How to Spot A Cheater (Is He A Cheater?!)

A nightmare that so many women fear is finding out that their man is cheating on them. However, since cheating isn’t a new phenomenon, there are ways to spot a cheater.

Hey Youtube, my name is Amy North, I’m a relationship coach from Vancouver BC and today I want to share with you the top ten ways to tell if your man is cheating on you. If you enjoy what you learn in this video or find it helpful then please subscribe to my channel and check out my other dating advice videos, too.

Now before I jump into things I want to quickly define cheating. Some people consider it to be anything physical with another person, whereas others others see something as simple as secretly texting the opposite sex just as inappropriate. A great way to avoid cheating is to know what both you and your man consider it to be — from the start. When you do it’ll leave little room for confusion or excuses down the road.

That said, if you’re feeling like your man may be getting action elsewhere, then here are 10 red flags to look for.

1. He stays out late

Whether he claims to be busy with work or is constantly saying that his friends “need him for something,” if your man is suddenly always busy with others then your senses may be tingling.

That said, it is possible that he’s sincerely busy, but in most cases you should be able to tell if something feels off.

2. He hides his phone

If you notice that he’s spending a lot of time on his phone then something may be up. But again, don’t jump to assumptions too quickly.

However, if he’s quick to tuck it away, keeps it out of view whenever you walk in the room, or stops leaving it laying around, then yes, there’s a possibility that he’s cheating on you, or at the very least is up to something that he doesn’t want you to know about.

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[Suz]

My ex had all of these signs when he was cheating. Right on as usual Amy! I ended the relationship that day and never took him back. Ladies, if he cheats on you, don't ever take him back. You deserve a man who is faithful to you and respects you to never cheat on you.

[lisab]

My ex displayed all of these signs. Went from wearing band tees to wearing "cowboy" attire. Boots, jeans, cowboy hat and all. Worst part is I wasted 6 years of my life with him

[murphytoadster]

I cant believe i put someone so close to me through that but yes. Women, i did every one of these things. And i believe the cheating starts well before physically doing the act.

[rachaelguarino]

Well shit..I'm definitely getting screwed over!
WoW.
My husband falls under at least 5 out of these 10.
Even tho' without this professional information.. I have Been feeling him being distant. My intuition has been in full alert, & now I absolutely believe he's up to no good.
#ThanksSoMuchAmy 💋

[thebrooklyndreamer]

That was spot on! I could have used this a few years ago when I found out that my boyfriend was checking. Keep the videos coming.

[anastasiab]

Those are all great examples of determining if your current boyfriend is cheating, but is there a way to tell that someone you met not long ago is prone to cheating before you commit to a relationship? That would be useful!

[gaillewis]

You are knowledgeable, articulate and your bangs are great.

[naimaiftikhar]

Amy these all are true and were present in my exhusband and I couldn't realize back then (2 years ago). Now after watching this video, I am so impressed by your research and tips. All are so true. I love watching your videos to not repeat the past mistakes and to learn how to find the right person. thanks so much.

[enaharago]

wow that's all clear to me Amy ! great video

[terrywade]

Here’s the thing, ladies. If he’s truly interested in you, there’s no confusion! A man that wants you, MAKES it happen! No yo-yo effect. No confusion. No secrecy. No doubt! A real man draws you in, is transparent, shows you who he is, makes you part of his life, tells you what he’s thinking, wants to know all about you, displays you as his girl to the world! Wants to spend as much time with you as he can! You will know you’re his priority! If not, get in line with the others or move on!

[jodiejones]

Hi I'm in a relationship of 6 year's and just had his baby! And 7 of the sings are definitely happening 2 me by my baby's daddy! Any advice on what 2 do now?as I've tryed 2 end the relationship but he keeps lashing out.

[puspoochowdhury]

my boyfriend never give me the permission to touch his Mobile but he never feel uneasy to hold my hand in public but I am very confused about him, I can't be clear about him, he is very confusing . Some time I become confused that he is cheating or not . Please give me suggestions what should I do . Please

[ankitaganguly]

I used to like this boy, for more than two years...but recently I told him, , we talk now, but he dsnt show that interest, if I call only he receives, and nothing more....he told me he likes me, and everything should go with a flow, he dsnt want any relationship I guess...what should I do amy😫😫😫😫😫

[JohnnieJayy]

Its crazy how this is so right creepy weird ... Im not a cheater though 😂

[shamikasurve]

Hey...out of all the signs I just found sign number 5(mood swings) related to my man...so do I need to stress about it?

[kylesavage]

Ok girls plz don't freak out by this video and conclude that your bf/husband is cheating because he does one of these things. Some people can be overprotective of their phones coz of nosy exes it's all about privacy. Others tend to have mood swings often (you as women should be more understanding about such behaviours) or just happen to change colognes or get new hobbies. None of these means that he is cheating for sure. If u notice a combination of these signs though then it would be wise to look into it.

[vvelvettearss]

Hey Amy great video. It MIGHT be in my head but I've had a dodgy feeling about this guy (almost 3 months) since he first gave me a history on his exes he is only 26 and has had like 4 I think . But the thing that really got me alert was he went out his way to tell me he deleted tinder where I met him and I spotted it later . He calmly said "oh that's just the icon I can show you if you like" we have also had fights and he called me clingy when I was pushing him away. Apparently his last ex was "clingy" but he most thing that sticks out for me is his behavioural changes it's. Very confusing. Like "if you want to try crazy positions then im not that guy and I'll never change" next day "sure if you want to we can give it a go" or "it'd too cold to go out...Actually it's not that cold. I'm really scared of dogs especially big dogs...I'm freaked out by bugs but I like DOGS and cats and his style is changing he recently changed his beard and went from going texting me morning lovey dovey texts every day to trailing them off without forewarning me and I hate that . I've got a feeling that cheating is the last thing I have t worry about I just have a feeling . He is also more distant than he used to be it's like he's someone else :/ you can't go From one person to the complete opposite in a week or a day! I don't want to be paranoid about this tho

[ashababy]

Unfortunately all these signs are there in our relationship...I work in a different place and my husband never calls me or messages me even for a month .If I ask about him regarding this he blocks me suddenly from all the social media's such a way that I cannot communicate with him anymore..Iam married to him for the past two years and this is wahat happening...I really dont know what to do...iam from India, once we married it is over ...I dont know why he is behaving like this...I love him so much and am not well mentally and emotionally...

[janechavez]

hi...can I ask a question..

how can I know. if he cheat on me...because we are LDR...

thank you and have a good day

[williammorson]

Now that you've exposed us, we'll look for better ways to disguise our activities and cover our tracks.