What is genderqueer?

In this video I explain what it means to be genderqueer as I share my experience of having a nonbinary gender identity for the first time.

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[kkmesquita]

A while ago I left a very mean comment on one of your social media outlets, mostly because I was uncomfortable with myself and felt like I just needed to lash out on anybody. I realize now that I was a complete moron, mainly evil and absolutely ridiculous. I don't even know you and I had no right to offend you for nothing. You seem like an amazing human being and you should be happy and proud of who you are and how you live your life. I don't know if I can apologize enough, but I'm truly sorry for being such a stupid, close minded asshole at the time. I sincerely admire you. Keep up the great work and take care!

[HarperBloom]

" i just am" . we should all just be. thanks

[pokeygumboovo]

I've always loved typically male stuff. Baggy shirts, jeans, sneakers. I wouldn't wear dresses, skirts, or anything girly. And kinda like with you, I cut my hair off and loved how I looked. But I still like feeling feminine. I like both. I feel both. I am genderqueer.

[NotABushFan]

I understand as a male wanted to have breasts and I do not what to be a female. About a year ago, I had long hair and was called female names. Life is not binary as we are one or the other. That works great in computers, but not in life. I have yet to come out to my family, they have known me for 73 years now. So as a senior and now I want to have boobs might be odd. Thanks, seeing theta I am a little late., still thanks

[ShadowCoH]

You articulated so well what I could not. Thank you so much. 

[mac]

This video helped me tons. When I cut my hair short a year ago I felt amazing because I finally had the androgynous style I always wanted. I remember when there was a sub in class I would play this game where I would see what the sub would call me, he, or she. I was really sad when I was called she because I knew that assosiates with being a girl and I didnt want that. When I was called he though, I felt proud, but it still didnt feel right. I felt embarresed oddly enough. I wanted the sub to know I was a girl, but I didnt...I feel like the term genderqueer finally sits right. I just wanna be as happy as I can and just live life without gender getting in the way ya know?

[kerimeyer]

As a supporter and as a mother of a daughter who is going through what you just explained at age 11.5 I THANK This video has helped me understand a lot more of what she is unable to voice. I cannot wait to have her watch this video bc I truly believe if will help her tremendously!!!

[Faerie_Kim]

I'm loving how passionate and confident you are. I'm genderqueer too and too often I feel miserable, confused and not very confident. But I'm learning to be me and it's slowly getting better.

But I needed to hear a strong, confident voice fighting for my corner and expressing similar thoughts and feelings to the ones I have so thank you. You're great and I subscribed :-D

[shanew]

I dont like the way we view genders. I also hate gender pronouns. Schools/parents etc dont teach us anything out of the gender binary, school uniforms force girls into skirts and boys into pants, and theres never a "other" option when asking for gender. People tell me that I'm obviously a girl because I like to wear dresses but I dont think girls and boys are inherently different and I dont think Im either one.  I think you are a very cool cat and this is a very important video :)

[liorc.]

That's exactly it. People think you're lost while you so happy in your way...

[Darnbannanas]

This is exactly what I needed to hear.... Thank you much for this:)

[Sapphire]

Amen. This many years down the road and this argument still holds up. Thank you.

[ConswaMcGaga]

Gender identity is different from gender expression. I feel like your video doesn't really address that.

[Abyssal]

I am genetically a girl, but I was never completely one. I used to wear dresses when I was little, but in the past few years I haven't worn a single dress, skirt, or anything, just jeans and baggy shirts and sweatshirts. I have a feminine side, but it isn't expressed through my clothes usually, and I am usually in a state of being neither female or male, nonbinary.

[studentdrake]

"im ok with me" good for you.

that's the problem with society, the majority of us hate ourselves. people like you are the victims of our self hate.

that's wrong we need to address our personal issues.

[kaitlynboss]

When you were talking about how when you cut your hair and you kept getting called a man and how it made you feel bad it was so hard to wrap my mind around because I'm a trans man and I wish that it was as simple as cutting my hair for people to see me as masculine. In the trans community sometimes we hurt our siblings because what is painful to them would be soothing to us. I had to take a step back and remind myself that I need to stop being so selfish.

[AllieBorse]

I've recently been questioning some things about myself, and its pretty much peaked lately with how I feel my gender is. I recently had a think to myself with how I identify when I eventually just told myself that, down to a t, I don't really identify with EITHER male or female. I realised my problem was that I didn't like what being born male meant - that I was supposed to look and do things like this rather than what I wanted. I like a lot of stereotypically male things, but I want to be more feminine. I don't mind being perceived as male, but I don't want to prohibited from presenting as femme. I've found that I keep floating around with identifying as everything from neutral and agender, to simply femme, and even newer ways of saying I'm only relatively male and honestly, I think its better that I can't pinpoint myself.

[visas_y_viajes]

the fact of cutting the hair hold so many of us on the same question when we are a non-conforming. I've been dressing like a boy until I was 22YO, excepting in the school because of the uniform) then I meet a sociopath (I didn't have idea what it was about) and been in a relationship with him for almost 7 years. Changed my mind, my way to dress, I lost my identity and my life. Now, after 9 years without him I'm dressing like I want again. It takes a while, but I did it. Now I know I'm non-conforming... Genderqueer

[Kk_]

I know this was posted 7 years ago, but you basically just said everything I feel. I like some masc things but I like some fem things too. However I don't consider myself a boy or girl, I just feel like I exist, you know. It's so refreshing to hear that I'm not the only one who feels this way. So thanks for making this video, it means a lot ❤

[eclecticminds]

I had a similar experience but just the opposite (I'm male - sex) but if someone asked me what I associate as, a male or female, I would have a very tough time answering that as I definitely know I'm not a female but at the same time, the only reason I identify in public as a male is because I was assigned that at birth.

Personally, my gender identity is about 50% androgynous or agender, 25% masculine and 25% feminine. The masculine/feminine aspects of myself are mainly appearance (On masculine days, I put my hair short and tend to wear less jewelry. On feminine days, I love to put on as much jewelry as I own, and put my hair down. I also noticed a difference in how I walk depending on what day I'm having).

Though I've been pretty open to myself these past few years, I've only very recently accepted that I may have a gender that doesn't exactly match my sex.

And beginning the process of living more androgynously was a very difficult one as I felt constant pressure from my religious family to be masculine. I was expected to like sports, cut wood, pull heavy sleighs and carts, have short hair and be sexual. Well, I was none of the above, and acting how I wanted was brought with incredible criticism and no support whatsoever. 

It didn't help that I'm gay on top of that. Oh, and asexual XD

Just another thing to add to the list: agender/gender fluid.