I CAUGHT MY HUSBAND CHEATING ON ME.

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[louphoenix]

This happened to me after 22 years of marriage, just after my birthday. The pain was unbearable at times, but 18 months of therapy made me realize that I deserve to be loved and respected. Sure it was a long and painful road. Fast forward to 2 weeks ago I found out he is cheating again. This time I feel like I’m the one in control of the situation and I’m not going to allow him to hurt me again. Life presents you the same situation over and over, until you really learn the lesson. I learned to love and defend myself. Good luck to all the people who have been cheated on. Nobody deserves to go through that kind of pain.

[TheSmack]

Don’t let a man tell you they couldn’t help it, they are dumb, etc. They know when they are speaking to, and meeting up with these women, what is at stake!! They know they could lose you, and ruin the family and they CHOOSE to cheat anyway! The cheater is at fault.

[tophslostdaughter]

Darren if you're reading this, you lost a special gift. She loved you so much and you do such dirty things while even having kids! You don't deserve love. Oh and darren... *shame on you* God my girl nohea is so strong, guys a week after it happened she's opening up! Love you so much nohea!!! I bet your kids are beautiful like you !!

[linsoopretty]

My husband cheated on me with his co-worker while I was 5 and 6 months pregnant. Never thought that would happen. I sincerely thought he’d always be a good and faithful guy.

[sharoncrawford]

I cant stand to see any married person cheat on their spouse. I just couldnt live with it. All it takes is for them to cheat once, and your trust is broken.

[parisdavis]

And this is the exact reason why I don’t want to get married. I feel like most men cheat not all but most! Men get bored and a lot of them can’t be monogamous. I know so many women that are getting cheated on and have no idea!

[clynn]

Bad news about being married and you are a housewife. Most married men cheats no matter how good he is to you. I'm staying single.

[OMG-djlc]

I can relate to your pain and helplessness!

I've been married to my husband for 22 years with three children, youngest being 15 years old.

The first time I found out my husband was cheating on me was when our kids were all under the age of 7. He claimed he was going to help his parents out but he forgot we recently downloaded a location tracking app on both our phones. I had a gut feeling something wasn't right, looked at my app and saw he was at "someone" house for nearly 2 hours. I got so upset I took the kids and left, he called the police to have me return the children to him.

There were a lot of I have to go help out me parents and this one time I said I'll go with him, he quickly left without me. Surprise surprise!

There was an incident when I return from an out of town trip with the children and I would find makeup that didn't belong to me.

I'm sure there were many throughout the years which went under my radar.

The most recent ones, on my birthday last summer, he claimed he had to work late. But when the credit card statement came it showed he went out for dinner with "someone" for $138, he's not the type to treat his male co-workers to dinner.
He used one of his stock photos to text me that he had a lot of work to get done.

Then came October 26, 2021, the previous night was date night for us. He wanted to go buy a pair of shoes. He even bought me a polo hoodie for $249, now I realized it was a guilty conscience gift!

Later that night at around 10:45pm, we were already in bed, he claimed he couldn't sleep and that he'll watch a bit of tv first. I now realized he was excited about his meet up date with this other woman.

Saturday 6:45am the next morning, he got up and quickly showered without turning on the lights to the bathroom. Then just as quickly left and didn't return until 3:40pm or so.

When he returned he must have dropped the wrist band for entrance to the space museum. When I asked who went there, he denied it was his. He claimed he drove his parents shopping!

The next morning I took the car out to run errands, I noticed he deliberately unplugged the dashcam and the car had a strong perfume scent of a woman.

The umbrella in the trunk was wet and just left unfastened and there were spilled food on the shopping bag in the trunk as well.

Then came mid November our 22nd wedding anniversary which I had to remind him of. He suggested a staycation at the fairmont downtown, but the whole time we were there, he was sitting on a chair checking his phone. His heart wasn't even there with me, he probably wished the other woman was there to spend the night with him or something.

About a week or two later, I was asking his cloths and I found his bank statement in a pocket. He bought something from Tiffany's. And I asked him if he bought something from Tiffani's and he said no. It was like stonewalling, and when I know he won't admit it. I told him it was in his bank statement, then he said he bought a fake necklace for our daughter.

Seriously he thinks I'm stupid or something,

I didn't get nothing for our anniversary from him, he was spending his money to impress another woman.

The past Monday I received a collection letter in the mail for a parking violation non payment dated October 26, 2021 near that space museum.

I was so damn pissed off, he goes fucking around and got me snot to collections. The Lexus is registered in my name. When he can't come up with an excuse, he stonewalls or he'll say you are crazy.

I didn't talk to him the whole week. Then he took our family out for lunch before he had to go out of town for a job.

We finished eating just before 12noon and he packed up and left to catch the 3pm ferry to the island.

For a 3 night trip, he sure packed a lot of underwear!!!

At 7:30pm, I texted him if he was gonna eat dinner once he got to the ferry terminal on the island. He said he already ate on the ferry, I thought that was strange because I have traveled along with him on previous trips before and he never eat on the ferry because he have $60 dinner allowance from the company to spend on dinner. *Red flags*

Then I asked him to let me see what his hotel looks like and to FaceTime me. He replied that he was driving.

He knew he was lying, either he's not on the island and have no way to show it live. (No option to a stock photo)

Or he was actually spending these few days with this woman somewhere.

I texted him that I will wait for him to FaceTime me, 10pm came and gone and totally *crickets* from him.

I sent him one last text before I went to bed. I told him if he wants to be with the other woman then to go ahead. I told him that I can't fight for a man whose heart isn't with me. I told him that even when he is with me, his heart seem to be elsewhere.

Many of you guys would wonder why I stayed with a serial cheater. Not by choice, I stayed because of the kids and I have not worked since I gave birth to my 2nd child. So I'm really financially dependent on him these years.

I have not told my family because I don't want them to worry about me. I only told two friends who suggest I should go find a good divorce lawyer. My life really sucks, it's like a nightmare!

[KISSMIBUT]

If he cheated on you then you don't exist. You are a safety net. I went through the same thing and lost a child through it. I thank the Almighty for showing me how devious people can really be but losing my child broke me. Things don't happen for a reason. They just happen. You can't think like a cheater because you aren't one. You have loyalty and integrity. A cheaper doesn't have those qualities. You have to move on and it will be tough, but day by day through the Almighty's help you will get stronger. Don't cut yourself down. You didn't cheat. You have honor.

[niccic]

Been with my husband for 15 years he cheated on me two years ago with two of his co-workers. He worked at a warehouse job and these co-workers didn’t care he was married. I am a good women and this hunts me everyday, I cry all the time and have not been the same since. My children suffer too cause their dad was being distance with them during his infidelity. He cheated during my daughter’s surgery the time we needed to be strong. I feel your pain and I don’t understand how men/women can do this to the one that has been dedicated to them and loved them for so many years.

[starb]

It’s good that you left. If you forgave him and stayed again, he would not change but he would just get better at hiding things and lying. This type of men never change. He’s only sorry because he got caught. Hope you are ok sis.

[pixiepqueen]

He’s not your friend if he treats you like this. Don’t go back to him. He won’t change

[Rainbowsun]

I am 39 years old and going through a divorce. Please save yourself and leave, do not stay for the kids and believe he will change, I wish I can get back the 17 years I lost, at least I have my children and my health. You are young and beautiful, you will find your best friend, a friend won't betray you and lie to you, be true to spirit.

[TheAngryHappyMaskSalesman]

To be fair to you, if you do leave him and respect yourself enough to move on from him, trust me, he will realise in time how good is your worth and he'll regret his actions. And by that time, he'll have to deal with his mistakes and you'll be the winner.

[jobywilkinson]

I’m so sorry, I feel your pain, I caught my husband of 12 years cheating 3 days before Valentine’s Day, then his birthday was the 2/18 & then 2/20 was our anniversary, just a few days ago. I’m sad, angry, embarrassed, I feel stupid, it’s just all too much. He’s 68 years old cheating with a 30 year old!!! So on top of all those feelings, I’m feeling old & have lost my confidence, that’s something I’ve never felt before. I’m 63, thought I was in a happy, committed marriage. I’m out, I can’t stay after he’s repeatedly lied. Starting over at this stage in my life is scary & I’m furious.

[Whatsgucci]

He’s “sad” because he got caught. I can guarantee you he wasn’t sad when he was cheating. He knew what he was doing. So sorry this happened to you. Love yourself and leave.

[tloraynevv]

He's not your best friend. If he were, you wouldn't be going through this right now.

[waterwitch]

My grandmother told me long ago, once a cheater always a cheater. So she said if someone you love cheats, you either live with it, or you walk away, because they will never change. I'm sorry you had to go through that. But you will find happiness. Your a beautiful woman and you deserve the best. Stay healthy, happy and safe. Blessed be

[James-sqsc]

He has a lot of gall saying he can’t stand seeing you with someone else but fucks around on you. He has something to prove to himself. It won’t work out because he doesn’t want to help himself. Tired of hearing the “sexual addiction” bit. All men and almost no women can’t suffer from the same affliction. It’s encouraged

[goofylucy]

I am pretty sure that he cheated on you way before Wednesday l!!! That is when you finally caught him... he never quite cheating. You just finally caught him he will never change