My Fiance wanted an open Relationship even though we were about to get married.

My Fiance wanted an open Relationship even though we were about to get married, i cancelled the wedding because of it. Now, everyone's curious and asking why. Should I tell them the truth?

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[mx]

"We live in a modern world"
"Dear god..."
"There's more"
"No..."

[stopcensoringmen]

There was a story the other day where the woman asked to cheat, I mean "open relationship" and the man just looked at her and asked, "who is he? the guy you want to sleep with?"
And she knew that he knew.

[lordhawkeye]

This story is several years old. OP did a micro update some months ago. She never did cheat. The couple who were in an open relationship tried to convince her into a threesome but she refused. She had found PT work at a place she enjoyed and was less stressful which helped. Overtime the trust was rebuilt. They got married, baught a fixer-upper house and she quit her job to focus on their two baby girls. Life was still stressful but now in a positive way. No mention was made of the original theripist who tried to ruin them.

[stopcensoringmen]

The fact that a licensed therapist did not immediately tell that crazy bihh to get her act together, but instead tried to manipulate the OP should be grounds for losing her license to practice.

[cliffordthefossilizeddog]

This is why communication is so important like 90% of the issues here could have been solved by communication

[BlueAversion]

Good on OP for immediately recognising his ex's reunion offer where he had full control as toxic. That would not have been a healthy situation for either of them.

[toxicman]

Immediately correct reaction.

“So would you be open to a one way open relationship”

“You’re absolutely free to pursue whoever you want now that you’re single”

[mmgod]

"last cry of a dying siren" that is absolute bars

[tumultoustortellini]

One running theme I've noticed on a lot of these stories, is how bad people can ruin the innocence of their betters, and drag them down to their level. If your gf has a toxic or gross friendgroup, don't put the ring on until you sort them out, or come to some sort of agreement.

[MizzShortai]

The hypocricy of her wanting an open marriage only for her because she "loves him too much" and would be "heartbroken" knowing he found other women attractive and one of them may steal him away is just astounding to as if it wouldnt be the same for him.? She didnt care about his feelings at all.

[OfficialMageHD]

I don't think they should have told the clinic they were also sending the letter to the APA. Instead they should have just told the APA that the clinic received the letter as well, but wasn't notified that the APA was receiving it too. That way it can be seen if the clinic itself is also an issue or not

[southronpapist]

People hate to hear it, but most therapists are actually trying to solve their own issues. So they're projecting much of their internal problems onto their patients, often to the negative results seen in this story.

[teddicusboozicus]

Would the therapist have made the open marriage suggestion if the body count situations were reversed?

Would she suggest the guy sleep around if the gal had a higher body count?

[Iboobs-fp]

"This is how it's gonna work. I'm gonna sleep with other men and you can't sleep with other women because it makes me feel sad 👉🏾👈🏾"

[noviibutnotactive]

Honestly, I think this is the only situation where I think making up is okay.
The Ex was being manipulated by someone with a psychology degree. I mean, thats some scary shit, and the fact there were other cases with the therapist further confirms that the ex wasn't looking for an excuse.
I mean, she was/is still in the wrong, but I think she is redeemable, though it would take time for healing and her showing through her actions that she is better.

[ScanTronIndustries]

OP must be a better person than I am because I would’ve walked out and never spoken to her again.

[moonlitspider]

She's a grown adult. I don't care how many times the 'therapist' brought up her being with other people or how much 'authority' she thought the 'therapist' had. She could have easily said 'No, that's not for me. What I actually came here to talk about was... blah blah". If she's so simplistically minded that she just lets anyone she feels has 'authority' talk her into this kind of thing, I'd leave. Why be with someone you would most likely have to worry about for the rest of your lives?

[TheKadanz]

I want to sleep around but I don't want you to sleep around because that would make me uncomfortable. That has to be the most detached, most wicked and twisted logic that you could possible come up with. She's essentially expecting him to be a cuck, that's what she wants. Wow lol

[cccc]

she's an adult. all she's doing is telling she's not an adult and is easily manipulated. she just changed the red flags.

[baboonman]

Imagine even considering asking your spouse something like this, I honestly couldnt think of anything more insulting to be asked by my SO. The fact that it was only open to her is just the cherry on the cake