wow. What an amazing explanation. Thank you so much for this perspective!

[PitbullRescuer]

I wanted to say thank you to AR. I’m 14 months into recovery of my spouses betrayal with a coworker. It’s been super rough as my mental state was destroyed when I found out. I haven’t been mad at her or her affair partner and I’m still trying to get past it. I do trust her again finally. I’d love to forget about it completely but I keep going back to that moment and it has been a rough 14 months.
We all appreciate your efforts and knowledge as this channel has helped me accept her again and rekindle old sparks we had

[johnny_corleone]

Looking for the right help in central vA. Anyone have any suggestions for a qualified therapists?

[lidiawroblewska]

What about to rebuild the trust. How you can forgive if you don’t know what and when happen the next time.

[wckdchaos]

To me, you cant chose to forgive someone. Theirs no button inside you can push. I believe forgiveness happens naturally as you heal. As long as you do the self work necessary, really look at yourself and really do research on emotions. Research resentment. Anger, sadness, love, figure out what those feelings really mean to yourself and how you observe others displaying those feelings you will be on a good path. When you're feeling sad or anger, really allow yourself to feel those feelings completely, be smart about it though figure out why you're feeling those feelings. Dont waste the moment. Forgiveness happens naturally cant just forgive, you end up just storing up emotions. Sorry for the long post. And probably misspellings.

[Dawn-tvbk]

Speaking of weddings, do you believe couples should "promise to forsake all others" as part of their wedding vows?

[kaitlyngray]

Hi. I have watched many of the videos and they have helped me tremendously. My question is regarding my spouse, the unfaithful. He is struggling with forgiving himself and it is causing him to go back into old habits and even some new ones. I tell him that I have forgiven him to reassure him, but is the rest up to him or is there more that I can do to help him?
Thank you

[gsincorp]

Seriously Brother??? I’ve been married to my wife for over 15 years and this lady has cheated on me over (literally) 10 times. The most recent infidelity taken place just 2 months ago. Not to mention the disappearing acts, horrendous lying (can look 👀 into my eyes without blinking an eye! much more to mention however, for the sake of brevity I’ll end it with this.. Goes to church, claims to be a Christian, lies to counselors, will not leave/separate from this (I can’t even call it a GOD ordained marriage, perhaps a manipulationship) union and so on.. How does one remain in this toxicity and forgive 7X 70??