Why Are Simple Tasks SO DIFFICULT?

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[crazeehippo]

Your content makes living with CPTSD more bearable and I feel less alone. Thank you so much

[littlesteph]

Thak you so much for sharing this. I get SO mad at myself for just not being able to do even the simplest of things. Like sometimes I have a multitude of very small tasks to acheive which should really take no more than an hour total. I get so overwhelmed that I just sit on my bed, either staring into space or laying in bed staring at the ceiling in some kind of stupor, usually rocking a little bit.


Much berating happens, mostly from myself. That process alone is mentally exhausting - literally feeling too overwhelmed to do anything at all is actually exhausting. It makes no sense. But the way you talk about how it affects you actually does make sense. So thank you - whether I can apply it to myself to give myself a break is another story entirely... but I'll try!


Oh and Sadie/Marco with their battle of wills over the ball made my day!

[LeeLee-zjgb]

"Myself... I'll punish myself." I laughed at that statement only because I relate all too well. In fact I relate with this whole video. I am grateful that during my current sleepless night I was able to stumble upon this video and now am subscribed. I wish I had found your channel sooner.

[annikadrazdoff]

I suffer from ptsd and getting out of bed to go to school is one of my main struggles. Loved this video

[Drewcooks]

I related to this entire video. My cptsd has been extremely difficult to manage lately and it makes doing simple tasks such as cleaning the house and taking care of myself almost impossible.

[katelyn]

I have never met or come across anyone with the same experience as me, re: not being allowed to help around the house/not being prepared, etc. I feel so seen.

[jcmauthe]

I'm so proud of you 💙💜 the Fork theory is forking great. Love you friend

[bluepixie]

Thank you so much for sharing 💛
I can relate to a lot of this and had a bit of a light-bulb moment when you talked about limbs going weak. Like, oh, that's actually my body reacting to trauma and not just me being lazy and making excuses. Between cptsd and adhd, getting simple tasks done is hard. It's even harder explaining to other people why sometimes you just can't.

[kj-sfmd]

YES! OH MY GOSH, A THOUSAND TIMES YES. Thank you. I wish more people could understand.

[deborahtaylor]

I totally agree. A part of my trauma had to do with cleaning. If it was not done to a standard then it wasn't good enough

[ObscuriaDragunAed]

My GPA graduating high school was the bare minimum to graduate. I would've flunked had I been enrolled in the neighboring high school instead of just going there for a vocational education. I have no development issues, but years of abuse at the hands of my father and teachers created a mental block so ingrained, it might as well have been a physical wall. It made it so I hardly ever had any "spoons or forks", so to speak, for homework. It's probably one of the most frustrating aspects of my condition because I had to constantly stay drunk in order to study while I was going through technical training in the Air Force.

[FootlessJo]

Thank you soooo much for sharing this. I feel you. 💜

[monkeymcfly]

Thank you so much...somedays this is all I have. It means a lot to hear someone get it. Hope your day was awesome!

[janethale]

I totally understand I also have been through trauma and am now learning everyday things that I should of been taught as a teenager. I want to tell you that you are a strong person. I send a big hug !

[Kkittendoll]

I really enjoy the fork theory! Sometimes I can gain more forks, and my life makes more sense now too. Thank you for that! Forever loving your videos, and making me feel normal!

[bellissimo]

Wow, I related so much to what you shared today. Thanks, Kelela.

[shannonigans_]

Thank you for this vid! You did a great job of explaining why its so hard for us to clean or take care of ourselves. Mine has been horrendous lately. Its almost soothing to hear someone talking about the same stuff

[joshuajosephleroux]

Thank you so much for this video it actually explains alot to me personally especially when you talked about your mom thank you for putting that in. Your are brave and courageous, I personally don't have that courage you have yet, you are officially my new inspiration to understand myself.

[AhsetofAtum]

Dishes are a huge trigger for me because I got yelled at and threatened so many times by my dad and all my stepdads over dishes as a kid. As the "girl" I was expected to do dishes all the time. So I can literally rage over doing dishes because it makes me feel like I'm seen as nothing but a slave like I was when I was little as well as reminding me of the abuse I suffered due to dishes. So, anyway I can really relate. My parents were perfectionists and I could never do anything right and my mom wanted us to never do anything with our lives and sabotaged everything she could so we would be forced to be dependent and controlled by her forever (meanwhile complaining the whole time about how much she sacrifices due to having to deal with us). So, yeah. Anyway, great video.

[NotaBeautyGuru]

This was so helpful to me. I've felt like human trash because I have no energy because I'm always anxious and on guard. Always. It's so tiring and I'm just happy I found your channel. My mother was the same in that she trapped my siblings and I.
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