How To Be Irresistible 101

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Disclosures:
*Everything in this video and all of my videos are strictly my opinions, which are based on the research I perform! I recommend doing your own research before making up your mind.

[auroraborealis]

I agree, not revealing too much about yourself and being mysterious has a charm of itself

[iamjoshdelacruz]

It's all about CONFIDENCE and how you carry yourself. Because "true confidence" is not "people will like me regardless" but "I’ll be fine if they don’t", and I think that is what Jia is doing.

[noahdrboss]

I don't think the goal should be to act like her, but rather to find the self-love that makes you act like her.

[jenniemandu]

She's the quietest but still gives the most powerful aura. Her personality is really great.

[gandhakshipatil]

Its not only her looks but their's something in her which makes people stop and stare her....Its her strong, feminine and confident aura

[oceansapphire]

I just also want to say it's VERY natural to feel scared or clingy when someone pulls away. Especially if you have trauma. So just a reminder to be kind to yourself and remember that you DO deserve a happy relationship where you're not chasing. 💙

[crystalmth]

Confidence.
She isn’t looking for validation. Or to please. Or to impress.
Something women have been taught is to make sure they dress and behave so that people will like them.
It’s hammered into us from a young age. Ofc it’s changing a bit now, but that teaching still exists. It leads to women always trying to make sure people are okay with them.
We don’t exist to make others happy or comfortable. When women understand that and develope their own sense of self, they win at life.

[hurmaes]

At the risk of sounding like I'm bragging, I just want to share the power of mystery. In college, I had the privilege of being a part of an exclusive group that were literally leagues above me in terms of everything--looks, finances, social status, etc. And yet, among all the girls in that group, I've been told that I was who the men were interested in. Why? Because apparently, I was quiet and mysterious.

Always value your privacy and never feel like you have to cater to someone else all the time. Remember that being friendly is different from being a doormat.

[rachelbegmusic]

Most women are not aware of their own habits .
How jia stood out among other women are in these steps:-
1. She didn't make first moves
2. She was honest . When asked in the 1st episode, whom she was attracted to . She said none and that she needs time .
3. Most men in the show thought jia was out of their level . But as men like to win, they wanted to try on Jia but also see if they can actually get her. If not, they will settle with the one in their league.

Thats why ladies if an ex dumped you or you realise that you're dating a dusty guy and you decide to breakup . Don't be sad. He will find a woman of his level and you're not one . Your guy is waiting for you to level up .
Jia knew this so she never chased any guy . Also she never showed/ had the fear on losing anyone .
4. Like all the other women, she was attractive too but she dressed classy everytime . She looked effortlessly classy and a little bit of sexiness. That's why she says " I'm cute & sexy" and her style reflects that.
5. She lets the man talk .
This is the best strategy or a way to see how the man eligible for a woman.
Women go on dates and talk alot, trying to show him that why he should date you . Thats a masculine trait.
In mother nature, you'll see the male species shows their abilities to attract the female . You can watch discovery channel for that.
6. She never talks about other men when she's with a particular man .
Instead her date would try hard to know whats in her mind but she never reveals that . That makes the boys chase her even more trying to win her over .
7. She tells her most suitable candidate that she likes him but she also has that aura that she has many men still available for her . And she doesn't do this desperately, falling on other men . She naturally attracts because she doesn't let any man, not even her suitable candidate to take the power.

In her interviews, she said that even kpop stars would ask her out, she has a good family, a mother, father and a brother . She's a dancer, has a youtube career, has hobbies like golf, painting .
In many of her Q&A videos, she advised girls to love themselves alot .
I think loving yourself is a process . And that process can build your confidence without you knowing.


I as a woman always fantasised about cinderella stories and how men would treat me to lavish lifestyle . But the question is why can't i treat myself the same lavish lifestyle. Thats self love .

I would always bring gifts to my family, do cute things for my ex, go out of my way to help friends and give them big gifts. I realised that i was a people pleaser .
Why did i never think that i want to be pleased to, surprised to .
Who is there to please me ? Let me see, only then ill reciprocate . Till then i can please myself .
When i shifted my energy to myself, i started attracting good things easily .

I started calculating how many hrs in a day i was giving to myself for GROWTH 📈?

Or was i giving my 24 hrs to gossip, other's drama and self loathing stories, binging, shopping mindlessly, watching YT & IG and making other's careers grow while mine being at 0, listening to breakup stories and dancing to songs about sex, fwb and cheaters, spending my time with loser friends and wondering how i blended well with my loser friends because i was one .

Jia is a self love queen.
And you can be one too .❤
All you need is awareness, the courage to take the first step and never to stop.

[katebasss]

Its so much easier to be confident when you're drop dead gorgeous.

And sure, looks aren't everything, but they shape how others have treated you throughout your life, so if most men chase you, you form the idea that you are the ONE who holds the cards, and test men more thoroughly than someone who doesn't look as good, bc their self-esteem never got to that point.

[wellthisisinteresting]

girl....if she was ugly, she would be considered delusional and weird. yes, her personality added to the appeal but it only works because she is beautiful.
EDIT: okay I got to the end of the video and I agree with you lol. confidence is everything

[LunaCE]

Step1 : Be pretty. You don't have to watch the whole series to understand. First time I saw her I could immediately tell what kind of vibe/aura she's going to be having.
If she ain't pretty, it won't have the same effect.

[gabriela]

Yeah but her confidence comes from the fact that she knows she is undeniably beautiful, and that's why there's always gonna be people interested in her so... I don't know. Sounds like a cycle of "being confident because ur attractive and being attractive because ur confident" that only pretty people can experience.

[sheesh...]

if she's not pretty will the guys stare at her like that though? lets not kid ourselves, physical beauty is the most important aspect that most ppl look for in a partner.

[serena]

the only reason she’s perceived as mysterious is cause she’s quiet and attractive. If she was quiet and ugly, she’d b called boring. Our perspective of somebody is largely based on their looks and our initial attraction to them or lack thereof. It’s pretty fucking unfortunate but that’s just life. No point sobbing over it cause somebody or another will always be younger, better looking, have more money, etc. just work on yourself🤷‍♀️

[uritje]

I'm not sure I agree with everything you're saying. I do agree about the part that being desperate isn't attractive but I do think it probably is better to communicate and show more of yourself for building a good foundation for a healthy relationship. I don't think the guys are truly attracted to her but more so to her image, a fantasy is more powerful than reality so when she does decide to show more of herself, chances are high they'd be disappointed and both parties would have invested a lot of energy in a relationship that would be doomed to begin with. Which would be so easily prevented with just communication. Also, she's very beautiful so a lot of people would be initially interested in her but that's not something that happens to everyone.

I'd say the best mindset to have is being confident in who you are and not being afraid to be vulnarable + being okay with not being everyone's cup of tea. You may not attract as many people but you would attract people who like you for you.

[ZDY]

My successful uncle (a mayor) always told me: "you can talk or be quiet, but never truly reveal what's in the box. Because the box may contain nothing, or it might contain gold. Keep them guessing and they'll always think about what kind of treasure lies within, rather than what you're missing"

[yxumi]

A big part of it was her beauty and status men are attracted to high value women if she was ugly they wouldn't even look at her.

[kevinlost]

Hints in the video:
Abundance mindset
Attract, never chase
Give only a bit about yourself now and then
Ruthless with standards
put yourself first because no one is gone do that for you

[ZeldasMask]

I also noticed park sejeong from the last season had this exact same mindset, she never chased and yet attracted nobody throughout the entire show, so I also wonder if ‘cultural attractiveness’ plays a role, (ie pale and cute etc) and also the fact Jia wore ‘brand clothing’ meant status and money. I think both play a role together in how so many men are attracted to her