The TRAD WIVES of TikTok

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[elleliterate]

Trapping a woman on a flight until she does what you want IS the plot of a horror movie, I think it’s called Red Eye, starring Rachel McAdams and Cillian Murphy

[rowenoake]

mozart's older sister was a child musical prodigy as well but her parents forced her to quit performing once she reached a "marriageable age", she taught piano until well after her husband's death AND she wrote her own compositions but none of them have survived; the only reason we even know she composed is because there are letters from her brother that praised her work

[whydoIneedahandleomg]

That one girl saying she's not a feminist because she can cook then whipping out boring ass pasta made me scream.

[schloupie]

my coworker told me about her experience as an unwilling tradwife. she got pregnant in high school and married immediately after graduation. he slowly turned abusive and controlling. he chose her outfit every day, was constantly pregnant, had no money or bank account of her own, and wasn't allowed to leave the house unless it was for the kids. Once he became physically abusive, she was able to get out and get a divorce and keep her kids thankfully. She's only 28.

[veemantis]

My grandparents were a "traditional" couple. Like, both of them were teenagers during the great depression. My grandfather was considered really progressive for his time, to the point where he lost most of his male friends because they saw him as being "too forgiving" with my grandmother. He almost got KICKED OUT of his bowling group in the 60's, because his teammates found out that he'd given my grandmother written permission to open a bank account. He had to write multiple notarized declarations of permission, and got repeated calls from the bank to make sure he really actually truly wanted to give his wife the legal ability to have her own money. The reason he pushed through? His mother was left destitute and penniless because her husband died of polio, and his youngest brother starved to death because she didn't have any legal right to her dead husband's savings. And she was one of the lucky ones, who had a son old enough to work. My grandfather was ostracized and ridiculed because he made sure his wife and children wouldn't be forced onto the streets to starve or freeze to death if he happened to die.

[Bingobanglebungle]

My grandma graduated highschool in the late 60s. She was planning to go to college, but then she met with her school guidance counselor. He told her that she wasn't smart enough for college, and her only hope was to get married to a man who could support her. So that's what she did. Then at 60 she finally decided to go to college. When she graduated she said she wished that old counselor was still alive so she could tell him to suck it. At her next high-school reunion she got to talking to some other women, and it turns out he had discouraged all the girls from going to school and told them all to be housewives.

[devilmaylaugh]

As an Iranian woman, I feel this with my entire existence. Well said. And yes, my father also attempted the murder of my mom because she wanted a divorce after decades of violence and abuse. She made sure my sister and I would never had to live like she did. Iranian women lost the rights they had gained one by one. Never ever give up fighting for your rights.

[tanklady]

I don't usually comment but this video resonates so much with me. I was raised conservative Christian, believed that marriage was what I needed in order to have a fulfilled life. My husband had promised to take care of me, support me financially, and love me forever. It took me 8 years to realize I had entrusted my entire life in the hands of a narcissist. Today I am 35, divorced, and living meagerly off spousal support as I try to start over. It feels like the last 10 years of my life were sucked away in a black hole. I have no financial assets, no savings, no university degree, no career prospects. Leaving him was the scariest thing I've ever done. When asked why I stayed so long in a marriage that was draining the life from me, the biggest factor was that I had no money of my own to support myself. I never realized how important my independence was until I gave it up willingly to live off the compassion of another person. There is nothing scarier than feeling trapped with someone that you are completely reliant on and having to chose to risk destitution and homelessness over staying in a relationship that's hurting you. Please please please make sure you can take care of yourself first and foremost.

[undead_bunnyz]

using your father to book a plane ticket next to a woman who has turned you down for 6 months, to essentially force interactions between you two onto her, is actually psychotic and terrifying. i’d think i was about to be murdered or am being stalked …

[ZĪNCĪTEE]

“honey wake up, the only thing keeping this marriage together just posted, pull out the popcorn.”

[L_moncello]

Yes, it is my job as the FEMALE of the house to COOK and CLEAN. because I live ALONE and my CATS can't wash their own DISHES

[noeleene]

"I think that feminism that only focuses on womens' agency to make decisions, and doesn't investigate the social pressures behind these decisions and consequences for these decisions, leaves women vulnerable to exploitation." That was so well-put, thank you for this video.

[psychopathic_pineapple]

“How many Einsteins have spent their lives washing dishes? How many Mozarts bent over stoves instead of pianos, because they had the misfortune of being born a woman?” Is actually such a FIRE line

[valentina.mys]

"Im not a feminist, I can cook!"
at your big age I would hope you would know how to

[HatpinPunk]

I told my 93 year old grandmother about the trad wife movement. She was shocked that young women romantizise the "old times". She laughed at the idea that stay at home wives have a relaxing, carefree life. She never worked less than her husband, but more, tending to the land their families survival depended on, doing repairs and handywork around the house, caring for her children, all that while also constantly being pregnant!

She's so happy that women today have other choices now, that she could raise her daughters differently than how she was raised. I grew up surrounded by strong, female rolemodels and will be forever thankful for that.

[girlfromthestars]

31:45 gives me genuine chills - like i can see her safety unraveling and the way the husband sits there silently and just watches her defend their marriage (really just him) knowing that the way hes trained her has paid off is terrifying. i always come back to this video and each time im totally locked in.

[SkullZzz-kpqt]

I’d rather be a ‘weird cat lady’ then get yelled at for making a rare steak instead of a medium.

[CosmiccNova]

I was yelled at when I was ten years old for not knowing how to crack an egg. A family member said I’ll never get a husband if I couldn’t do it. Now I’m an adult and the men I work with in food service can’t even clean a dish or mop the floor. I’m assuming they didn’t have anyone to yell at or demean them.

[mimixe]

"How many Einsteins have spent their lives washing dishes? How many Mozarts bent over stoves instead of pianos because they had the misfortune of being born a woman?" Hits especially hard when you know that Einstein's wife was also a scientist and that Mozart's sister also was a piano prodigy, even going as far as composing songs for her younger brother to learn the piano.

[murilooliveira]

“Feminism that only focuses on women’s agency to make decisions - and doesn’t investigate the social pressures behind these decisions and consequences for these decisions - leaves women vulnerable to exploitation.”

This whole video is so thoughtfully structured and I am really thankful for you taking the time and energy to make it.