How do you politely tell someone that they talk too much about themselves?

Or, do you tell them at all?

[SC-oiwp]

I know a lot of people like this and they never ask about me.

[jaysee]

I’ve followed you on here for years and I just wanted to say, I think you’re just brilliant! ❤

[MegisBayernvlogsOfficial]

I love the hair! Matches perfectly to your top

[Charlie_Loves]

I had a coworker who would routinely find me and eat up my 15 minute break with her banter.

[MsActor]

Some people are so “me me me me me me”. They need to be in full control of the conversation. Even if you try to cut it short and try to go home, they get aggressive and keep talking. They have a need to feel important and they see you as a good listener.

[youtubealiasoriginal]

Way too many people are like that, is so exhausting!😫

[claudiakitty]

The real question is how do you never age ❤

[Phoenix]

I don't think many people are aware of their patterns. A lot of people never self-reflect. A gentle and skillful redirection of the conversation is usually enough. I usually like to talk about ideas, and I've noticed, over the years, that it makes a lot of people uncomfortable, so I try to read people's reactions, and cut it short if the interest isn't there. Most people have that lizard brain going, and they want to talk about gossip, or sports, or the weather. That's ok from time to time, but can get a bit trite after awhile. I prefer to connect on a deeper level, but also recognize, many people aren't ready for that.

[FrostyDufour]

Talking about themselves too much is related to dominating a conversation, talking over people etc. You are so right, just talk about something else, redirect. Maybe it's just me, but some conversation hogs don't get, they do not pick up on any hints! Then I have to examine how important the friendship is to me if they aren't interested in me, frankly.
Love your videos, they're so helpful!

[newchapterasmr]

My coworker is like this and it is exasperating. And it’s not like I can cut her out because she is, well, my coworker

[misshair]

I have watched you for years now. A lot of what you describe is narcissism. In this particular instance, I had a former friend do the same thing you’re describing. It wasn’t even new stories she was telling, she was rehashing basically the same three stories over and over, and a time we got together. I was about her mom catering to her drug attic brother, and a few of the same stories about her dogs, repeat repeat repeat repeat. I got to the point I literally was getting headaches when I would hang around her. If I try to talk about myself, or that my life was boring or not worth talking about. I finally ended up breaking the friendship off. Some people just like self-awareness. I do miss her sometimes, because we both have the same hobby, that hardly anybody has that hobby. So it was nice to have somebody with the same hobby. But honestly, it got to the point that if I heard one more of the same old story about her mom babying her drug addict brother or the same old story about her dogs, I was literally going to scream. Even if she had new stories about her brother or her dogs, that might’ve been different. Although she still have been talking about herself, lol.

But you’re right, at some point if they just don’t understand, it’s best to just break off the friendship. And if you don’t necessarily want to totally break off the friendship, I would just stop communicating with them. If they text, just a one-word answer. If they send a message like “Hey how are you?” Reply “good” and nothing else. If they try to dig, either ignore or just say you’re really busy. And don’t respond with anything else. If you run into them at the store, say a quick hello, and that’s all. That way, you’re not really breaking off the friendship, so there’s no hard feelings. If they really try to dig even more, I would just say something like, “hey I’ve just been really busy, I’m sure you understand.” By saying I hope you understand, it kind of puts it on them. If they say anything else after that, they will kind of look like a jerk. Can always soften the blow by ending it with saying “Take care!!”…in a sincere and warm tone… From there on out, I think it’s perfectly fine to just ignore future texts, because they just won’t get it, it’s going to lead to a lot of drama…

[mairead-]

I thought you'd gone off this. My god your hair looks great. It's younger you're looking.

[strength]

I am going to see a friend I haven’t seen in a long time. She’ll be staying a while. I thought of a fun game since she talks A LOT! ( I do love her dearly though ) I am constantly “uh eh uh eh” lol 😂 So about the game, we are going to use a timer and ask each other questions and we get a certain amount of time to answer without interruption. We will learn a lot about each other.

[ChooseLoveToday]

I'm so glad you are still making videos - they're great. Love your hair.

[mirisparkleslikewhoa]

I realized that I do that sometimes. I saw the body language, and I was mortified. I learned then, so I stepped back. There are other people that distract themselves by listening to me talk about myself. That's a whole different story.

Thanks for your advice.

[AndraSterian]

Thank you! You're always here for us. I have always appreciated your videos!!! I hope you are well!

[gwendolynwehage]

People who talk too much are self-absorbed and believe everything they say is interesting and important. They will be very enraged when we do not show interest. I have known many of these people and they cannot be reasoned with.

[Tania-rgjp]

Send them the video “Hush, You talk to much! You never shut up!”

[mariispoonporra]

I miss my friend but they are so self centered right now that I can't stand to talk to them bc I'll be standing there listening to every single detail about their life and what they're going trough in a long monologue...

[MsActor]

I have another question related to this 🙋‍♀️ How do you tell someone the joke they made was not that funny?….. I can’t think of a way to politely say it, and I couldn’t be fake and phony and pretend to laugh. I smiled politely, however he kept trying to retell the joke to make me laugh. After awhile, he seemed to get a little bit annoyed at me for not laughing!

This person usually is a very naturally funny, charismatic person by nature, yet they can sometimes use humor to reflect a serious topic.The joke wasn’t rude or offensive, it was just so flat and slightly lame.