Building a Life of Meaning (No Matter Your Vocation) + (w/ Lillian Fallon)

A question for anyone single and reading this YouTube description: what if you never get married?

Do those words send chills down your spine?

Lillian Fallon—Catholic writer, personal stylist, and fellow single—proposes that our worst fear is not to die alone. It’s to live a life without meaning. We crave the fulfillment that we anticipate from marriage—the fulfillment of our God-given need to love and be loved.

Today, Lillian gives us a game plan to build a life of meaning today; to use your talents today; to love today; and to not wait for the wedding bells to ring in the rest of your life.

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[SunBear]

I truly appreciate these videos on the single perspective. I too am single, in my 30’s, and working on my vocation. God has a plan for everyone, even for the single people, and I’m putting my trust in His plan for me. Many blessings to you and all!

[peyton]

This series is long overdue. Thank you, Ascension Presents, for recognizing the need for videos on the truth and beauty of singleness! Lillian - you're awesome!

[TheOshag]

"Sometimes we treat dating like the last plane out of Vietnam" - got a good laugh out of that one - thank you! Great video.

[jakubratajczak]

I've come to the place of accepting my loneliness and singleness. I simply do not understand nor have any experience with women. Finding someone... it did not work in the past and I guess it won't work anytime soon, since I'm not gathering any experience. Never been on a date, never kissed a girl, obviously I'm a virgin. But... I slowly came into this place of acceptment. I no longer have this desire ruling over me. To be honest, some new desires are growing in me - ever since I've come back to the Catholic Church, I want to take another step in my singleness. This step is obviously a priesthood. Honestly, it sounds rather good.

[metsanmet]

I don't mind being single, since i had lost the one and only love of my life 2 and a half yrs ago. When she died, a moment later, i recognize that i will never ever have another person in my life.
I was an atheist who hate priests and Church in general, she was a catholic who always tried to make God being present in my life. She made it in the end. After her death i was in such a pain and despair, feeling like i was hating God for making me wake up every single day without killing me in my sleep putting me out of my misery, then something unreal happend and by a certain point i just turn myself to God and can't leave Him. Now i'm just trying to understand what does He wants me to do with my life.

[hoakerhoaker]

Divorced, widowed, those with no family members, need to be addressed more in the Church. Ignoring us is a disservice, many are without connection outside of the Church.

This video is perfect timing. Wish the homilies were addressing this. During the exchange of the sign of peace notice how single people are waiting for families to finish offering peace and hugs to each other, and then not bother to acknowledge the single. I always look for those alone to acknowledge with the sign of peace because they look just as alone as I do.

Alone does not equal lonely. We have more time in prayer with God since we are alone.

[sittingduck]

As a 34 year old single man, I think this is just the video I needed to watch. Thanks Lillian.

[katherinebrumley]

Thank you. Being Single is terrifying after being married 25 years. I am older and never planned on being single, but here I am.

[sally.g.]

I am glad this video was made. I wish the church would recognise and give more guidance to single/ divorced/ widowed people.
And it's nice to see an ACTUAL single person talking about it! Makes me relate more...

[sally.g.]

I would love to see this kind of video made by an older single person on how he/she lived a meaningful life. Sharing the mistakes and giving advice

[ChipNov]

I think your work towards building a life of meaning will attract the type of man who is also building a life of meaning. You already know this, but keeping your focus on Christ and His plan for you is the foundation for whatever relationship will come into your life.
This is an excellent video!
Peace be with you.

[FoodPaparazzi]

I think you’re absolutely right! I don’t want my happiness to depend on a man. I want it to come from a stable relationship with God!

[fultoneth]

This is a topic that never been addressed before. But significant portion of faithful individuals, Inc myself, , are facing hard to win struggle . I think this material helps .
Thanks so much ❤️

[cgo]

I'm single, and I'd rather live one year in my old age with the right person, than 50 years with the wrong one.

[daviddabrowski]

Currently crossing this bridge. One thing that has helped me is the rule of St Benedict, “Ora et Labora”. When faced with the question of where is there meaning in my life? How can I serve God best? And not natural meaning like friends, family, hobbies etc but supernatural meaning. That answer has come in the form of work and prayer.

[Diva]

God's timing is perfect. If He wants a partner for you, he will bring about the circumstances that will bring that person to you. Often times He wants to mold us more first, and brings us those things a little later in life once we've been tempered by spiritual and mental growth through his guidence. Wait on the Lord. He knows your heart, he knows your desires. And if he wills it, you will have those things that are in your heart. He's working behind the scenes on your behalf. His time is not our time. Trust that He will provide the circumstances and the people who are best for you in the time that is best for you. Be patient and trust in the Lord.

[m]

Amen! As a single father who is going into RCIA I feel like singleness is going to be here for a while. This video is so good and empowering. It gets to what is really matters and the content is spoken to eloquently.

Thank you!

[uikmnhjme]

Super helpful even as someone who is called to marriage someday! We are still single now, so living a meaningful single life is what we are made to do

[charflorida]

What a great video! Thank you! This topic will help so many people! The single life was basically forced upon me. I was very happily married for 40 years, then my husband passed away. I miss him a lot. But I moved forward on my life without him. I live my passions, love life to the best of my ability alone, and thank God for the many blessings I do have every day. And I now choose to remain single as if it is a new phase of my life. I don't date, I don't want to date, but I have friends and family, and am super busy doing the things I enjoy, now enjoying retirement alone. I try to be kind and joyful to anyone I come in contact with each day, even at the grocery store.

[nickdagostino]

I prayed the novena and got an answer right after I finished it from God to switch back to my current career, very thankful for his intercession