Surviving Betrayal | Roselyn Aker-Black | TEDxUStreetWomen

Surviving Betrayal: A 3 Step Guide on how to Heal from Ultimate Betrayals! Award winning Clinical Psychologist, Relationship Expert, and Media Personality, Dr. Roselyn Aker-Black provides a 3 step guide on how to mentally shift to begin your healing journal from any betrayal.Dr, Roz believes that everyone can have a healthy relationship if they are armed with the right tools to navigate through disappointments,betrayals, and trauma from their past. #DrRozEducates #DrRozInspires #DrRozMotivates Roselyn V. Aker- Black, Psy.D (affectionately known as Dr. Roz) is a native of Rome, Georgia currently residing in the Washington, DC metro. Dr. Roz received a B.A. in Psychology from Fisk University and completed a doctoral degree in clinical psychology at The American Schools of Professional Psychology at Argosy University.

[dianewilliams]

Forgiving the betrayal was easier than trying to process the grief of misplaced love 💔

[MegsCarpentry-lovedogs]

"1) no one owes you anything, be your own advocate to give yourself closure. 2) Its not all about you. Sometimes you are just a casualty of war to someones decision/behaviour.Look at the intention of why someone did what they did-reframe; look at every perspective of the situation to understand why they did what they did. 3)Forgiveness= not forgetting the people that have hurt us. Forgiveness is not about giving them a pass. Forgiveness is for you. Energy is never created or destroyed. Allowing that negative energy from the betrayal is an affront to your potential/goals and dreams. You are worth more than having anxiety, stress or depression because of what someone did to you. You cannot control anyone else's behaviours and you do not have to carry the burden of their behaviour; which is not fair at all to you today! You do not need permission from someone who has done you wrong to heal. You are not powerless. Looking for healing in the place that you have been hurt will never be beneficial for you. You are responsible for your healing. Be bold and brilliant. You are not your mistakes. You are amazing! You are powerful. You have everything in you that makes you who you are. You do not have to walk around in pain. You have tools now to help you."
Gosh! This was very reflective and empowering. I feel better in this moment because of it.Thank you! From Eastern Canada :)

[cryskrysl]

I might have to listen to this every morning to help get through my day. I'm hurting so much. Since I've been betrayed, I haven't been myself. I am not the confident person I was, and I no longer recognize myself.

[joyfulesther]

I got betrayed by someone I loved most…. But watching this really helped me and I hope I get over the hurts soon

[lovesingsus]

Thank you so much for sharing your courage and kindness, Dr Roz! I feel your warm love and deep respect for people and for God shining through your wise words. This video is a big help to me.

[ChillingwithDil]

When someone stabs you in the back and then apologizes, accept the apology, but don't give him the knife back to do it again.
I would tell you that betrayal contributes so much to personal growth on how we face and handle it.
Accept that it has little to do with you!

[texbredmatts]

I’ve been crying and dying for the last month. I NEEDED THIS. And more actually. I’m so broken. Thank u Dr Roz. This is powerful ! I may need to listen to it daily. 💕

[maishan]

wow this helps me a lot. I’ve been betrayed by some of the closest people in my life, I’ve realized that have caused me trust issues, traumas and negative emotions. Now I’m on my healing and self discovery journey ❤

[marissatan]

I am going through a painful episode in my 30 years of marriage. Youre so spot on! Sometimes you have to do the heavy lifting all your own, and you can do it! Tough. But possible.

[theedivineorator]

This is me, I’ve been ruminating in the betrayal. It’s all I think about but my mind is wired that finding closure for me is sorting out the facts and data. I try to find the truth. Im learning that even when you have truth sometimes knowing creates so much pain and void that finding closure after truth leads to another step. Im learning that letting go is a great step forward in moving on, forgiving, finding peace and starting over. Im just trying to get out of this bad nightmare, so I can no longer feel threatened and attacked. So I’m not replaying the same scenarios over and over trying to make it make sense. Im accepting that somethings will never make sense to us. Im an open modest woman. Im learning that people like me are rare and I can’t expect me from everyone around me. I’ve been stressed, depressed, having complex PTSD, anxiety yet I internalize my issues. Im not good at revealing all these things unless I feel safe to do so. It’s trauma. Conditioned trauma. Im healing but I come across situations people that trigger me and my reaction to the abuse betrayal trauma is not healthy. Internalizing is self punishment.

[ericsuiter]

Thank you, Ma'am.
I listened to your speech, then listened a second time very intently.
- Now to digest and practice and get right in my head.

[Bonner]

This brought tears to my eyes...Thank you. I want to heal🙏🏾

[ThePossumone]

Interesting and does contain some truths
I don't agree that "no one owes you anything " - particularly if you are in a covenant marriage relationship where you have made vows of fidelity
We can forgive them snd ourselves but let's be clear, people show their colours - be careful

[maddiesharon]

As a lady that has gone through some share of emotional and psychological abuse from a narcissist i have learnt to run away when I see any traits of dishonesty and selfishness but sometimes you can’t really know until it happens and I discovered a way to find out before I become a victim again, I was cheated on and betrayed by my partner and blamed myself who his promiscuous behavior until I hacked his device and read through his chat and social media account before I discovered I was being played by someone I gave my totality to, really we have to be wise and know who to give our undying love and respect to, I have more information in my comment section

[laurettawalker]

I loved the way you presented another way to get through betrayal. This is truly a real talk that I will share with others, and remember it for my self! Excellent job Dr. ROZ!! So proud of you Sistah!!

[annetatieno]

Right now I am going through a lot of pain. There is this friend of mine (that is what I thought) we sing together in church, she came to me to borrow some money because she wanted to start a business and she had a deficit in capital. A few days after, she started treating me different. So after like two months I asked for my money back (It's about eight months now). She never picks my calls and when I WhatsApp her, the only thing I get is blue ticks. The worst part is that she has started defaming me. It has reached a point I don't see the need of going to Church coz I expected the Church to be place where one is supposed to get a peace of mind but the opposite is true. The amount of hypocrisy and shamelessness is what irritates me the most.

[hienienguyen]

Ahh i wish i would have known this sooner. But at least now I know what to do to stop avoiding these past thoughts in my head. I had that people do things like this. It affects your whole entire mind and spirit. I always seen the good in people and that is what hurts the most.. Processing that is a tough pill for everyone that has to go through a breakup

[cynthiafortier]

Best talk I have ever, ever heard on healing!!!! Thank you so very much!!!

[adrianlchew]

I needed to hear this. It is still painful. But it does feel like I can start .. and know a way to heal now.

[ReelRoostTV]

This is SO Such an informed (and funny) talk. THANK YOU for saying these things, all of these things. So good!