The Uncomfortable Truth Behind Cheating In Relationships - Psychologist Explains

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Welcome to the Valentine's Day special podcast. For this episode, we have with us Havovi Hyderabadwalla, one of Mumbai's top & reputed psychologists. An extremely deep, at the same time fun conversation, all about love, BDSM, and relationships.

Havovi Hyderabadwalla is a Forensic Psychologist and a Clinical Psychologist. With an experience of almost a decade, she is also the co-founder of Mind Mandala. This is a podcast that will help you understand relationships in a much more practical way, better outlook toward your current or future partner, and more. It is extremely important to have the right person to share their thoughts on topics like love, romance, and complicated relationships - and Havovi Ma'am is someone who is always open to growing and learning more. No one is better than her for our Love & Relationships Valentine's Day special of 2023.

In this podcast, we discuss society's version of love, problems in relationships, divorces & infidelity, Loneliness VS Solitude, Casual S*x, BDSM & so much more. Havovi ma'am is an absolute all-star of TRS and will be back very soon with more interesting conversations. Stay Tuned for more.

Hope you enjoy this conversation full of relationship insights, fun, and most importantly love. Wishing you all a very happy Valentine's Day ❤️

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[virolo]

If a soldier in the army cheats on his own country, he gets court marshalled, and never ever allowed to join the army. A Traitor is Traitor. No matter what are the underlying feelings.

[dingding]

infidelity has increased doesn't make it a norm, the norm is still fidelity.
If you like your version of yourself with else, befriend them, explain these feelings to your partner, make them understand.
Communication is the key here.
Cheating is not the solution here.

And if your partner is resistant to communicating, then divorce. But don't cheat.

[smriticapoor]

I'll be honest. Bollywood movies growing up taught me that true love is when a man gives up everything for you. What I didn't realize is what the movie never showed. What happened to those couples after 20 years. The real truth is that things will happen, couples will evolve, and go through some of the hardest times in their lives. So, when you love yourself more than your partner, you can always come back to yourself, regain the energy, mindset, whatever it may be and go back.. However, if you don't.. you have nothing to go back to. You've given everything there is to the other person and that's when you start feeling down, unloved, not heard, unseen. Love YOURSELF first!

[Abcd-deyv]

If you have spend 30+ years in Marriage and now you are bored to your partner, then tell him that, get divorce and then do whatever the f** you want. Cheating is the worst you can do with your loved onces.

[travtpvv]

Cheating is cheating. It doesn't matter what circumstances or what reason. It's human nature that they will always find excuses for everything. It's really make this world shit if cheating, dishonest is being promoted as it's good or nothing bad in it

[AditiyaPathak]

In my opinion these facts and titles are misleading the audience.
Loving someone romantically doesn't always involve butterflies or fascinating stuff, it's way beyond that.
Perception of love is different from one other.
And no matter what
Cheating on your partner will always be unethical regardless of how many theories or studies exist.
Being committed to someone is always a matter of trust and respect one can offer to them.

[taniii]

I don't even know how people give reasons for cheating like hello you can't just say that sorry i was feeling like this so that happened it was a mistake. Cheating is never a mistake in my opinion, it's a choice. If you have problems going on in your relationship just talk to your person and if it's getting out of hand then just end it better than hurting someone in worst way possible. Just think about all the time and moments you shared with the person you are cheating on. You are gonna hurt the person who you cared about the most once.

[adithyalfc]

What is she saying? supporting infidelity? Loving yourself doesn't mean cheating. Come on! Where are we heading as a society?

[Zeira]

People cheat because they have no integrity and dignity. Full stop.
DO NOT justify sucha heinous action and mindset🙏🏽🙏🏽
It's unfortunate that she calls herself a psychologist 🙆‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[fire]

Bitter truth :
Cheating is common. Accept it.
So it's better to all of you work on yourself not on your relationship.

[Tif_sim]

In my case, I didn't felt any butterfly. I felt the care she showed me like my mom. She expected me to be the same as my mom expects. And for that I believed in her. I did everything for her. But at the end I was betrayed. Some say that, doing everything for wife is different from doing everything for a GF.

For me it is like I am truthful to my heart. I do because I have a deep care and love for her and I accepted her as my life companion by heart.

For me it is funny to set marriage as a security bond for doing everything to her. It looks so weird to me personally. Because it is commodity exchange when marriage is set as a security bond. Love is different.

I feel no one can define the definition of love for anybody else. It has the deepest connection to every individual and their true identity.

If she cheats me it doesn't mean that my love is not a love at all. It is just the chemistry doesn't work out or it is the urge of uncontrollable self that went haywire.

Above all cheating someone else is equivalent to cheating our own self.

[kabirbhardwaj]

Its simple. If you cheat, you’re a person of weak morals and a non existent back bone who would rather seek attention elsewhere than have the difficult talk. Difficult talks put you in difficult situations and people dont like being put on the spot. Hence they run (i.e. cheat).

[pauline]

After 3 years of trying my long distant relationship ended at the weekend. All because I questioned my then partner about being alone with a maid. When he had said to me that he couldn't be alone with any female because indian society won't accept it.

This wasn't about cheating this was about him saying one thing to me then doing the opposite. But he kept changing his story.
One minute he was within the same house as the maid, she offering him tea then going about her cleaning. Which I had no problem with at all. Next they just exchanged keys. The next she only offered tea of an evening which baffled me. So I wondered which story it was
So when I kept questioning him he called me sick in the head.
Said im the reason why men keep secrets, I'm toxic and controlling.
He's also said im too sensitive and I shouldn't hold onto baggage.

He had told me to leave the topic alone its finished with. And when I asked did he mean to go back to it at a later time when we've cooled down . He said no. When he says it's finished it's finished. Which I said I weren't ready to move on just because he said so.

We had started talking again a few days later and so I still had the awful words in the back of my head. So I asked him does he still think im those things he had said to me. He said yes and doesn't have no regrets. I said he should say sorry and he said, I'll say sorry for upsetting you. But not for them words
I think he called me. Though in the same breath he said they weren't that bad nor did he swear at me.

He even said if I hadn't questioned him so much he wouldn't of got so angry and said it to me.
Fast forward a few days and finally got a sorry and he said he has never asked for an apology for my behaviour that let to his outburst.
And that I'm not like indian women who don't hold onto such things. They would build the relationship not let it go. I said you let your ego and sharp tongue get in the way. Which he has told me before. And he said an indian woman would break down his ego.
I said you shouldn't have such an ego that it needs breaking down and I'm glad im not and indian woman. That needs to walk on egg shells. I said we both need to work on ourselves. Then he said he has nothing to work on and even his friends say he doesn't need to go to councilling

I ended the relationship which he keeps adding to the messages and previously he's ended it multiple times. And I said we have tried for 3 years we are both different. We both see things differently and we just don't match. We've tried it's time to end and let go . And even said I dont hate him

I wish he would of worked at it because I know even I need to work on myself and rebuild on myself. But I'm not gonna be in a relationship were I feel I can't be open about my feelings or have to pick and choose words so he doesn't take offence if I have a problem which what he said or did.

He even liked other womens photos on fb and commented how lovely they are. Even messaged one. That he wanted to get to know her more. And when I said I found them disrespectful because some were half naked. He said his fb account had been hijacked and he would pick and choose which ones were him and which ones weren't. And then said they should be left in the past. Even though he always said to me he didn't like public displays of affection and was careful of what he said to my photos very rarely liked or even sent hearts.

So glad though its over I can look after myself now and start to make myself happy again
Sorry for the long post
Rant over

[varungujarathi]

Any relationship is based on compromise from both parties. If something isn't working out try meet in between. Say be yourself and love yourself doesn't make infidelity right thing. You have to bend over backwards to make things work. Loving someone is easy, being with them for life is difficult.

[harshvardhanraj]

IDK if i'm right or wrong, but cheating is worst possible thing to do, i know for sure at some point of time ppl feel it's over, love is over.... but think isn't that a time to prove that ur love was true, u'll have to make ur love alive, cheating isn't a solution... cheaters belong to and that's it.... i have seen ppl cheating yet blaming other person for random things...

[nehashirodkar]

I didn't feel any Butterflies or anything bro... But i managed to have a authentic relationship

[GPS]

I’m 36 I never had a relationship 😎 or touched a human.
I have been safe always even now .
Peace

[SAURABHJAIN]

1:30 A lot of people lose their essence, lose their mind. Because they've given their partner, every single thing.
That's the truth.
Don't do that.

[TheKhooshbu]

Relationships require work. Every relationship needs work. Be it mother and child, siblings or your partner. And I disagree with the fact that friendship doesn’t translate to companionship. My husband and I had a very romantic start to our relationship but its the friendship that has kept us strong. Being there for each other, encouraging each other, dancing in each other’s success and crying at anyone’s loss, celebrating each other’s qualities and loving all their quirks, learning from each other and growing together. You cant have a happy relationship without a good friendship. I keep describing this to young kids when you meet the right person, you will know. You will feel comfortable around them, you will feel like yourself with them, when they will criticise you you will know its with a good intention, they will make you feel like they are your home. Everything else - the gifts, the romantic gestures, the cheesy movie expectations dont matter when you meet the right person.

[AbhishekNamdeo]

love yourself and destroy other one's life. bro if you could not handle your situation calmly then don't blame it on the relationship. cheating must be in your blood, do not destroy someone's life just for your selfishness. here theses 2 clowns who never got their right partner talking about fidelity. claps