A CRUCIAL Step In Becoming a 'Normal Eater' (that doesn't emotionally eat or need to restrict)

❤️ We help women move from binge eating, food obsession and yo-yo dieting to a 'normal' and healthy relationship with food. Without relying on rules, restrictions or willpower.

[mh-mobj]

Could you do a video on how to find happiness outside of food?? Any time I try to do anything outside of eating, I can only focus on eating and food and am so distracted that I can’t be present and be happy doing anything else. I think that may be a good topic!! You are amazing btw and have been instrumental in helping me start my recovery!!!

[bazinga]

I am a fat girl since I was born. Because of my father's job, we moved a lot around Turkey. I didn't realize the problem that it is so hard to express my feelings to others until I watch this video. I have never been a fit and healthy girl. Still whenever I feel emptiness inside or can't express my anger, fear, happiness I find myself in front of the refrigerator. My parents also didn't allow me to show my bad feelings. Whenever I try to express that I am angry, my father always says ''I am the only one in this house who can get angry.'' such a bullshit this sentence really effects my all relationships with my friends and boyfriend. People find me very easy going person and the reason behind this, I never show my real feelings not to lose them, not to make angry them. That's why I feel comfortable when I am eating because I feel more accepted. Thank you to raise my awareness and so happy that you overcame eating disorders. You are really helpful to people like me. I am sending you infinite thankfulness. And please excuse my English, I am not a native :')

[ym]

As a 61 year old woman who struggled with disordered eating in the early 1980's, I can tell you there is hope to not think of food other than eating for hunger. I became pregnant at 25 and ate to nourish my baby. I did not think of my weight or how much I was eating. I got through the emotion impact of eating and just enjoyed food and being healthy. I was worried about after the baby was born, but I never went back to disordered eating. I was not craving foods because I ate intuitively. I had already been through years of therapy so I did have a great foundation. I found out I loved to exercise. Now, I never did worry about food again, but I did at times have poor body image. I never restricted foods as a result, but I did work on that aspect. I do have a healthy relationship with healthy foods because I am older and want to be healthy, but I will eat a good junk food also. It's also how my body feels after I eat. I want to feel good!! It can be done!!! I have a very full life and I pray this is what others can accomplish!

[Vollkornmuffin]

Over the past 12 years my eating disorder has never gotten better, it just got different.
I thought "Well, at least I'm not weighing out my food anymore" when actually I was more restrictive than ever.
"This has gotten better" – while a hundred other aspects had gotten worse.

Your video is so precious and I will certainly get back to it. Thank you.

[ninahssayki]

Questions to pond over what food means to us: do you have these fundamental needs?
1. fun/joy in life
2. Confident and ability to communicate and exprese our feelings and being assertive
3. feel heard and understood
4. get adequate rest
5. Sensual pleasure : bath massage sunset smell long shower
6. Acceptance and a sense of belonging
7. Intellectually and creatively stimulated
8. Emotional warmth
9. Feeling cared for and loved
10. Sense of self
11. Sense of achievement: goals drive a sense of purpose

[meganann]

Bro brilliant. This is the same idea with any addiction. You change by putting more meaning into your life and finding purpose.

[gwrwiwq]

Eating disorders and especially overeating or binge eating are for me similar to substance addictions. But while for alcoholics the best solution is cold turkey and complete abstinence - this is not a solution to food addiction. No we have to do the utmost difficult thing - we have to become moderate. And it's insanely difficult, because you literally have to engage with your drug of choice everyday and thus are at risk everyday. I struggle with it a lot, and know, the solution is somewhere in emotional balance. But learning it throughout the eating journey, not an abstinence journey. Discipline does not seem to be an adequate solution, which is insanely frustrating to me.

[Isaiahchvs]

Wow. 10 succinct points that sobered me up completely. Low on so so many. Explains the last 35 years.. so much to think of here. This is probably the best and most concisely put (which I really appreciated) psychologically helpful videos that I’ve seen in a long long time. Thank you.

[hallief]

This hit home like crazy... I struggled with binge eating for many years, then anorexia for a few years, and finally thought I had found relief from all of it last year. Then I moved to another country, where I don't speak the language, just as you did, and my binge eating has come back in full swing. I know that I have many needs that aren't being met, but this opened my eyes up to just how many I am missing. Thank you for this! It always feels great to know that this is a common response and I'm not alone in it.

[shira]

I honestly don’t think I can ever be a “normal eater”. I had several eating disorders over the years and I tried so many things to fix my relationship with food. I went to a psychologist and used medication for depression. Stopped obsessively weighing myself and counting calories. Gave my self time to regain my sense of hunger and fullness. I’ve found people who truly care about me and love me. I do have an idea of a future I want for myself. But my old thoughts keep coming back. The patterns happen all over again and I keep going back and forth. I don’t know what to do anymore.

[adeliak]

Girl you're literally SO RIGHT. In the end it's almost never about the food. No matter what, sooner or later you've got to get shit done with your therapist. Can't escape from that. And it takes years.

Exited to get reassured that I'm totally cured tho

(y'all can too!❤)

[missfame]

As a refugee, I have the same experience. I moved all the time and food was the constant in my life, what brought me happiness.

[sarahlyon]

My family was always going on about food, health, dieting, exercise, etc.
I rebelled hard and put on about 50lbs after high school (maybe more since I wouldn't weigh myself at my heaviest). My journey has been trying to reconnect joy to being healthy because I was so miserable as a teen in that environment.

[melodyvecera]

I also feel environment plays a role, such as clutter, "organic" visuals like greenery, flowers, natural materials, sunlight (like your room in the background is very pleasing to the eye). You do not have to be wealthy to give you comfort in your environment. For me, it's hard to prepare healthy food in a messy kitchen. It's also easier to clean if I don't have so much stuff in the kitchen or everywhere. I'm not a minimalist, just trying to reduce to what I really need or enjoy seeing. Thank you for this video!

[lukaeya_]

im 15 and i have disordered eating. at the beginning of the quarantine i started eating out of boredom, later i started restricting because i was getting overweight, lost a lot of weight and now im binge eating because of stress, as a way to procrastinate and generally when i have strong emotions. we arent talking about binge eating enough and it makes me feel like my disorder isn't valid.. i wish i could just quit :(

[kristinheatherstarone]

I would love to achieve this but my depression and medication screws it up. I’m so happy for you. This is genuine recovery.

[prescillagarland]

As a single mother to a baby and 4 year old, I have literally used food for the last year to do this. Thank you for helping me to finally make sense of it all. I feel as though I am restricted on everything, so food has been my only outlet for a dopamine hit. I still don't know how I'm going to make these changes as I'm physically/mentally restricted but at least I'm aware. Feel like crying tbh.

[mommylonglegs]

I almost cried when it came to the rating part.. not a single one went over 5.

[heh]

I usually hate youtube videos about eating disorders because I just don’t identify with them and don’t feel like they apply to me. But I took away some things from this video that actually helped me. #1, hearing that someone else, not just me, has bounced between multiple types of EDs was incredibly validating. Not just that but the fact you also got over them gives me hope. #2, I realized that my ED started very very young when my parents began to homeschool me. I lost any contact with other kids my age for years and my parents… well they didn’t show up for me. They were very “hands-off” and borderline neglectful. I was completely, utterly alone for years. That mixed with comments on body/food I would receive over the years just reinforced a very twisted way of thinking about food. I just thought I was “broken” and that I’m doomed to die early because of my horrible eating patterns. But this makes me more hopeful.

[Karen_esque]

The algorithm strikes again, but this was a gift to be recommended. Everything you said in this video explained so many feelings I've struggled to articulate. <3