Divorce with a Narcissist

[ladiebugs]

Yep! I'm going through a divorce now and all he is worried about is money. Not custody, but only money. Sad.

[jackileensauler]

Absolutely true!
The whole time hes arguing with me he yells go ahead get a divorce I'll sign in a heartbeat.

When I did he wouldn't sign.
I had him removed by a restraining order and he was out...
In the state I'm in the courts recognize 2yr separation as legal means to push the divorce through without the signature of the person being filed against.
He kept calling me and FINDING me to yell at me how I will NEVER GET HIM OUT OF MY LIFE.
he even called my lawyer and threatened his life.
However, it worked and my lawyer gave me a HEADS UP when he was going to receive his papers.
The restraining order was renewed for a 2nd yr and the divorce papers came to him.
Well, he was at my door that evening restraining order or not.
THREATENING my life, threatening to kill my parents, threatening to kill anyone I date. He said he would kill me and them. All the neighbors heard.
I had plenty of witnesses.
Had to call my parents scared for them .
Now, about his IMAGE.
This man here is right.
He went around telling everyone HE filed for the divorce. He did this because I'M nuts.
And his friends believed him.
This bothered me at the time.
I'm not made of STONE.
This really irked me.
But my friends supported me.
And I have a strong persistence so I still wanted to achieve MY GOALS in life.
Keep yourself BUSY DOING for YOU.
EVENTUALLY all this whirlwind mess will be in the past.
You will rise above this person. Be strong dont keep looking back.
you will at times and that's normal.
But keep looking ahead.
Dont give him the MIND control that even though you are not with him hes THERE in your head.
Keep BUSY with YOUR life.
My X was the husband from hell.
He belittled, demeaned me and even slandered my ethnic background to make me feel my life was nothing.
I survived a narcissist who physically and mentally beat me down to the size of a piece of fuzz on the carpet.
Be strong, take hold of YOUR LIFE.
Think to yourself do you want to go on the rest of YOUR life with this person doing this to you.
Plan to get out.
Keep every move you are making to yourself. Dont tell him or his friends.
Get out and file...EXPECT RETALIATION!
BE PREPARED.
KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!


Thank goodness. Even though I had to wait, and it seemed like a lifetime, it was a way out.
And personally at that time he didnt know this.

[mrspendergraft]

My was quick and simple. I filed in January, he was served in March, and it was finalized by default cause he responded to nothing in June. I asked for nothing just to be rid of him. He tried to act all surprised when he received the final papers and asked what it meant and if he had to do anything. I told him it meant I’m free and it’s too late for you to do anything, best feeling EVER!!

[Sundaisfreelee]

This is my hell right now … 23 years and four kids … arrested for DV against me in 2014 and did anger classes and hoovered me back only to use revenge porn against me in 2019 and now it’s 2022 and divorce is worse because he has DV expunged and revenge porn is not illegal in my state … he knows he lost control so it’s hell and court won’t even force him to use talking parent app which would eliminate his control over communication (stone walling)…. He wants visitation after three years of discard of kids . Ridiculous the court says that he get another chance … luckily my children learned about NPD when I learned so they see his fake attempts and pathological need for control . They want to tell the judge exactly how and why they wish for NO CoNTACT and I couldn’t be more impressed with their strength .!

[cpyicrw]

Money and reputation is what it was about from the beginning so shall it be in the end. Great video

[truth]

I got divorced from a covert narcissist a year ago all she cared about was the money she kept on saying she doesn’t wanna be portrayed as the bad guy all I can say is my son stayed with me and I got the house thank God

[fionam]

Spot on! The ex keeps the divorce going but tells people it’s me 🤷‍♀️ He only wants to look good but behind the scenes he is anything but good

[kellyobrienthunderkenterpr]

It is amazing to me that my husband who wasn't invested in our marriage (was Tinder hookup invested) is completely invested in not getting divorced. He is living with his latest stranger due to default, she was the closest proximity and has nowhere else to go, but is ignoring all communication of getting this over. It is ridiculous.

[Stephanie-nbmp]

We had no kids. He refused every fair offer and dragged it out to mediation. He is the one that made it cost more. He was horrible. His behavior in no way helped his image but was all out spite and so unreasonable. I just wanted my half of our house. That was it and he didn’t think I deserved it. Even the mediator was like it doesn’t work that way and asking why are we here? She figured that out really quickly. Everyone (even his lawyer I heard) was just rolling their eyes and saying he had to be the most miserable person. And he is. I’m glad I hung in there after all the injustice I wasn’t letting him get away with that. In the end because of his antics it cost him more. Had he just been fair and gone with splitting house from the get go he would have gotten the same amount for the house and saved on the lawyer. So stupid.

[jacquelinefroehle]

Oh boy...they absolutely believe that when you buy a house for you self..
They own it. They own your human rights, your relationships. You future. They lie in court, they refuse to obey the court agreement, which they signed. Any way they can harm your life. Once he had his attorneys write a letter demanding I have the kids kindergarten graduation certificates....lol. which di not belong to me or him. He insisted he has degrees and I had all of his college graduation certificates. He had one degree and needed to pretend he had many degrees. Nut cases....this is playing a sick game. Do not marry one.

[dauglove]

Right on. They will then also use the kids for image and money control.

[nadinecolbath]

Yeah, I just found that out!!! Makes me really angry!!! WE HAVE NO CHILDREN, WHY SHOULD IT TAKE A LONG TIME???!!!! 🤬🤬

[tommyh]

I'm going through a divorce with a son. The first week from the beginning of stating divorce she was sleeping with her new BF. Three and half months later, she still living in my house while sleeping with her BF, and my insurance has been paying for her birth control pills and just last week my insurance paid for her STD test. I have offered a settlement over a month ago, and now they're looking into my retirement. In the meantime, she has only spent 5 Saturday, less than 5 hours at a time with my son. She definitely make time for herself and her BF through out the week and weekends. It's all good though, just means more time I get to spend with my son. It is sad when my son ask me if his mom is going to be home tonight. Please lord let this be over soon.

[Nini]

It’s almost impossible especially with children and property and believe it or not if you make more money or the person quits their job before hand for emotional or disability reasons you have to pay them alimony. It can get very dangerous .

[IlaEWilliams]

I ran away WITHOUT getting a divorce and that had NO CLUE where I was, talk about dumb....so last week I went back to where we use to live, knowing he was LONG gone...SURPRISE! He was there and had divorced me....PRAISE GOD!!! Gave me a copy, I was wondering HOW I would pay for it, etc...I been free since 2019, 4 years!!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🖤😭💥🔥💯

[peacefulself]

You are right!

Gesh! He is definitely concerned about what people will think of him.

[jujusoliel]

Ohhhh my God. This clip and These last 3 comments are sooo spot on to my Can’t make it up
I’m Wowed. Are they really made from the same cloth ??

[Rollergirl]

We had 99% of our divorce settlement agreements worked out. Literally two days before he was to sign he backed out for no reason at all and fired his attorneys. I believe he didn’t want to sign because most narcs hate to put any obligations in writing. Looks like we will be going to trial.

[latikabenz]

He left us (our son and me) with no house to stay at, and no money. I chose to leave like that and keep full custody of our boy to me. Sometimes you have to agree to unfairness for your and your family’s well-being.

[llmee]

So glad I didn’t marry my ex narc. Unfortunately wasted 10 years. He bought me a ring. However, I told him I wasn’t planning on marrying him. About to hit 5 months free of the narc!! We do have a child together. So, there’s been a lot of work. I’m still triggered by hearing his voice, receiving a text or seeing him. Reminds me of how bad I felt about myself while he lived in my home as well as how he treated my kids and I.