The 3 Biggest Relationship Mistakes You MUST Avoid!

[LoveSamanthaLee]

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[cecilotto]

When a relationship feels like a job, i ain't got time, I'ma head on out .

[jefflittle]

My love language is letting me finish a sentence.

[michaelsorensen]

Looking for advice then:
1) religiously married, so can't walk away from the marriage. What "consequences" are there that aren't perceived by society as controlling, abusive, or manipulative?

2) expressing frustration to a chronically depressed, bipolar type ii, abuse survivor typically means she internalizes the most minute of criticisms as fodder to justify suicide. She's had 3 admitted attempts since we've been married. How can i offer criticism without putting her in the hospital again, especially since any gentle criticisms or suggestions tend to not produce results?

3) how do you manage only one party working on the relationship? I do stuff for her, she doesn't do stuff for me. I try to use words (one of her primary languages) and small thoughtful gifts (another of her primary languages), though my default is service (which I also tend to do plenty of). I'm the sole income earner, and due to her meds she sleeps in every day, so my day is to wake myself up, she asks me to bring her breakfast (which i do if I have time, then she goes back to sleep), get myself to work, come home to no chores done and no dinner most nights with the kids fighting and i get to fix it all, and then she asks me to do some more stuff like be the bad guy every night on getting my recalcitrant toddler to bed. If I ask for a thing to be done as a favor to me, there's like 50% chance it's even done, and THEN half the time it's "I had the kids do that". From my feelings, it's entirely unbalanced effort on the relationship, but have a hard time saying anything due to the bipolar/depression.

Thoughts?

[Line]

Good morning young lady sometimes it’s hard to walk away because you don’t want to be lonely so you go through a lot with that relationship and you just hang around and it’s really not healthy. God bless you be safe.❤

[stevenrod]

Probably one of the best advise I've herd yet. There alot of people who either don't know what it like to be treated with respect and have a standards to live by, once that has be violated you either have to speak up quickly and direct and clearly that if this happens again, its over with, better to be alone then in a hostile, disrespectful toxic person and relationship.

[henrikstenlund]

One must look into which he is going to step. Life may be a rough ride. Don't make it worse

[rkerkins]

To pretty to have all that makeup Queen. Js In a healthy relationship because we talk when needed and silent most of the time. Works like a charm

[KingSoraProductions]

That's why im single. Not tryna put in all that work when the communication and understanding is shit from the other person. Still looking for love but still very happy being single. Thank you Sam. You're doing good. Keep going ❤️👍🏽🍊

[larrypeeples-ykrg]

One big mistake they have made is blasphemy

[carltondixon]

True, lack of commitment both must work to keep the relationship solid & at least 20 more reasons why marriages don't work out

[catlmarc]

Taking advice from somebody who's divorced is like taking health advice from somebody who's 400 pounds

[the_meccaneer]

Just make sure your ‘boundary’ doesn’t extend to your partner’s body and time. That’s their boundary, not yours.

[antoinecoleman]

I just had this conversation with somebody else because I got fed up sick and tired lol

[TimLauderbaugh]

Yes, I have these problems. These are my take aways from my divorce that was the things I did wrong and need to work on. She is responsible for what she did but I'm responsible for not establishing clear boundaries and communicating that these things bother me until it got completely out of control and had to much resentment

[mca]

Men aren't taught to do ANY of these things. If you don't believe me then just observe older couples. Older men don't have or believe in boundaries, they complain about their marriages to their buddies and they refuse to resolve any issues they may have with their wife. They just say "well, it's cheaper to keep her" and ignore the problems.

[DEMETRIUSblaze]

#1, #2: problem with me, especially #2. I'm respectfully blunt to a fault, #3 is a challenge. I'm an analytical introvert type

[oracleKING]

Superficial ideals, low communication, no consistency in effort.

[devantreparks]

I’m sorry, I’m off topic here…but you do NOT need that makeup on your face sweetheart, please let that natural beauty of yours continue to shine! 🙏🏾

[elindio]

True words Sam . I agree with all 3 sis 😊