32 years old: I have NO friends - Is it Social Anxiety?

Even writing this out and posting it makes me feel quite anxious, but here goes nothing.

PS. Sorry for the big pause halfway through, trying to gather my thoughts haha. Thanks for watching.

[JoshHitti]

WOW. I'm absolutely blown away by how receptive, kind, and helpful all of you have been. To be completely honest, I stopped checking this video after a few days. I felt sort of lame for posting it, however, it's very evident that thousands of others relate to my struggles. I had no clue this many people would end up seeing it, let alone be so supportive about it.

There seems to be a very common theme with many questions and comments, so I'll make a video this week to update y'all. Cheers.

[goldentsar]

Having no friends is sometimes better than having the wrong friends.

[johnkellett]

If your wife is not only your only friend but your best friend your doing better than most....

[otaviooliveira]

Having no friends is hard. Loneliness hurts so bad. I bet there’s a lot of people out there taking selfies with their “friends”, but deep down they too feel lonely inside.

[Turnamonkey]

Bro you are an INSANELY good lookin dude. Smart, fit, articulate, well-mannered. Easily in the top 10th percentile. You just gotta believe in yourself bro. There’s hope out there. Whether it’s board game clubs, Facebook groups, or just meeting people at a cafe, you got this if you believe in yourself. Keep going at it bro, you got this

[anirudhsharma]

im 64..i have no freinds.. i can feel my age taking tool on my body.. i live lonely in a van, no wife, kids, relatives.. im a nomad.. but im happy

[encompassvideo]

Bro: At 30 I was the following: broke, jobless, friendless. At 55 I am married with two great kids, have plenty of resources and all sorts of friends. You life is just starting, but you must take it a step at a time. Have faith.

[devthedev]

This is relatable for many of us men! Your courage is admirable. You’re speaking for a lot of us.

[swingnamiss]

46, no friends. Family ignores me. When I was 30 I was finally diagnosed with Manic Depression/Bi-Polar, an affliction I battled since childhood. Yes, rare. Usually begins late teens into early 20's. But Dr.'s think severe head trauma at 9 months of age opened the door to childhood manic depression. Which made kids run because I was super weird. Spent first 30 years trying to find a reason and appease everyone. Found out, they don't care. If you have nothing more than friendship to offer someone, 99% of the time they move on. So it goes..."Friends" are people usually using you to benefit their life: job, status, drugs, alcohol, etc. Give me nature, my dog and cats. The rest is just static.

[FreedoPan]

People nowadays are so self-absorbed that real friendships are hard to develop. Everyone cares for him/herself.

[satinek]

The worst question at work is: „What did you do on the weekend?“ You realize at this moment that you once again spent your weekend alone. You end up making up a story, because who wants to share that?
Whereas the other guys tell you stories, like they met up with this person, went to this birthday, whatever normal guys with friends do... Does anybody else relate to this?

[Jpoorsis]

I've found "Hiking" [trips where you stay at least one night in nature] by far the best way of making genuine friends.

[GalaxyCat]

I'm 32 as well and this resonated with me hard. About a month ago I saw wedding photos on facebook of 2 former close friends that got married and I wasn't even invited. It fucked me up, but then I realized I hadn't even hung out or spoke to them since 2017. It made me realize that I don't reach out to people, which is an essential part of building friendships. I feel incapable of doing this and I always felt impostor syndrome like you've described so that makes it even harder. Idk what else to say, other than I feel the same and you're not alone.

[endoroboto]

The irony of all this is the more connected the world becomes the more isolated individuals also become.

[quietbelle]

This is actually a very comforting. Nobody talks about this like its a taboo. Thank you for making MANY of us feel not so alone.

[xikano]

This took balls man and I want to honor you for exposing your vulnerability. Truth is, your not alone. I've been thinking a lot about this myself. 🙏🏼

[SlabSweptClean]

Nah bro. You are a good dude. You’re helping people here, even if you can’t see it, you’re a friend to some people here.

[Sonia-jklf]

37, no husband, no friends, and no family around me. I've been living abroad for the past 12 years of my life with no friends at all. I choked up when you choked up.

[OriginalArqi]

one of the weirdest parts of being a live is having stuff like this going on and no one talking about it with you. we just kinda sit there and deal with it on our own.

[lazarusblackwell]

I try to make friends with people but the more time passes i feel that they dont really want real friends.

They start ignoring me and making excuses not to hang out.

People today want ass kissers and liars.

They dont want real friends.

I did have a bunch of friends when i was a teen but the older i get the harder it is to maintain connections with people.