TNC227- Some narcissists think they own you. toxic people sometimes treat you like possessions

In episode 227 of THE NARCISSISTS' CODE I talk about why SOME NARCISSISTS THINK THEY OWN YOU. TOXIC PEOPLE SOMETIMES TREAT YOU LIKE POSSESSIONS.

After the love bombing stage ends the narcissist in your life tends to start to devalue you and treat you worse and worse. They will start to treat you like you belong to them and not necessarily want to be with you anymore but they don't want anyone else to have you. The ownership stage can lead to a lot of dangerous things so protect yourself.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware #narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( #NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the #Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

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[triplejmom]

When a narc sees you as an object your consent doesn’t matter to them. It’s irrelevant. Be careful & safe. A toy is a good way of putting how narcs see you. If a narc treats you & sees you like an object you leave & don’t look back or it’ll get bad!! I promise you!! It’ll get real bad. The stuff of nightmares.

[Nubie-ovst]

You described it perfectly, that is exactly how you feel When you’re caught in the cycle. Like a toy.

[bkjpgpn]

Yep, true story. Being with a narc is torture. Worst 5 years of my life

[hopedealer]

Believe me, your kids would MUCH rather be from a "broken" home, than be in a miserable BROKEN home! The best gift you can give your child, is to love their mother/father. If you're no longer together, show your children the respect and love, by showing the other parent respect! Think about how much you're teaching them. If you're not able to have mutual respect, than have a middle person that both parents trust to drop off and pick up. Think about our kids! THIS "GENERATION" Drives me nuts hearing those words, look at the role models! We have to become better, if we want better for our babies!
Be the change you want to see in this world we live in🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[buzzinbee]

FEAR does not LIVE HERE! NO DO OVERS HERE! I'M my Own PERSON, make my own DECISIONS 💯 percent!

[brandyschroeder]

I appreciate your videos. The info is gold. The truth is hard to hear but at least you're giving us knowledge. With your help I'm understanding my narcisstic family that I'm going no contact with. Happy Holidays

[samco]

Yes. This is like my ex - we weren’t even together very long. It started with the silent treatment when I said no to something…because he was being pushy.

Anyway, toward the end he escalated and tried to make me jealous, put down my work accomplishments and became competitive with me, ignored me for days and weeks on end - up and down. Sweet as pie to my face at times, but then others would ignore me and be out all night… so I left him.

He got aggressive verbally. But I didn’t respond.

Because I stopped responding he started showing up at all the events and cafes and bars I go to! He was never interested before. And he will act nice in front of people and then harass me when the friends aren’t looking!

Anyway, now he’s basically stalking me months later - and he doesn’t even want me. He just doesn’t want anyone else to want me. He’s started questioning me that I must be with another guy because I won’t go around to his house… I won’t go around to his house because this guy has physically hurt me before and tried to drug me when I was with him.

It’s confusing though because he can seem so nice and innocent and kind and charismatic - but there’s a dark side to him. He told me (before I left) that he almost killed someone before. I think it was an attempt to keep me stuck and not leave him.

[mimiville]

My exes who’ve been narcissists definitely acted like the owned me. Sometimes insecure ppl see this but stay bc they still feel wanted & think they can win over them if they just love harder. It’s a painful attempt that goes completely in vain bc they never had plans to ever love or value you. Great video! ❤️🌹

[amandaeye]

You can clothe an entire third world country with the red flags that they cover up with the love bombing. 🚩 You should do a video on why some narcissists don’t put any effort into the relationship and think you have to do all the work.

[Tiamia]

Thank you Lee, great analogy. I called the narc a tornado and put his name in my phone as a 🌪. He has a child now, is engaged and about to be married soon but still blows in and out. I finally changed my number best decision ever and it’s for me.

[hiddenidentity]

This series could honestly be a book. Vital truths, thank you for sharing your perspective

[LizEarthAngel]

Yep I have one of those 3 years latter he speaks to me like I’m still his, dangerous is an understatement

[Kemi]

Such a brilliant video. I was with my neglectful narcissist ex for 8 1/2 months and I thankfully ended it last week. I blocked him over everything so it’s been 9 days no contact. I couldn’t care less about him now since a huge weight has been lifted on my shoulder. No more sadness, anxiety and pain from that asshole no more. I’m truly looking forward to begin dating again once I’m fully healed, so I can end up with a very loving, supportive, attentive good man who has no personality disorder, is emotionally available and has a secure attachment style. I truly can’t wait, I am excited! Thank you Mental Healness for all the facts and strength you provide us narc victims & survivors, so that we can WIN!

[amazinglife]

100 and 50 FREAKING percent ACCURATE. Totally what he did and still tries to. I doesn't seem to end! As soon as you start to breathe easy, he's right back to manipulating his way back in. We have kids together so unfortunately I can't cut contact completely. He will spin the "I just want you to be happy" card, so I go make myself happy and then THERE HE IS. Go away already! I even told him that it's great that he found someone that he's compatible with and tried to encourage their still didn't work 🙄

[mssarah]

Thank you so much Lee. 100% Facts 🤦. Happy Holidays to you and your family 🎀❤️

[vibekes]

Peeking in to wish you and your family a merry Christmas 🎅☃️🎅
And a happy new 🥂

[nikicarrie]

My husband just called the police on me today for crying. He always makes me look stupid in front of everyone. Then he called the police. I cannot believe this. I’m devastated everything is in his name he wants to make me look crazy . He treats everybody else so good I’m heartbroken 💔

[dainese_]

Merry Christmas to you and your family!!!!💖💖💖💖🌲🌲🌲🌲

[dainese_]

Absolutely true as you say Lee.H ...thankkkk youuu....!!!!

[hopedealer]

PERFECT ANALOGY!! 💯💯💯
TOY STORY..BEST!!
MERRY CHRISTMAS TO YOU AND YOUR PRECIOUS FAMILY 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽