5 INFJ Mistakes That Will Make You Depressed and Anxious

Is your INFJ life depressing? There could be many causes but some of the most common are overthinking, overcommitting, and putting others over yourself for too long. This can cause burnout, anxiety, and depression.

This video will help you identify the problems in your INFJ life and sort them out before they bring you down further emotionally.

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[digitalbobby]

As an INFJ, when i learned to say "NO" to people thats when i realized most of the people in my life werent really friends.

[kandisdenitto]

I’m still thinking about conversations I’ve had over 20 years ago! 🤷‍♀️

[RaeMcCarver]

I’ve been going deeper into hermit mode for a few years. I went to a counselor for depression. He gave me the test and guessed I was an INTJ, because I was always teaching him new concepts, and analyzing him and his office items. I took his test, but it said I was an INFJ. Yes, I have feelings — I’m not a complete robot. I had been telling him that I could “read” his patients in the waiting room, so one day I told him all about their family dynamics — more than he could see from their one-on-one sessions. (I felt he would need to know these things in order to truly help them, and he could choose to ignore it or use it.) And even though I did those things, it seemed creepy and arrogant to me, so I mostly just keep things to myself. Hence, the hermit mode.

People always tell me I think too much. Ugh! The last time someone said that to me, I blurted out angrily, “No, I just think more than YOU do.” (Then I felt terrible for saying it.)

Being an INFJ is lonely and difficult. Thanks for this Circle.

[Coneman]

It’s tragic that INFJs have so much to offer others and the world but are often (males more likely) just abused or ignored.

[mochimeng]

I believe INFJ should engaged themselves into shadow work, journal/diary (for self-awareness) and enhance communication skills since I observe people often misunderstood me simply because of how I express myself through words... Now that I am more articulate, I can say it's a life changing. I no longer get anxious of "how am I gonna explain this..." Trust me you will feel better when you start and be consistent

[zoraidita]

I never knew what being an INFJ meant until I took the MBTI Assessment. It all makes sense now. But when I was younger I didn't know all of this.

[arthis]

0:24 1. Self-blame
1:25 2. Overcomitting
2:43 3. Avoiding conflict
3:51 4. Overthinking
5:37 5. Thinking others can read us

[LDJ-re]

Hermit mode is where it’s at. It’s honestly all I can stand now. Ever since the pandemic I just don’t want to even be around people anymore. I can’t believe everyone went along w that and lost their minds. I kinda just hate everyone now. So I’ll do them all a favor and stay home.

[LDJ-re]

I’ve been depressed since I was 24 and now 44. Just accept it. There’s nothing I can do as far as centralized medicine or even functional medicine. I just bed rot now and I’m almost to the point where I’m fine with it. A little more time and energy spent accepting this and I’ll learn to live with it just like everything else. I’d love to just end it but too many responsibilities to just leave.

[almasakic]

I gotta say, over the years I have become a real badass INFJ. With every failure I've learned from my mistakes and setting boundaries firmly comes very easily to me now. Sometimes I am even a little brutal about it because I know how terrible it can be when you get treated like an aside or a doormat. I don't tolerate that anymore but it's only because of channels like yours! <3

[SivaSiwel]

I stay overthinking and the hermit mode took me into a bad place mentally. Giving advice and guidance, those people couldn’t give it back

[Luckiest]

I once drove all the way from Dallas to Boca Raton without a working car radio and before cell phones were a thing. My mind was never bored-there were so many things to wonder about

[meagiesmuse]

OMG, that Ni-Ti loop! I've been stuck in one for 3 years now! Writing about it is helping some. I can't do the usual things to get out of it due to a serious illness. I wish my mind had an "off" switch.

[NartakiRadhaDevidasi]

One thing pulling me out of overthinking and self blame is through asking, is it true? Am I truly responsible for how my actions may have inadverrently triggered someone? If the answer is false, then I am better able to allow others to sit with their feelings, blame-shifting, and projections without it cutting quite so deep. I am still able to pull into empathy because I know an unhealed part of them was triggered, but I do so with detachment and with a focus on self-compassion first and foremost.
Thank you for shining light on these topics that most of the world doesn't understand..

[clbellue]

When I was much younger (I'm 65 now), I over extended myself regularly, took on projects and volunteer work as it was asked of me, but I really didn't want to do it. Afraid that others would think less of me, I didn't know how to say no. I hated that. At the age of 52, I moved halfway across the country (from California to Missouri) and since no one knew me, I finally found relief, lol. I'm not suggesting anyone else do this, but I love having time to be me.

I like who I am. I enjoy thinking and creating, and solving the world's problems (if only in my head).

Thank you for the video! You are helping many by validating who we were created to be. :)

[fazzaustralia]

Thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking thinking and more thinking....

[sheiladay-odme]

I intentionally end relationships that are not in my best interest.

[hugmc]

Infj the family scapegoats fractured minds

[rslastra]

Self-blame: the worlds and we are imperfect. Anything doesn't have to be perfect.

Overcommitting: proper boundaries . Have time for our needs: sleep, food, familiy, work.

Avoiding conflict: opinions, revele our thoughts, stand out. We are valuable.

Overthinking: Ni-Ti cycle. Fe to connect with the world.

Thinking others read us like we read them:

[Heyokasirenieisxso]

Another one is projecting positive attributions that we cannot accept in ourselves, Most people only project negative traits unto others that they cannot accept within themselves but for us alot of times we project things like strength, intelligence, beauty, God, empathy onto people who don't posses these traits..