Should I End My Engagement Because of This?

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[scottcped]

Ending an engagement is MUCH EASIER than a divorce. Trust me on that!

[zaraeebeautee]

We had to do six weeks of pre-marriage counseling in my church. We had to discuss finances, children, faith, we even had to discuss debt. I think most people spend more time planning the wedding than they do the marriage.

[Angela-necy]

If you need to call a radio show to ask "is this a red flag" then you already have your answer. Follow your gut. You clearly know the right answer.

[zgns]

Never marry someone while hoping they will change. Maya Angelou nailed it when she said "When People Show You Who They Are, Believe Them."

[kathleencooney]

Why do people spend so much time planning a wedding and not planning a marriage ?

[Paul-ourx]

"He's A Free Spirit!"
Set him free.

[petecheng]

I wouldn't recommend marriage at this time. They are already arguing about money before marriage, it will be a disaster.

[cabayern]

I had a partner who really wanted to buy a house. He was a free spirit who had no savings, worked minimally, refused to work more, and wanted everything high end. Dumped him hard and fast. Rather have a humble home than someone using me. She is being used.

[sunshinebaconandmusic]

It’s not just the debt. Both my husband and I had debt when first married, but we were both on the same page before saying “I do” and paid off every credit card and student debt our first two years of marriage.

[MRDDev]

Rule of thumb, do not marry anyone that according to you has red flags. People are not perfect and we can appreciate someone else's flaws, but a red flag is something that is already telling you to not go for it.

[handylady]

So, she spent her 20’s getting an education. He spent his 20’s traveling and partying. 🤔 Very different priorities.

[ktsterlin]

Say it with me kids: Have financial conversations BEFORE you think about getting engaged.

They aren’t on the same page, not even close. Dave, as always nails it on the head, the issue is reflected in the money. It’s not about the money.

[TDUB]

Tell him we'll get married as soon as your debt is gone.
PROBLEM SOLVED.

[RyanAnthonyDigitalMedia]

Girl holding giant red flag: “Is this a red flag?”

[brianmcg]

Just no. Don’t get married. He will destroy you financially.

[elianah]

“It’s very clear he expects me to put the 20% 🏃‍♀️

[chalktalkwithshari]

She will take on 100% of his debt, and he will walk away with 50% of her assets after the divorce. Don’t do it, Girl! Run!

[carson]

Ended a relationship similar to this but it was the lady who was the “free spirit”. Dodged a bullet and ended up marrying a dr. The other lady moved to LA and is still partying at 29.

[realinsurancegal]

Girl, just walk away. This is a long, drawn out lecture that can be summed up by saying you have different priorities and you should go your separate ways.

[tonifrancis]

Why do people always overlook the lies, or downplay the lies? It’s betrayal, it kills trust, it sets you up for a life of questioning.