What Nice Guys dont understand

Do nice guys finish last

[salvatorevitale]

I've been saying for so long that if you want to succeed in this world you have to be selfish. It's true. You have to do what's best for you and what's in your best interest, it's the only way to get ahead in this world. And that applies to everything: Jobs, voting, dating, just your overall situation in life.

[ModernDatingMastery]

*When a guy is too focused on pleasing others, he can come across as lacking confidence.*

[mhaas]

Be a leader, be desisive, don't be afraid to disagree with her, don't be a doormat.

[steven]

Loving other people is considered horrible in this world. I refuse to play these games anymore. I’ll be myself and as loving as I want to be, nice guy stigma be damned.

[DariusExplains]

Nice Guy is usually code for not Good Looking enough. People keep making it about morality and behavior.

[maksfronczak]

I'm not really a nice guy. But I'm a passive guy... Gotta change

[bayani]

be assertive and be ready to have enemies or people opposing you if you genuinely want to be happy in this world

[GrayFur]

If you treat her as a responsible and independent human being and let her be herself she will go to clubs, hang out with guy friends wich will lead her to think you are a pushover and lose respect for you.
If you restrict her from doing what she wants, eventually she will feel she can't be herself in the relationship and leave
I think modern women are just fantastic

[jasherbelton]

I was trained from a young age to be a nice guy. Now I’m 18 years old
Trying to the best I can to break out of that crusted shell.

Tired of pleasing girls and others that could care less about me.

[Prime-rioe]

The first guy is literally me. I never seen someone word it so perfectly. I have such a hard time saying no.. Im working on it but man i need to learn to have discipline and put myself first. Thank you for this bro 🙏🏽

[xXnazmanXx]

I was like this for a long time until I clicked that I was just being passive. I started showing more confidence and woman were interested in me even if our values didn’t align, that’s the next issue I had. Which sounds like a “nice” issue to have until you realise how much time you waste in the end. You need to learn to set boundaries no matter who it is. And be firm on those boundaries.

[noshstradamus]

Being a nice person is the worse lesson my parents couldve taught me.

[tormeire]

my parents and locals taught me to be kind, turns out that will never find me love.

[tonynelson]

Remember being single is better than being lied to, being used, or traded for worst. Love Yourself never lose yourself as that best friend. Yes you should be confident, not a obnoxious person that thinks they're better than everyone else. Always be kind but don't be too kind because it will hurt yourself in the end.

[scottreedy]

The first nice guy example described me perfectly. I always wanted no trouble from anyone I didn’t wanna make anyone angry and I want everyone to like me. I got the opposite instead and because of that I ended up alone in life and I’m almost 30 and I’ve been rejected by a lot of women. In the past year since I quit my addiction, my confidence has went way up. I am now starting to set boundaries towards others. I’m now starting to believe that I can do things that previously I couldn’t. I’m no longer letting anyone walk all over me. I cut off some people from my wife because I noticed how toxic they were to me. I knew I deserved better. Anyways, thank you for the video. I hope your message will speak to a lot of people.

[oppenheimer]

As someone that read Dr. Glover’s “no more Mr nice guy” what I realized is that to men need to love themselves as who they are just as they are. If you’re a nice person, continue to be nice. A woman might like a “bad boy” but that is what she deems attractive. She’s just one woman that’s all it’s not a reflection of your capabilities. Most women I know who are in loving relationships are not with men who aren’t kind or aren’t nice. Only emotionally damaged woman seek men that are emotionally unavailable themselves. What Dr. Glover essentially says in his book, is that a nice guy is “codependent” meaning they put a girl on a pedestal and continually chase women even when being rejected. That is why, at the slightest moment that a woman doesn’t like you for who you are or stops trying to make the relationship work, you quickly change your attraction for her and go for someone that chooses you as you are. To men out there, there’s nothing wrong with being nice. A nice person is sociable and cares about others, but be direct in what you want. I genuinely believe that most nice men, aren’t nice because they want something in return, but because they’re genuinely nice. Lastly, the most important thing. “Nice guys” aren’t actually nice they label themselves as nice. That is, genuinely being nice is a good trait to have. As a guy that is around a lot of woman due to being in school, internship, and work (children’s center) that are all women dominated the most memorable woman I know are those that behave and do nice things for me. People really don’t realize just how great it feels for someone to just be nice and kind to others. It’s not the hot women, the over confident, or the women that is playful that is the most memorable, but the ones that are truly nice and do nice things for me that I remember the most. For example, I had a woman in my class give me an anime figure and another at my workplace bring a Starbucks drink unprompted. I’ll never forget these woman and would be with them romantically if they were available.

[DavidJackson-yd]

Don't worry cause even Tupac got nailed with that "Too Nice" BS.

[TheManWithoutAName]

You can still be nice, do not let your values be undermined. Guard them with a fist of iron.

[jamiewatts]

I'm more or less a 'nice guy' - and I've had countless intimate relationships with attractive and intelligent women. If a woman mocks or dismisses you for showing natural kindness and respect, she's probably toxic, shallow, and not worth your time in the first place. Yes, confidence is important, but some men don't understand the difference between being confident and behaving like an intense moron that makes women uncomfortable. It's about balance. If a woman isn't interested in you, respect her choice and move on.

[gammaarmy]

I respect everyone and treat them with dignity simply because you are a human being. That goes with the so-called "nice" guys because I value them as good human beings. From this, the only reason when my relationships go wrong is because of someone else, I am never guilty. I withdraw all of my kindness and empathy from someone when they start taking advantage of me or my close friends. I label them as permanent "criminals" which I have zero tolerance for and see them as literal snakes (not humans). In the case of being ignored, I don't consider it as "criminal" action since that individual has free will with who they want to be friends with. Forgiveness is not an option when it comes to betrayal or trying to gain an edge me, I have self-worth. Anyone who is uncomfortable with my lack of mercy is a red flag. You wouldn't have to stress about getting buried by my hatred if you just walked away or valued me as a human being like everyone else, unless you treat me like a sub-human slave. Trust me, most "snakes" regret what they did to me.