6 Dirty Secrets INFJ's Refuse To Talk About

INFJ's are the rarest MBTI Personality Type. They make up approximately 1-3% of the population. But does rare mean perfect?

INFJ's are a beautiful personality type but they are not perfect. In fact, INFJ's do have secrets that they do not often (if ever) talk about. This video covers the 6 dirty secrets that INFJ's refuse to talk about.

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[june-uni]

omg codependency w a narcissist is an INFJ’s nightmare experience 🥺

[annaleabrown]

I think most INFJs recognize the ability in themselves to go dark and often make a point of staying very far away from that line of thinking, which is odd considering the sometimes crazy stream of consciousness we have that we seem to not control.

[annharper]

As a 70yr old, I am glad to see younger infj's getting information. The door slam is self defense and I always felt guilty and ashamed but relieved. I gave my 1st husband 100's of 2nd chances and finally gave up. Now, I know my infj self as a whole person. God bless.❤

[happboi]

It happened just yesterday...with my own mother. It's devastating to burst out and shout, totally out of control. But when you cannot any longer cope with the constant reproaches, criticism, feeling you shouldn't have been born in the first place, you eventually explode. Even if you have swallowed the insults all your life and you are now 53 years old but your own mother still rejects you...and is always clear and vocal about it.

[angelalabauve]

Yes, I have been pushed beyond my limits by abusers. Sadly, I have the verbal ability to cut and disable in one fell swoop. I have done a few door slams in my life (70 years) and I’m not sorry. They totally deserved it. We INFJ’s do have a dark side, but most of the time it stays well hidden because we genuinely care about people and really want to help. I’ve learned that helping people isn’t so easy because most people don’t take our advice, and they resent us for being right. Your videos are very helpful and useful even at my age. It’s good to know I’m not alone.

[emmarae]

Our inability to communicate properly in person, plus the final door slam for self preservation are viewed as cruel. We don’t do it to be cruel.

[NCardude]

Codependency is a very tough one. I've also noticed the INFJ door slam happening much sooner than in times past; I no longer give anyone "one-too- many chances. I have a shorter fuse now, particularly if the person exhibits toxic/abusive personality disorder traits.

[derek]

I have absolutely done this. And the double edged sword is that the person I rip the heart out of, rarely recognizes that they did anything wrong. And I get to be the toxic one. It’s never their abuse that is toxic, just my verbal daggers. 😢

[RavenStormcloud]

yep i have had infj rage, i have door slammed, ghosted, disappeared

[Ash-rl]

I keep my boundaries in strict check as if pushed too far I am ruthless. The INFJ door slam is real. I would rather be alone than hurt someone with my cutting (albeit truthful) remarks, and definitely rather be alone than with someone who would hurt me.

[rockfordsolids]

"all INFJ's know that if they went to the dark side their powers would be overwhelming . . .", I literally giggled when I heard that ha ha!!! So true, but it is ironically funny you know you could . . .but you just can't. Almost too easy :)

[tanyas]

I am an INFJ and I was in corporate sales for decades. My personality type definitely helped me in "discovery" sessions! I could qualify and disqualify leads faster than anyone lol. I got into trouble when my managers tried to get me to use my strengths immorally. Nothing better than demoralizing a narcissist while quitting a job hahaha. So many

[ms.donaldson]

My sister is a Psychologist. She called the blowing up thing "Passive Aggressive"
I live alone in a world full of people. I have had Employers corrupt my moral integrity and it produced a fake national news story, but I'm call crazy for calling it out.
I'm an INFJ with a life long interest in real history.... 2020-2023 have been like a mental test!

[susanzoefelix]

Learning to keep my boundaries. Door slam is my last resort but have done it acfew times over many decades

[bethwaller]

I am not only INFJ but Taurus. Patient to a fault but, pushed too far, I explode and once pushed to that point, there is no going back. Also, there are times when I need to make a conscious effort NOT to verbally destroy someone who is pushing my buttons. They have unconsciously given me all the ammunition needed. So, this rings very true for me.

[CJ-gudj]

When people abuse us, I think it's better to just door slam. People who have abuse tendencies, will do worse things to themselves than any kind of revenge I can come up with. They are self destructive. Sometimes it's best to leave them to their own devices. I've got to deal with myself if I go dark. My hands and soul are clean, if I leave them to their own devices .

[zoraidita]

My hardest lesson has been not to depend on people or have codependent relationships as an INFJ.
You can't manipulate a manipulator; I know when this goes on and I do not like it,

[roaldkamman]

We see that hurting anyone else is only hurting ourselves. We are one.

If it’s only because we realize that it’s not worth getting into that negative energy that will only create more negative experiences for us. You’re not worth revenge. We are aware of the costs and consequences of these types of interactions.

[traceycrawford]

I’ve definitely blown up on people who have mistreated me. I can put up with a lot, but everyone has a limit.

[frostyhannah]

I've recently I can easily manipulate people and I hate that. I figured out the weaknesses of my friends and family without even trying to. I also realized I can easily destroy someone. I try my best not to find my self manipulating people, using their weaknesses and stuff.