What happens when you see the narcissist after no contact | Anoushka Marcin

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[martinheath]

After the narcissist has devalued, denigrated, dumped you, triumphed and found new supply, they couldn't care less about "no contact". Remember that

[SarahOstrin]

After the devaluation and no contact stage, they essentially want to befriend you, so that they can continue to obtain supply from you. Their goal is collecting people, sort of like collecting Pokemon cards.

[nickf]

After zero contact with my narcissist girlfriend (and I mean a classic narcissist), she sent me an email after 15 months. She used the word love, expressed some weird ideas, and then the punch line...she needed something from me and asked if I would be OK with that. What she got in return was nothing but silence. And thats the way it is. When you see the whole scenario A to Z it really falls into place, and there is no hope for any relationship with a person like this. It is sad, and wish I knew all this before I invested 5 years loving her. It was love down the drain.

[arwenhardy]

Hoping I'll never c the narcissist ever again!

[JimKJeffries]

Sex, services, or supply...that is all we were. Hold fast & chose love, grow & learn. Good luck on your adventures. Know your/you're love.

[rcfwood]

When you don't care anymore what they are thinking
Or what they are doing
And are too busy working on rebuilding your own life

[natureandphysics]

She was always trying to prove how in-control and director she is, and I was always on probation. She never promoted me to human being.

[md-mxzb]

Not when they know you KNOW who they are. Not when you disengage your energy. They leave forever 💝🎁

[Kubwayo]

Trust me they think they know me but they don't know me.

[KIMBASPIRITUALAWAKENING]

Oh he's going to be in for a jaw-dropping surprise I got a new car I paid cash for I've lost weight I've been working out I can't wait until the day I run into him. He took everything from me even my dignity and by the grace of God and videos like yours I started watching these after the breakup and had I known all this years ago, , can I could never understand I almost had to question myself is it me cuz I felt crazy like he got along with everybody except me and I get along with everyone I'm just an empath

[nilakshi_das]

Just go no contact with a narcissist for at least one week and boom they have a brand new supply

[captainbligh]

The replies for this video are as good as the video if not better. It amazes me how we all experienced exactly the same thing. It still unsettles me that the person of my perception is not the person of reality. Sometimes the memory plays games and the reality disappears for a while. It is why I keep coming back to these videos. It gives me strength.

[gregschlatter]

The hardest part is the Ego, with a capital E. I'm still only 3 months from being thrown away like trash, and I realize 💯 that it's all about MY EGO. Why do we all obsess about these awful people even long after we realize without a shadow of a doubt what they really are? EGO.
You got played. I got played. If we were 10 years old it would probably take less than a week to shrug someone off who treated us poorly, ESPECIALLY if we got away from them and didn't even see them anymore. I'm going to use the quote that my ex narc actually texted me the day after she discarded..."Get over yourself."
The funny thing is, she was right. I need to get over my own bruised ego. "Well, I'm 45 years old, I've been around long enough. How could super intelligent me let someone like this into my life? Etc, etc, etc"
Fool me once, shame on you.
She's only gonna get the "once" from me. She's a pathetic loser. The pain has all been my poor, bruised little Ego.

[pkp]

Best thing is to ignore, go no contact, grey rock, and/or give one word answers in a pleasant tone( if you have to deal with them). Basically, keeping as much physical AND/OR emotional distance from them as possible is the best thing. IF the supply you provided in the past was to them, they are more likely to get crazy when you refuse to give it to them. Lol!

[bradmcewen]

When actions saw you as invisible despite the deceptive regular request for your presence, return the favor. Reverse emotional indifference because its required in your evolved knowledge of a strange experience. The lust for control never ceases since they can't data mine your stability status. Give them nothing but a coincidental passing glimpse of unknown. The path of self care doesn't allow dark detours.

[fringbabyross]

Man....I don’t even have words. The experience is very true and very real. This was explained very well.

[nikiabutler]

I know for sure the narc’s reaction to me will be the second one. Based on my experience with this narcissist, I know they know it’s over and that there is absolutely no chance of getting back in. I do believe they have glimpses of good hearted people and all that you have taken during your time with them. I do believe they know the destruction and devastation they caused you and that you didn’t deserve it. I also believe the better of the person you are, the more it exposes that there’s something wrong with them. Because if it were not, they would be able to correct or change the behaviors that’s going to cause them to loose a perfectly good person. But due to the narcissism pushing truth and any form of accountability away, it’s like they are forced to make themselves hate you deeply and blame you for everything for eternity. And I believe when they know you are truly done and you think their the garbage and not yourself as they told you were, they are forced to hold their delusions and grandiose position that you were no good for them. Especially if they performed really really badly when you went no contact and you had to take extra precautionary measures against them. And I believe they do feel shamed but that the narcissism keeps those feelings at bay thus, no accountability....no shame/guilt and there the room is made for the justification of what they did to you and how they now view you. I believe the better you are to them, the worse it ends and the more they hate you. I feel this way based on my four decades of dealing with them. It seems like they know you were too good for them and your light irritates them and your knowledge threatens exposure. So for some of us....I think we are the number 2’s when it’s FINALLY finished especially when you left them. This is just my opinion based on my personal experiences. And like you said, it’s a good thing that means we’re finally done for good and have been released from their crazy web! Now what would be even better is that they would act as though we don’t exist. Meaning no more smearing, no more lying on us or gossiping about us. But it’s apart of their character so 50 yrs from now if they see you and they know they don’t stand a chance, they’ll be talking about you to other nursing home patients😆it never stops with them ever! Great message!

[lanadst]

They don’t miss you AT ALL
If they could miss you they have empathy therefore it’s not a narcissist

[patriciaalvarez]

Yes! Everything that she says here is true. It’s been 10 years since I broke free from my narcissistic ex boyfriend and to this day hey finds ways to contact me. Even if he is married now. Even if he lives in another country. Even if I blocked him from every social media an from my phone. It’s amazing how we always finds a way. I’m happy to say that I’m strong enough to keep him out of my life.

[ancamarr]

No responses and find excuses to walk away