How to share an autism diagnosis with critical and invalidating people Part 3 #momonthespectrum

[lovelyxrosez]

This isn't exactly what was described in the video but this concept is very similar to how I told my mom that I think I could be on the spectrum. Instead of saying "Mom, I think I'm autistic" then telling her all the reasons, I told her the reasons FIRST before even mentioning that those reasons were signs of ASD. I told her all the problems and experiences that I gathered, then at the end, I said that a lot of them were autistic or ADHD experiences! If you want to tell your parents to a trusted person that you could be autistic or neurodivergent in general, I would try this method :)

[crystaldana]

This actually is familiar, you honestly have me thinking. I really appreciate these videos.

[OurSwiftieNation]

I always say I have autism and I consider it my superpower. Sometimes if I just say that I have autism people say “I’m sorry” and I don’t like when they say that because I don’t want people to feel bad for me because I don’t feel bad for myself and I want them to understand me

[Sean-mksg]

thank you so much i really needed the words for this, the thought process more so because this is very pertinent data at the moment, as my foster parents dont believe me

[crisbanta]

Thank you so much. Grappling with my best friend's reaction almost a year ago...we've been best friends for over sixty years...she kind of blew up at me . We've grown apart since then, alas, but maybe I just need to understand she isn't and in some ways, hasn't been good for me, and certainly about this, it's been very painful. I feel a lot of grief over losing our closeness, about not being able to share this life-changing insight into my life. But, so it goes. I appreciate you mentioning that there's an option to protect oneself by realizing this person just may not be safe, emotionally. Anyway, thanks. You feel like a friend to me, a voice of calm and sanity I can trust. Your videos have been a big part of my "coming out"and finally finally understanding myself, and. my adult son. Bless you.

[StarseedPhilautia]

That is very nice (helpful) thank you. I appreciate your bravery in public speaking.

[cowsonzambonis]

This is exactly what I did, and I think it helped my family process the truth in part, so when k told them about Autism it didn’t feel like as big of a jump.

[infidelcastor]

My man gets triggered by the word “autism” and think I just throw that word around all the time as an “excuse”. But it’s hard not to, because when I need to communicate some things, I’m often too tired and stressed to develop the conversation any more than three word sentences. In the end it’s hard to even say one word as a response.. I don’t think I can do this anymore, why do I have to be this tired all the time just for the sake of being in a relationship..

[TheCassierra]

This so extremely helpful! Thank you so much!

[sueannevangalen]

That is an excellent tip that I also use most of the time 👍

[josueacunauwu]

I did this when I thought I had ADHD (I had the symptoms but I felt like something was missing), but it didn't work. I finally managed to write a letter and give it to them, but they just tried to convice me that I'm not like that. Now that I think I'm autistic I know I won't have my parents support. I need help, but I won't get it

[Azzi]

I am blunt with using the word when sharing my diagnosis. How they take it, is down to them & determines the kind of person that they are 😂😂

[spooks]

Tbh we shouldnt have to jump around with definitions because someone else is confused or has discomfort in those terms

[desireepack]

Delayed processor sounds like I may not be able to think. Not sure if I want to use that

[GreenBlueWalkthrough]

Great tips which when I asked my physicist about me maybe being austic becuase my parents didn't want me to be labeled as a kid in the '00s dispite being dinosed at 4 years old and we forgot... She just said "Does it matter I'm already treating you for focus?" So yeah the main thing about autism is the syntumns not it directly.

[Sean-mksg]

they have another autistic son and im nothing like him, so i cat be, right?

[emg]

For me, I actually look autistic, so from my experience, people aren't exactly surprised by it. I think they generally assume it before I say anything.