5 Severe Types of Memory Loss Narcissistic Abuse Causes

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chapters
00:00 Introduction to Memory Loss from Narcissistic Abuse
00:52 Workshop Announcement
01:22 Procedural Memory Loss
03:15 Selective Memory Loss
05:14 Emotional Memory Loss
06:29 Short Term Memory Loss
07:49 Infantile Memory Loss
09:24 Conclusion and Healing

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[hettykoster]

Dear survivors, try to love yourself again ….. Self-compassion is the most importantly thing ❤

[ecysmith]

I am seventy years old. I have sisters who are, from two to 18 years older than me. My older siblings constantly found defects in me, and my beloved and sorely missed parents never heard about the abuse. They loved all their children unconditionally. These sisters had a way of hiding their abuse towards me. Even though decades have passed, I still feel strange because I don’t remember my life until I turned ten years old. I have a younger sister, and if we were together in pictures, I would remember her, I would remember how to place her in that moment of time, I would remember what was going on, but yet, NO MEMORY whatsoever of me. I always thought that was “normal”, yet a little strange. One of my sisters, four years older than me, still seems irritated that “I don’t remember anything” in my childhood. She remembers when she was three years old and believes I am faking forgetfulness. With your video, Danish, I finally find validation for my “normalcy”. Thank you, so kindly…

[lindamoore]

I have so little memory of anything in my life, not that the whole thing was bad... except a good portion of my long marriage... but I just have no one who shares the memories with me to jog my memory of them. However, I'm so happy that I started journaling the conflicts with my husband and could prove TO MYSELF that I was NOT losing my mind. Journaling has saved my sanity, that and having left my narc husband. Oh, the freedom and peace is undeniable and wonderful. It's never too late to leave. Thank you for your videos!

[demigaines]

Thank you So Very Much For Sharing This I Have Lost Myself Everything You Explained I'm Feeling This All.I Wake Up Severly Sad.My Life And Health Has Been Destroyed After Narcissistic Abuse. This Is Brutal Abuse.

[honeybadgerisme]

I lost 90% of childhood. I was only "conscious" during school. Where I mentally blocked any other thoughts except school and friends. When not in school-was unable to think of school. It was Many Years before being able to connect the whole thing. I weirdly remember pretty much everything now like it just happened-but still block the bad stuff. None of that is truly valuable. Most people could never handle the depth if ilk, let alone identify with you. Useless experiences-except here! Thanks Danish! For creating this community! It is a beautiful way to heal! Knowing you are not alone.❤

[lorettajoy]

Only a few years ago, i finally realized that more than early childhood memories were missing. Many grade school years and even much of high school are blank or contain only a few fragments.
This continued after high school, when i ended up with nex. Many years with him only contain scattered memories with definite amnesia.
In one home we lived, i thought the basement was only half the size i discovered it to be years later when looking at photos of a large room w/ fireplace and my toddler's toys down there! Something/s so bad happened, that the whole portion become blocked from memory.
In an apartment where we lived while remodeling a house, i don't remember daily events such as cooking, caring for my small children, or even that we had furniture. I later found photos and our apt was full of antiques.
Nearly every place we lived, sleeping in bed with nex is almost 100 percent missing! In some cases, i can't remember ever being in bed for years or even the bedrooms. This is because of severe abuse, specifically in bed.
Realizing all this made me feel like i had a "swiss cheese life" full of holes of missing time i didn't realize was missing but wanted back.
After doing lots of healing work, memories are gradually being recovered, some from my earliest childhood (about two years old). I'm grateful for every one of them, no matter what they contain because life isn't as full without its missing pieces.

[yly]

I'm struggling with all of these types of memory loss still. I've been away from my covert malignant narc parent for almost 2 years. Also, another memory loss I have been struggling with is, the ability to remember what you're studying in the present.
I tried studying, but I could barely remember anything, so I've had to put that on pause for a while longer. I desperately want to move on with my life, but I need to study to be able to have a career and a future. 😞 Hopefully I'll see an improvement here soon!
Narc abuse and it's effects are wicked!

[prueaddy-zr]

Answered why elementary school was SO painful. I suffered. I knew information, yet the stress of testing overwhelmed my already overwhelmed being by 2 raging narcissistic parents. I wanted to leave the planet so badly. Grateful today I stayed, I’m healing finally because of you and our understanding community to really let go and stop blaming me or them. Thank you!

[kerritrouble]

Danish, I have learned a lot from watching your videos and appreciate the fact that you have taken the time to help people like me, who have suffered narcissistic abuse.

[marierose]

Your memory will get so much better the longer you are out of the relationship. I cannot remember raising my kids in detail..just general stuff..I do know they were my world and still are, which makes the memory loss so confounding..I didn’t drink or do drugs..just revolved my whole life around family life. It should be them that gets cursed with no memories..since that were always absent and MIA.

[lauchlanguddy]

yes memory is now shocking. I particularly have difficulty recalling Nouns and names.

[honeybadgerisme]

Yes-idk if heavy beatings count as narcisitic abuse-but had a #2 accident in the bathtub around 2-3 years old. As memory goes, the water was already very cold and I had cried out to get out of the tub as I needed to "go". I could not yet get myself out of the tub.
My 1st stepdad came in eventually and started screaming at me, yanked me up by one arm and started beating me in the air. He specifically stated, "...look what you did! Now your mother has to clean that up!" and he slammed me down on the toilet. That was the end of the memory. I believe I lost cosciousness for the pain at that point.
I still struggle with constipation-soo many decades later! Not as much anymore, but anytime there is a disregularity to life it flares.

[keytowomanhood]

These side effects of being around these demons is neverending, God.

[Kristina-znfn]

Emotional memory loss is interesting.
*Prioritizing survival over joy*
This is so true. I had no capacity to do activities, that I would like to do. I am now slowly coming back to that. Slowly. It's like I have to consciously remind myself to do my hobbies. Instead of doing them automatically, because I FEEL like doing them, WANTING to do them, I have to tell myself, to do them.

*Unable to keep up with the present moment* is also a very good explanation for this mental state. I often have to do a little single task multiple times because I forget what I did right before and being unsure what to do next.

Again, a very good video Danish, thank you very much ❤🍀

[pratibhatiwari]

I have gone through it.. extremely painful experience

[samh.l]

Omg, I am going through many of these things now. Delayed Realization is EXACTLY the right words for so much.

[alastairjamesmainland]

This was a most enlightening listen Danish many thanks for sharing, I had spells of psychosis when young and the infantile memory loss has always been a puzzle, used to call it the missing jig saw pieces. I revisited a place where I had been as an infant and it amazed me what returned, just being there helped resurface and trigger old memories. Still grapple with short term memory loss but life is much better after delayed realisation and speaking with others who had come through the same. Beggars belief the damage that was done and the patterns and red flags that were clearly waving but not understood at the time.

[chrissiewilken]

Danish, thank you so very much for this video. I've just been diagnosed with loss of short term memory. I find the points that you mentioned very interesting, because I live in the moment! Thank you again! Greetings from South Africa! 🌹💖

[growingonthegriddle]

Alexa helps me remember things these days. I have no connections....