“It Ends With Us” Is Emotional P*rn for Women | Ep 1054

"It Ends with Us" by Colleen Hoover is back in the mix again as her hit book makes its film debut, but is it just emotional porn for women? Today, we dive into why this book’s explicit content might be more harmful than helpful, especially for Christian female readers. We also explore the recent feature in The Atlantic where the author compares Allie to Phyllis Schlafly — is she correct? Next, we take a closer look at the firing of ESPN host Sam Ponder for her bold defense of women's sports and discuss why it’s essential to stand firm in biblical values in today’s public sphere. Additionally, we delve into the Biden-Harris administration's controversial Title IX changes, the Supreme Court's refusal to enforce parts of the new rule, and what it means for the future of women's rights.

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Timecodes:

00:00 Introduction
03:01 The Atlantic Article "Conservative Women Have A New Phyllis Schlafly"
24:30 Comparing Allie to Phyllis Schlafly: Influence and Advocacy
31:40 The Importance of Unapologetically Representing Biblical Values
34:00 ESPN Fires Sam Ponder
38:00 Supreme Court Rejects Biden-Harris Title IX Change
43:00 Colleen Hoover's Explicit Content
48:00 Colleen Hoover's "It Ends With Us" Is Emotional Porn

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[je_suis_calme_]

Allie Beth, I was a secular pro-abortion terf who started watching your show because you are gracious enough to invite left-wing women who are fighting against trans ideology onto your show for important conversations. I started watching episodes about other issues and found that I either agreed with you on other topics or that you shared information I just didn’t know about. You turned me pro-life. You got me reading the Bible. You are a daily watch for me. It is because you are TRULY kind (not fake lying niceness) and ferociously truthful, a skilled interviewer and clear speaker. You changed my heart and mind and brought me back to God. Thank you. ❤

[gma]

I grew up desensitized to this exposure, but since I’ve grown closer to God, I can’t tolerate watching anything sexual or demonic . Not even slightly. It really bothers me. And I’m so happy to have reverted back to this pure place. 😌🥰

[Magdalene]

I think of Fifty Shades of Grey. A friend of mine gave me the book years ago (before I was married) stating "Oh you HAVE to read this." I couldn't finish the first book and gave it back to her. She asked me what I thought and I told her it was a horrible book and didn't finish it. She asked me why and I told her "I am not a prude, but as someone who was SA, I don't think we should (as you said) glorify SA, abuse, or these kinds of relationships. They are toxic and harmful to women. I am not a feminist, but I believe in preserving a good, loving society. Not one that preys on people." She had no response to it, but stopped recommending the book after I said that to her. I am in a loving, safe marriage now and I thank God every day for bringing my husband to me. He's a good man. P*rn or glorifying anything similar to it degrades our society and we are in the position we are in right now, because of these mindsets.

[ladieuhang]

As the Word goes, “whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, THINK about these things.”
‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4‬:‭8‬

[kylethomas]

One of your relata-bros here. I liked your comment about "just because it's a book, it's ok and not corrupting." You're talking to Christians! If any group of people should understand the impact a book can have on a person, it should be us!

[terridailey]

Sadly Satan will use anything to take our eyes off of the enjoyment of Christ.

[gma]

I started reading a fiction novel the other day because it had world renowned praise. It started off really good, and at page 400 plus it took a very weird turn sexually and I got up and threw the book in the trash. Because that’s where it belonged. I don’t entertain this anymore.

[bairuta]

To me personally knowing that Blake Lively is married and then her having intimate scenes with another man in a movie is disturbing.

[AnarSchism.]

I'm 65 yr old male and used to be very liberal .
Phyllis was popular when I was young, and I totally believed the stories about her.
I now really regret it.

[erikjohnson]

I’m a 56 year old Relatabro who consumes a lot of Christian, apologetics, and political content. I really appreciate the smart women who are coming into this space. Allie, Alisa Childers, and Melissa Dougherty bring a different and valuable perspective to the conversation. Allie is one of my favorite people overall to watch interview authors.

Plus, she takes the Bible and theology very seriously, so she often is the first to let me know about new trends I should be concerned about!

This is why Allie, who is not in my demographic, is one of my favorite content creators!

[terridailey]

We as Christians should not be watching anything that would be considered porn in any way.

[sarahritter]

i totally agree with how unnecessarily explicit her book/movie was. i read the book before i came to christ and don’t recommend it because it is pornographic. BUT i will say that as someone who has endured an abusive relationship, my family never understood why i stayed with him as long as i did and after my mom/sister/friends who didn’t understand read this book, they literally came to me and said “i totally understand why it was so hard for you to leave and i’m so sorry i didn’t recognize that before” and it was a very validating experience. i just really wish her only motive was to empower women to leave abuse instead of adding much unnecessary porn.

[gnptjrb]

Thank you for this Allie! I needed to watch this. As a Christian, I’m ashamed to admit Colleen Hoover has been my favorite author and It Ends With Us is my favorite book by her. I basically just turned a blind eye to all the smut and vulgarity & was consumed with the story. Now I see how toxic it was for my marriage because whether I realized it or not, Colleen’s books made me want more from my marriage when there was absolutely nothing wrong within my marriage. Thank you so much for opening my eyes.

[francescaverdi]

I love that the cashier and other customers expressed their support for you - The Holy Spirit is brilliant 🙏💙and generous.

[davayoung]

I know most of your audience is younger women, but I’m 62 and I absolutely love your show and I very much value the content. I also value your opinion on most everything and share the things I see and learn to a lot of people my age both women and men. I have learned so much from your podcast. Please don’t ever back down, keep declaring the truth.

[L.Fontein]

If you want clean, sexless but totally romantic romance... that's intelligently written and has a bit of humor, please, please watch the mini- series from A&E (1995) of Pride and Prejudice, starring Colin Firth as Mr. Darcy and Jennifer Ehle as Elizabeth Bennet - imho it's the absolute best version thats been done to date. Warning - it might take a little bit to get used to the dialog as it was England in the early 1800's but in no time you'll catch on. But this whole mini-series is wonderfully filmed, and wonderfully written with wit and charm.
Btw - Allie - congrats on the Atlanric article. I am so happy for and proud of you. (This last I can say cause I'm a 67 y.o. older lady and yes, I'm so very proud of you! Great job! )

[kimmeeb]

Thank you for touching on literary porn being unhealthy!! So often I see women online defending reading "spicy" books to the point where they won't read a book if it doesn't have sexually explicit scenes in it. If that's not an addiction I don't know what is

[habearr]

Having been abused as a child, in relationships and even in marriage to a Pastor. God is so Great when it comes to healing and restoring innocence. That’s one of the things that I asked for after I met the Lord and He has been so faithful in His healing.

[crapemyrtlejournals]

55+ grandmother here, and I value your voice. Prayed for you, your fam and your ministry today!!

[Durpydurp]

Also - what if the author isn’t glorifying abuse? The straight up truth is that the passion I felt in my abusive relationships was much more intense than the passion I feel in my current, very happy and abuse-free marriage. What I learned is that the passion is a BAD THING! And I tell women that all the time. My husband is my absolute soulmate and I can’t imagine loving anyone else. But I don’t have the frantic ups and downs with him that I had with the others. I used to think what I have now seemed boring. But I know now that it is actually just PEACE. Big difference.