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I have been betrayed and I am finding it difficult to get back to normal....nothing is normal anymore
dianahaas
So accurate. You can’t even trust yourself afterwards and you blame yourself for not having been able to detect it
Heyitsbonny
This trauma is insidious. First, you feel you can no longer trust anyone. Worse? You can't trust your ability to determine the character of anyone you meet. It never ends at this point.
tinawhite
My betrayals began in childhood, festered in my teens, was visited upon me repeatedly by those who were supposed to love me. The acts of betrayal continued into my 20s and wrecked the life I was fighting for. They sent me running half a continent away, only to marry a betrayer, who held me in a pattern of betrayal for over a decade. I trust no one. Barely myself. So, I have toxic independence and days of emotional black clouds that physically hurt. Even if/when I forgive, I cannot trust. I can't move into a new relationship because I can't trust. I am unloved, alone and everything I fought to become has faded into a fog.
Haikuhiaku
Spot on. Betrayal trauma is worst for me than grieving a death of someone.
IzabelaWaniek-ix
Yup. And they hide it with 'good' deeds.
creativeraven
The worst tower i had was a big wtf realising the betrayals came from everyone closest to me. The people I loved and trusted the most betrayed me and its realising the yrs of abuse sustained and finally wake up to that.
johnsonfamily
Sometimes you get hardened by distrust for a damned good reason.
Dischordalchorous
I have that, but never knew there was a name for it! Ten years ago at age 55 my husband had an inappropriate relationship with a 17 year old girl that went on for 2 years. During this time I knew something was happening, but I was told I was crazy, or I was imagining things. Even after I found all the emails and talked to her about it he still denies it. We've been apart 10 years and I'm still alone and hurting from it. Thank you for your videos, they are helping so much.
shellyhuff
I think I might be experiencing this. I've lost my ability to trust. I used to be so trusting and light-hearted. Thank you for explaining this so well.
jessicaberry
I was the youngest of my brothers and sisters and I sincerely believe that I was betrayed before I was even born
BobSmith-kdoc
I am that deer in the headlights as we speak. What do I do to move forward. All I know to do now is isolate and cut people off. I feel like I have a hyper critical eye of everyone now
andronicagonzales
I have Betrayal Trauma.
I am 54 yrs.old.
Ever-time my dad since I was a child he would stab me in the back Again and again and again and again.
I WOULD be Shocked!!!!
I went No Contact with him 2 years ago. I have a million stab wounds in the back from him. I am still Recovering from all the more!
debbiemckenna
Yep, I can say that I've experienced this with my ex narc. She blindsided me with ghosting me for TWO WEEKS without calling me. She only used one breadcrumb text that first week and nothing again after that. Did some detective work and found out she had been seeing a mutual co-worker of ours behind my back the entire relationship. People like her deserve to have some type of a criminal sentencing knowing she was duping and causing harm intentionally, I swear.
rubio
It’s hard to trust myself when I stayed for so long but I am working on understanding why I was trauma bonded and couldn’t set boundaries.
DomoRules
"What just happened here..." *insert deer in the headlights face*
That is exactly what it is.
le_th_
I am traumatised by my family it's horrific 😢
jeffvaljean
And when it's your parents, you live expecting betrayal from everyone, no matter how much they care for you. If your own mother can do it, anyone can.
LiminalDrag
You nailed it. So hard to move on even though I had great counseling. I am a buddy type of personality. I am a buddy without my buddy. These types of people really confurm the Bible on the fight between good and evil. Miss my buddy, that appears to have never been.
lindawheeler
Exactly. It took 60 years for me to figure out what was happening in my family. I feel so, so stupid. How could I not see? And now I realize how I've allowed myself to be duped many times in other ways, in love, financially and professionally. I need to learn to trust and stand up for myself, instead of folding to just keep peace.
