Types of parenting styles #shorts #parenting #childhoodtrauma #gentleparenting

The four main parenting styles — permissive, authoritative, neglectful and authoritarian — used in child psychology today are based on the work of Diana Baumrind, a developmental psychologist, and Stanford researchers Eleanor Maccoby and John Martin.

Each parenting style has different effects on children's behavior and can be identified by certain characteristics, as well as degrees of responsiveness (the extent to which parents are warm and sensitive to their children's needs) and demandingness (the extent of control parents put on their children in an attempt to influence their behavior).

[lifeofnamz]

When I uploaded this on TikTok, an overwhelming amount of people resonated with numbers 1 and 4, and I want to say for those of you who don’t feel seen or heard growing up, that you’re important, your voice matters and I wish you so much love and healing. ❤️

[tailsmad]

My parents aren't neglectful. They're just very unaffectionate and completely careless towards how I feel. They do so make dinners, drop me off at school, etc. We just don't do love. We don't really talk, and the only aspect of my life they care about are my grades.

[FuckMuffin]

I was raised with 1, but we had NO boundaries whatsoever. Literally my parents said we had no right to privacy until we're 20

[florastewart]

In Walmart you will see the indifferent parent become an Authoritarian parent in a heartbeat. I was in a Walmart and you could hear the kid crying then a loud “whack” followed by “you little bastard, stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about”. Everyone walked over to this young looking mom yelling at a crying toddler.Then she got into a screaming match with two other women until the manager called the cops. The woman took off, but the cops caught her before she left the parking lot. I hope she got the help she needed to be a better parent and even more, that a good person has her kid.

[angstarr]

My mom was definitely a 2. I love her so much, but she was mainly depressed with other stuff going on that made her very afraid to impose. She was so scared of raising me wrong that she didn't raise me with the knowledge of how to care for myself. I was more motherly to her with always trying to be like 3 (but failing most of the time). However, I understand her perspective and I'm grateful for the love and gentleness that she was able to provide

[SRHisntSilent]

I'm seeing a lot of hate towards gentle parenting these days.
I think older generations are confusing it with permissiveness which isn't close to that

[kovyvuri]

sadly my sister is a mix of 1 and 4. i feel bad for her kids.

[hehaksk]

I have gentle parents, though they would show frustration when this happened to me whenni was younger, they weren't threatening and now I'm older and can make good decisions :)

[-FoxQueen-]

I guess the way I was raised falls under 3. I was raised by my grandparents so instead of living with newbie parents I lived with two experienced ones, and they did really well because I've turned out as a decent human being, I think for myself, and I'm not afraid to be open with my emotions because they were never invalidated. I just kinda got lucky.

3 is also the kind of parent I aim to be when I have kids.

[tonjax]

Number 4… I was allowed to do whatever I wanted and whenever I wanted bc it’s not like my parents cared enough to stop me or help me to make better decisions for my future. My friends thought it was cool that I was allowed to do whatever I wanted whenever I wanted but being enabled my whole life and not having the appropriate skills to make better decisions has impacted my adulthood in ways that I’m sure they didn’t know it would but still, they could’ve done something other than nothing. I used to listen to my friends talk about how cool it was and little did they know that I used to wish for the structure they had! Full on morning routines, bed at a certain time, encouraged to do, complete and hand in homework and even small things like sitting at the table to eat together… my friends had no clue how much I craved to have their lifestyle and upbringing over mine! Maybe I would’ve turned out a little better lol idk that’s just what I like to think tho 😅

[Macy-mtjs]

My parents they are scream and yell at me for the slightest mistakes. But they still feed me well, go to my sports games etc

[yippeee_mochii]

I was raised with the first one but for a short time and now I’m with the normal gentle parenting.

[boomgirlbucko]

My mom was a weird mix between permissive and authoritarian. Like, I was up at one AM and she was trying to convince me to go to bed and she was like "okay, ONE more movie, and then it's time for bed" but when we would get into arguments she would always barely listen to me and if my "tOnE" wasn't nice she would stop the argument and tell me to apologize. And she would always say "because I said so" and not give me a real answer. And she would always act like her answer was always right just cuz she's the adult

[molly_]

my grandmother brought my baby cousin (2 years) and she acted as the authoritative figure for my cousin. she is constantly screaming at her, pulling her clothes when she doesnt pay attention, and slaps her when she doesnt listen. but when i step in, i give her lots of attention but im strict with certain boundaries. my grandma doesnt understand why she prefers to be with me than her

[harefuturewife]

when i grow up, i want to be a gentle parent so my kids dont feel what i felt when i was younger :)

[casio]

Dad was authoritarian and mom was neglectful. They were also drunks but they hid it so i didnt realize until adulthood the severity of my siblings and Is abuse

[Caroline]

For me, it was a mix of gentle and authoritative parenting

[kathlenmedado]

I was raised by Authoritarian Parenting and Neglectful Parent but at the same time I have been raised by Gentle Parenting by one Teacher that became my Mom, and to the point that I call her "Mom" and she calls me "Nak" when in English it means "Child" then I call my own mother my "Biological Mother" when I am talking to my Mom❤

[swaggybesties]

I feel like my mom is a mix of 1, 2, and 3. In my childhood (10 and under)

she was most like the 1st one.

now I’m my teenage years, she’s more
2, and 3 👍

[richardgoranski]

honestly in my younger years i think my dad was 1 and my mom was 4. mom has gotten better tho after the divorce, and turned into a 3. im so grateful :)