Dr. Chris Germer on Shame and Self-Compassion

[lovesingsus]

Wow, thank you so much. Shame is a major issue in my life and this video is an amazing help to me. I love the coin metaphor. It makes me see that when I can dare to really pay attention to inner shame with my whole self, it becomes a bridge to the self compassion for which I yearn, and which actually makes me rich, spiritually and psychologically.

[missme]

I'm glad you clipped this part, this was the most profound point in your lecture. I really need this and to reconnect with myself and the honest truth---I do want to be loved. I haven't admitted/acknowledged this in a long time. Thank you.

[TRCALB]

Chris. You absolutely Nail It! I think the basic human desire is to love and be loved. I have struggled with shame throughout this lifetime. This perspective is transformative! Thank You!

[mihaidumnicai]

I only feel this because I want to be loved.
Fascinating perspective.

[beitezhang]

This is beautiful, brought tears to my eyes and it’s so helpful for me as a trauma therapist

[JMTEE]

Wow! Thank you for sharing this beautiful and eye-opening video. That's such an incredible way to reframe shame - the other side of the 'I wish to be loved' coin. Thank you 🙏

[michaelbouck]

Preach! Thanks for sharing your passion and soul with us Chris

[facundogalante]

Thank you for Christopher for this insightful video, and for the exercise it includes. I am a gestalt therapist from Argentina on a path to keep enriching my views on human suffering, and I found your words very clear and spot on!

[dawnmacdonald]

Thank you for your teachings and perspectives on shame, Chris!

[dizzydino]

Wow, 🤩 ! Never heard anyone speak about shame so clearly !!!

[KayDee-bhpn]

Such a great explanationof how I've been feeling lately

[NotFoundIDontCare]

this was so good thank you so much this changed my life❤❤❤

i realize this is the root of so many of my problems. i turn to lust to try to receive love

[jameskelly]

I used to think self compassion was reeally powerful, but now I think the obsession with self compassion and compassionate "mind training" is actually an elaborate coping mechanism to try to meet one's need for compassion from others without taking the risk of being vulnerable with others. Like doing daily compassionate meditations is not something psychologically healthy people do or feel any need to do. Everyone needs to get enough genuine support from other people in their relationships so they won't have any need for self compassion meditations.

[heruka]

You really have figured it out, havent you 😅