9 ways to deal with toxic people

Dealing with toxic people in your life? Whether it’s a toxic friend, family member, coworker, or even a toxic boss, most of us have encountered these challenging relationships. Maybe you’ve even realized you were the toxic one before starting your healing journey. While we don’t always get to choose who’s in our life, we can learn how to handle toxic relationships effectively. In this video, we’ll share 9 powerful strategies for dealing with toxic people, including toxic parents, friends, coworkers, and more. Have you faced a toxic person in your life? Share your experience and what worked for you in the comments below!

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[user-ow]

The type of toxic person I can’t stand most are those who push toxic positivity. They dismiss your mental health struggles, gaslight you into thinking you're the problem, and act like being positive is the only solution. They avoid serious conversations and pretend everything is fine when it's clearly not.

[user-ow]

Even when establishing boundaries, toxic people will still find a way to push past them and will even antagonize you for having them.

[patriciacrawford]

Great topic, Kati. I recently had to cut ties with my younger sister as she's extremely toxic and never take responsibility for her actions. She can be downright evil at times for no reason. One day, she's on cloud 9, and the next day, she's meaner than a junk yard dog. I was taught that family is everything and tolerated more from her because of it, and yet when I finally realized how abusive and toxic she was, I decided to cut her out of my life. She no longer has access to me and doesn't deserve my presence. Family or not, no one should tolerate being abused emotionally or physically.

[dianagreenwood]

Thank you Kati, in the process of packing up a house and moving from the worst living situation I have ever lived. Much needed advice

[ryannesumbry]

I needed this video I wrk with toxic people everyday from patients to managers

[JamesBond-lttr]

Thank you for this, it’s very validating. I’ve made it to the point where I’m ready to quit my job to leave the toxic environment and see what else is out there. I’ve wasted too much time and energy and it’s time to reclaim my life. I enjoy your videos and hope you know how helpful you are.

[mekman]

Standing up for my Peace. I like that. Thank you!

[leonievh]

I am glad you share this because I am working on my feelings and learning to stand by my no and yes and keep my boundaries and learn when to walk away and stand up for my self❤

[laurenl]

Thanks for this video. Validated that I do right by not reacting to toxic people. It’s draining, but I know I do the best I can. I’m thankful to have more support around me than not supportive. ❤

[AndrewChun]

It’s incredible to how quickly you’re able to get feedback on YouTube and see actionable changes and improvements overnight. The pace is much more tolerable, I can briskly walk comfortably along with you rather than gasping for air trying to keep up with a full-on sprint around the track 😅

[JeroenHega]

This is very recognizable to me.
I'm very sensitive to this.
Thank you so much for this video.

[lisakay]

This draining person is my husband, 25 years and I never thought this was possible. Thanks for the tips, I certainly will use them.

[shoddypockets]

So helpful 😮!, I'm a people pleaser and definitely internalise toxic people's "attacks". The point that their behaviour is not about me, is so clarifying!!!! Thankyou!!!

[Chuv]

Great, concise advice.My go to tactics in dealing with those who drain one's energy are avoidance /limited interaction and keeping any chit chat very general in order to remain relatively detached.

[KarlWitsman]

This approach is the most like the one I used most in counseling (retired). A mixture of realism, stoicism (a bit), and cognitive behavioral therapy. We tend to over-estimate how much people really think about us. We don't matter that much to them. Their behavior might have been influenced to be "toxic" long ago. So the only control we have is how we choose to see that behavior.

[claytonheals]

It's so wild how your videos say things as a trained counselor and someone in recovery from a lot i know logically but when you say it causes this big AH HA soothing moment! You have an incredible talent and the new info with the reminder info is so beneficial. This video the reminder was "if it isn't you then it's going to be someone else" regarding say a narcissistic person who is really draining to everyone but the interaction i self blame. SB until that is i'm reminded its not my fault. Thank You! =)

[ryana]

I watched a movie last night called Violet (played by Olivia Munn on Showtime.) She has a negative inner monologue due to the way her family and people close to her speak to her. Once she cuts the people off, that "voice" goes away. She plays a film exec, so in some ways it's hard to relate (at least in my view as a warehouse worker) but is interesting and relates to this topic. Kati (and some followers) might like it!!
Edit: funny enough, it expired looks like!!! Tried looking it up today and is no longer on Paramount Plus/Showtime. 😅 But anyone can rent it on digital platforms if they want.

[danavitolo]

When setting a boundary with them they react with posturing and guilt trips

[leticiarodea]

This is pure gold ❤ Ty Katie for all that you do

[scottybthebrand]

Mine is Hungry, Apathetic, Lonley, Tired and that's how I get through each day. I get more help from this channel and ChatGPT that I do from any human, paid or unpaid.