What's Wrong With Alimony?

This week, The Swaddle team explores where our bias against women's right to alimony comes from.

Editor: Bavana Gone
Art Director: Neha Shekhawat
Presenter: Anahita Sachdev
Visual Researcher: Shambhvi Rao
Creative Director: Shrishti Malhotra
Executive Producer: Karla Bookman

[apple]

Women committing adultery shouldn't get alimony

[Anarchist_syndicalist]

Before video : against the alimony
After video : against the alimony

Edid ; I changed my mind i support alimony if the wife is not allowed to work outside or if the family is traditional conservatives who thinks it's a wife job to do households job not the husband.

[shrishtimalhotra]

So many of the issues come down to the way we've structured society, where households run on women's unpaid labour while ironically making them the dependent ones.

[SterlingReviewsAndReactions]

If she has every right to the money after the divorce, he should have every right to the benefits that she brought to the marriage after the divorce, "unpaid labor" if he still has to support her financially, she should still have to cook, clean and perform other duties for him.

[varsha]

I think "pre-nups" should be introduced in India also .
There are certain cases where the other partner ( not particularly women) deserves alimony .
Ex :- if i have a child then I want my kid to be taken care either by my husband or me and if my husband chooses to stay home and if we get separated then i would pay him alimony and vice versa
Demanding alimony in case of cheating is unfair . So in pre-nups we can mention on what conditions alimony should be given

[simplespeck]

This channel never disappoints in portraying men as monsters and women as saints.

Legally women are eligible for maintenance inspite of proven extra marital affair - Maintenance is a must unless proven to have participated in an affair multiple times as a repetitive behaviour.

[vijayalakshmiravishankar]

What a wonderful video, finally showing the rightful reasons why alimony should be paid. We have very few women in senior leadership roles in companies for the very reason that they quit post maternity and either find it difficult to get back (due to the break) or conform to desk jobs which may be convenient to do from home. Their sacrifice cannot be equated to money but alimony is a much necessary phenomenon for her to get back on her feet.

[kiran-thetributechannel]

How to make money for girls.

1.Marry a rich guy
2. Divorce
3.PROFIT

[shusrithsrikanth]

"women have every right to the money because its their unpaid tireless back breaking labour that enabled it in the first place"

this line really got me. great video!!

[Thetiruguy]

I am so proud that I did not pay a single penny to my ex wife .

[PrashantSingh-dhff]

If a wife cheats on husband. And husband is the provider. Then husband should get divorce on that ground. And as a compensation wife should pay whatever money his husband has spend on her till date.

[ipsitprabhu]

"you say you are independent but yet you want alimony?"
I think alimony is a very sensitive topic.
You think women deserve alimony cuz they "helped the man to achieve what he has achieved in life ".
But what if the guy was unhappy.
She was the one torturing him taking advantage of him cheating on him. And the man just wanted to leave her to live a happy life.
And he has to pay half his shit to the girl who did him nothing but bad?
No sir!
Better sign for a prenup guys. Protect yourself. Even though you love her. You need to acknowledge she's a human being and can change anytime.

[saltyuser_]

If the both parties are financially independent then I don't think that there's any need of alimony. And to those house wives who are forced/arranged by dowry then they deserve the alimony like the groom's family take everything of the bride's family on wedding day, of the bride asks for alimony then those keedes would blame the bride's family, only.

[zoyaansari]

Women:Equal rights Equal rights!!
Jugde : Divorce granted, no alimony go ur seperate

Wahmen:No wait, we didn't mean that kind of equality....

[abhishekjain]

"purely biased"
The point of view showed was good but one sided, and i don't think that it justified the video title, as these points were must to cover
• What if alimony receiving divorced women get married or is working then...

••there might be a situation of abstaining from doing work deliberately so that she can enjoy free money...

•••It also demotivates inner will to do work or remarriage, as they would not be entitled to free money....
Ps: I'm a genuine admirer of your work, and just giving my opinion ✌️

[Ummaruchan]

Justifying alimony with wives " unpaid labour" is very illogical
99% of times women marry men with high earnings, which means men is already successful pre-marriage. But after marriage his income drips for his expenses increase due to wives, home, rent and all. But with swaddle logic it should not have been like this. If men earnings increases because wives " unpaid labour " then it's not wives labour that helped but men hardwork he did pre marriage.
Alimony should be only granted when one spouse cheat on other spouses.
No othe cases crap like " women do more household work, women are forced blah blah blah. This are women choices, she chose to not work, she chose to be homemaker, she chose to be unemployed. Then she is not entitled to anything.

[amanv]

Hypocrisy at its peak. The woman takes care of the household when the man is doing full timr work - True. But the man is also taking care of the wife and her financial needs. Makes perfect sense if you're together. After a divorce however, the woman is not contributing to the man's life in any shape or form, why should the man be obligated to pay for her financial support? What of they were married only for two weeks and got a divorce? Should the man pay a lifelong alimony? Where do you draw the line?

A woman always chooses a partner who is taller than her, stronger than her, richer than her, smarter than her etc. So its abovious that the woman would be the one earning less or earning nothing, during the time of divorce. Women are at a clear disadvantages when it comes to survivability as they are more vulnerable and have to bear children. But this is not a man made phenomena, its nature. Women are the ones who keep crying for equality but when it comes to taking equal responsibilities they are suddenly the victims. Decide what you want first. In the modern world if a women is earning, doesn't matter what amount compared to the husband, she shouldn't be eligible for any alimony.

[cauliflowerhead]

Well most men in India marry down either financially, socially or even academically so that the differences between the partners can be leveraged to offer "security" in exchange of accepting the patrilineal joint family system where they get to live with their parents while the woman is torn apart from hers. They need to financially control their wives to keep her in that institution which unilaterally benefits them and puts ridiculous obstacles between women and their own mobility and prospects. She ends up wasting prime years of her life putting the man and his family's needs first while she could spend the same in self-interest and personal growth, while men aren't taught put wives first. As long as this is the case, women will qualify to recieve settlement disproportionately.

[ruchainamdar]

The video covers only one case in which woman only does household work while the husband is primary bread winner (rightfully cz they can't cover every case and what they showed in video also needed to be explained). In real life there can be multiple cases with their own nuances. So it can be right in some cases to give alimony to the wife while in some cases it may be not.
Hence we should remember that law and legal system, however gender neutral we try to make them, cannot give full justice to one and/or both sides in every case of divorce or marital matters like marital rape. It's social reforms that will change things.

[anupamaMall]

If men don't want to pay alimony then: Don't take dowry and divide the wedding expenses. Don't force your wife to make sacrifices in her career. Be an equal partner and parent who shares the household and childcare responsibilities 🤷‍♀️