The Dreaded Drama Triangle | Lucy Barnes | TEDxSurreyUniversitySalon

Are you a victim or a victor, the rescuer or the persecutor?
Watch as Lucy Barnes talks us through the dreaded drama triangle, questioning the role we take on in our relationships and teaching us how self-awareness and a changed mindset can help us to shape our future selves.

[kittendivine]

This affects 99% of people. It's so important. It deserves way more views!

[petervincent]

Good for her for owning her behaviour here, her honesty helped me to keep watching even though it's uncomfortable viewing.

[benh]

I've never felt so attacked and empowered in my life

[mellowd]

I’ve understood this concept since I’ve been young and tried to explain to to so many people I’ve never been able to frame it like this. This speech is going to change my life I literally just stopped weeping I thought no one else got it I feel so not crazy right now

[utubenick]

The Drama Triangle is one of the useful theories from the Transactional Analysis canon. Would be good if this talk referenced this clearly so people can find out more by going to the original sources.

[RarelyAChump]

This is 80% amazing. Encouraging people to psychoanalyze people who feel that they are victims is not ever going to produce anything positive, however, unless they are already in a mindset where they are open to receiving that feedback.

[luella_OK]

Wow, what a brave and honest talk. Brilliant.

[aprilloft]

Excellent talk, thanks for this great summary of a very valuable interpersonal tool. I'm a therapist and appreciate having such a talk to refer my clients to check out.

[missjenn]

"I'm feeling really insecure, please reassure me" Although this is obviously better than manipulating, I am still unsure about asking for someone to reassure me just because they are going on a night out. This would definitely not work on someone with avoidant attachment.

[ScrivenerofDoom]

Great job, Lucy. Your personal vulnerability made this much more effective.

[raenbow]

Praise the healing power if truth!! Your beautiful honest is vital to this and I am so greatful! 👏 🙌 👍

[janeenmckenzie]

Congratulations to a brave young woman.

[christinebessiere]

I am surprised that Eric Berne and Transactional analysis has not been mentioned nor Stephen Karpman who worked with Him on researches and created the Dramatic triangle, well known as the Karpman’s triangle. Years of research not even mentioned and acknowledged. Very choked.

[sofiesweden]

Best explanation of the drama triangle I've watched so far. Thank you Coralina! 🙏💙

[fyrianfilms]

Great talk! I wonder if Lucy could post the recommendations on the books and podcasts, please.

[amandakymweger]

learnt this the hard way, figured it out eventually, eloquently done Didnt know these terms concept existed until tonite.

[jothriny]

you were great at the speech...so confident..really admirable..:)

[pconhispc]

If only most people could reflect like this. We wouldn’t be in the mess we’re in

[kate_londonblogger]

This video is worth watching. There's a lot of people like this surrounding us, or sometimes we acted like this as well. 😅

[markferdinands]

Lucy asked the question 'What is the biggest cause of addiction globally'? and I don't believe she actually answered it and/or I missed it/did not understand.
Anyone know the answer?