5 Ways to Identify If You're In the Power Struggle Phase With An Avoidant Attachment Style!

In this video, I’m going to talk about a common question that arises in people who are having trouble in a relationship: Is It the Power Struggle Phase of the Relationship or Are They Just Not Interested?

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[creoagency]

Thais you mind read me everyday! whenever I am thinking of something, it shows up on my feed from PDS! haha. Thank you

[suryatapamukherjee]

1. Time period (after honeymoon phase)
2. Fighting more
3. Disconnection
4. Less emotional/physical intimacy
5. Seeking attachment/need fulfilment outside the relationship (could be in fantasy)
6. More comfortable, opening up more. High of honeymoon vs comfort of power struggle phase.

Time to express needs and establish boundaries.

[michirista]

? 20 years in the power struggle phase sweet mother of god I'm being ghosted for 2 months and I am exhausted 😂

[walexander]

Maybe it is the real love phase not a bad thing but a beautiful thing. When the person you love takes their love away and hides but then you wait and stick with them and be respectful and continue as best you can to keep things normal and out of nowhere they say they love you. It just makes you feel like nothing else comparable. Like they are the one

Because you have to realize people do that because they are coming from somewhere and if you love them you have to accept them

[tucky]

But if sometimes people are stuck in power struggle phase for years though, how to tell the difference between that and withdraw ?

[jflsdknf]

In my experience it is mostly the man's issue of resistance to acquiescing to the female. All the couples who've "made it" have something in common, the man has found a way to adapt to acquiescing to the wife that finally makes them both ok with the power in the relationship. Many men will never get there because they can't let go of the primal power struggle, ever since childhood struggling against their mom against control and perceiving little things as people trying to "tell them what to do"...men have this desire to rebel and be in control naturally ingrained and this is the power struggle and a huge reason why couples will not/cannot make it.

[Revolution-tlwo]

Christ. How has humanity even survived this long with all these relationship obstacles?

[shakeelahmed]

Right on time, thanks Thais ❤️ you're awesome

[roshalllambert]

Thais says please like, share and subscribe at the end of the video. Some people here thinking we already did it before you mentioned it.

[AIL-xgns]

Is there are reason why a relationship may enter the power struggle phase too early? Like 3/4 months in the relationship??? I'm an FA and I feel like my honey moon phase lasted like 2 months lol. Can that happen?

[hmanfilms]

Can you experience the power struggle phase in month 3 or 4 of a relationship lol?

I'm there now with the girl I'm seeing. She has started her cycles of withdraw/pursuit again, passive aggressive behaviors, avoiding conflicts, and building resentment and having it blow up to push me away.

I just let her go, but she comes back every time saying she wants to move forward. I'm just not sure how to handle this or approach conflict and communication with her, without her being super defensive and then blowing up and pushing me away. I don't know what to do and I'm conflicted if I should keep trying or just walk away.

Any advice would be helpful.

[j]

If it's not exclusive (just getting to know each other for 1 year) and they start seeing someone else exactly 1 year in, is that nromal in this power struggle phase? Could they just be testing the connection and seeing what else is out there, or just distracting with something more casual? Or is it the end of a situationship usually?

[victorizannasmr]

I guess I give up on having relationships. All this sounds terrrible.

[mspearl]

You kind of sound like that voice actress who does Louise from bobs burgers and Sarah Lynn from bojack

[anaflores]

Is the power struggle phase triggered by something specific? Like distance?

[catherinethompson]

Hi Thais!!! I think I’ve stumbled across some sufficient evidence in my life (drawing on my own relationships and those of friends and family) that avoidants seem to gravitate towards/prefer long distance relationships. Or at least they’re just much more tolerant of them than the other two styles. Does that seem plausible to you?

[klarawinterain]

Serious question: What does it mean when there is a power struggle right from the start? Love at first sight and resistance to it? I've experienced this and it can be so easily dismissed sometimes but it is still haunting. If I call it "haunting", I'm probably being avoidant about it... Idk, fix my life, Thais! 😑 Ps: This channel is a blessing!

[GMS]

You didn’t differentiate between power struggle of if they are just not interested …

[cameranserrano]

Completely shallow comment - you look very beautiful :)

[Katrica]

Could power struggle also mean he's going through mid-life crisis? And what timeframe do men typically go through that phase?