How To Stop Siblings From Fighting

When your children fight with each other, it can really drive you nuts, especially when you don't know how to stop it. In this video, me and Vicki will be talking about the rules your family needs to have and what to do to stop your children from fighting. Watch on to learn more based on our experience as both parents and professionals.

00:17 When kids are fighting with each other...
01:05 Rule #1 - Respect yourself and others
01:46 Rule #2 - Respect property
02:59 Rule #3 - Cooperate and Obey / Respect authority
05:15 What stage is your child in? (Consequences, communication, consultation)
07:20 It might not be the same for each child
09:32 Service among the children

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[Maryrosalia]

5 year old boy purposely will antagonize 8 year old (both boys) 8year old will yell, hit, slap, 5 year old. Talked to both kids. 5 year old says I annoy other sibling “because he hits me” and 8 year old says “I hit him because he makes me upset on purpose” it’s an extremely bad habit that is new but daily. I’m about to lose my mind.

[ksolorzano]

You have no idea how much your videos have helped me. I would be so lost on some of the parenting struggles but your videos have given me the positive direction we need. Thank you and God Bless you both for the work you do 🙏

[ginamcgrew]

Very helpful! Sibling struggles are a real challenge in our home right now. I will try these ideas, especially serving and honoring each other when tempers are not flaring👍

[Msibme]

I introduced a talking stick that ANYONE COULD USE if they wanted to be heard. There were rules to respect the stick, it was not a toy or used to hit and only the person with the stick could talk. We used this with neighbor kids also. Often times it was not about the toy or what the kids were fighting looked like they were fighting about. It was something else. I found this as a way to empower my kids to be heard. Everyone got their say. We all learned why some behaviors occurred. We also learned the consequences of the fighting or other results of particular behaviors. Kids were able to express the pain experienced.

[BetterDaze]

Love your channel! Mom of 3 girls here. Your channel has been a lifesaver!!

[sophiadavenport]

Siblings will argue with each other that's normal however parents should establish boundaries early on while children are young let your children know what you expect their behavior to be like. Healthy communication is the key to a good relationship.

[dijhaallen]

I recently found your channel and I am loving all of the content related to parenting and marriage. Thank you! I can't wait to start implementing what I'm learning here.

[chibywallah]

Always such wonderful advice! Thank you so much! ❤❤❤

[amandaarya]

My 4 year old was listening with me , around 8:35 she goes
Do Grown-Ups Has To Respect Kids Too .
Cause i always tell my kids that you guys has to respect each others.
P.S she is the youngest of three.

[Faisal-nxzy]

Why am i watching this without even being in a relationship 🤣🤣🤣

[annakopfer]

Dear Dr. Paul,
thank you so much for your help! I've heard about these respect rules in a previous video and I just couldn't really communicate this to my children. Could you please, please talk about explaining this "Respect", which the rules are about, to 3 and 5 year old kids? Would be so helpful for me!
Best wishes from Germany🤗

[christineherman]

Do you have a video around ideas for sibling acts of service? Really like this idea.

[natashadeguzman]

Dr. Paul,
I have a small pod of children for virtual learning in my home, I did this so my daughter and other children would not miss out on social emotional development by not being around their peers. I have an 8 year old female student who is very smart and spunky; the issue is that she antagonizes the other children if they don't do what she wants, she's not openly aggressive or rude because she knows that's not acceptable. I have tried to help her correct the behaviour but she denies it, she smiles and says she didn't say anything or do anything wrong. She understands kindness and consideration for others, she reads books about it and watches videos....just seems that she doesn't understand it in a real life situation and that it also must come from her. We have circle time to check in with each other and learn how each one is feeling and what we like or don't like. What I've gathered is that, she used to be in an environment where she probably learned some skills to help her survive. Such skills probably served her in the situation she used to be in (foster home) but are no longer serving her now. I've tried getting advise from others on how to approach this and most tell me that I shouldn't worry about it because that's the parent's responsibility. That doesn't sit well with me because she spends a lot of time with me and I feel that I SHOULD help her or at least, I want to. I know this is a very long post, I couldn't find any other way of explaining what's going on...there's so much more but help with this would be much appreciated. Thank you for your time.

[noelleelsbree]

My kids never fight. When there sleeping.... 😀

[mingle]

Dr. Paul, how do I explain respect to my four-year-old boy? If you already have a video on this, then please direct me. Thank you. Love your videos.

[alysonmaxwell]

Excellent instructional video. I will definitely go learn about the three stages because this seems complicated lol

[monicabarnard]

Thanks for the good advice. Could you please make a video about specific examples. We have a 14 yo and 6 yo that fights a lot.

[olgabushak]

Respect yourself and others.
Respect property. (Home, each others toys)
Cooporate and obey if its right and reasonable (parents, Eachother)

[fiyana]

Guys, I need your opinion. My sister is so possessive, protective and obsessive towards her things especially if it's new things like her ipad. She would yelled, got mad like crazy and curse me if I accidentally grazed her ipad with my finger. Sometimes, she even scold me for sitting near her ipad or iPhone as she thought that I would sit on top of it. But, she act all unapologetic when she drop my phone to the floor. We got into fight constantly because of this issue. Is normal for her to behave like this?

[LonjeMarie]

4:15 Nice video thank you very very much