The Resentful Nature of Narcissism

The root of the resentment narcissistic people feel towards others often lies in their deep-seated insecurities. They project an image of superiority and self-importance, but internally they are often fragile and insecure. This discrepancy between their external façade and internal reality creates a breeding ground for resentment.

This video outlines the nature of narcissistic resentment, the different things that fuel it and some of the ways it can manifest.

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[texasgirl]

Yes, very jealous and demanding attention. They don't want you to have a life besides catering to them.

[janettemartin]

They LIE so MUCH that they RESENT you for making them LIE SO MUCH! They have no boundaries or RULES EVER!

[mikesmith]

This is what I've experienced damned if I do or damned if I don't! Feel as if I can't do anything right or like I'm constantly walking on eggshells.

[IzabelaWaniek-ix]

Spot on. Narcisists are stuck in a perpetual catch 22. No mater what it’s always a lose-lose!

[robscovell]

I have been binge-watching criminal interrogations. 99% have this in common: the self-entitlement that allows them to feel justified in committing the crime; and extreme self-pity when faced with punishment. The interrogators have to navigate these dual mentalities in order to drag the truth out of these people by pretending to indulge them until the suspect incriminates him/herself.

[JennWest-Liberty]

And people ask why so many choose to remain single. Too many narcissist people out there.

[theresafowler]

So true. The narcissistic person in my life is very insecure about any attention -social and professional. If someone acknowledges something I’ve done or even laughs at a joke I make, the narcissistic person doesn’t acknowledge it and immediately turns the subject to themselves. More often than not, they’ll make a disparaging comment towards or about me that sometimes is not obvious to others. They know how to place their darts.

[anniec]

Its a vicious circle... with no end in sight. The only way is to cut off all contact, and even that doesn't always work!

[Algernon]

I just found your neglectful narcissist video. Thank you so much. You have removed the doubt and confusion that has plagued me for two decades. Thank you.

[IzabelaWaniek-ix]

You have described it perfectly Darren. So true. You can never succeed with a narcissist, no matter what you do and how hard you try. It’s a lost cause. Thank you 🙏

[elainehiggins]

The victims of narcissists have their fair share of resentment. They resent being treated so badly and can remain angry and resentful for years, if not a lifetime.

[yvetteandjorgenlarsen]

"Accused of Hating him because I didn't fawn all over him." In fact, I don't know how to Fawn all over him more, so I don't understand his problem. Really, I completely adored him until he started treating me like this. He shot himself in the foot.

[JennWest-Liberty]

I simply cannot believe that you are describing my life.

[joydavis]

I appreciate the directness. We need to hear more of it. Personally, I'm open to brutal honesty so I can know what I am dealing with and how to get through it. Thank you. Please keep it coming.

[BobTheSchipperke]

And that's why I "don't take them seriously" especially if they say in exact words that they don't need MY resentment when I simply answered a question.

[yvetteandjorgenlarsen]

​​​My ex, a covert narcissist, definitely employed 90% of the patterns you've discussed in the ~40 videos of yours I've watched to date. He acted like the most wonderful man I'd ever met in all of my 70 years-- until a little while after we got married, when he suddenly introduced a few very bizarre behaviors while we were actually on a road trip together! It seemed like he'd "gotten lost" at a gas station/restaurant where we'd stopped for a break. I was shocked, dismayed, wondering if he was having some kind of mental episode, possibly dementia? So later, when he gave me his first silent treatment in the car, I thought maybe he couldn't understand what I was saying, or couldn't talk, as can happen with a mini- stroke. It was frightening, and I cried. Turned out it was ALL intentional! 😢 And Yes, it was very damaging to our new "marriage" relationship. 😔All the wind went right out of my sails...😪 I had no idea that a person could, much less would, purposely do such a thing, and I couldn't imagine why, as we had both acknowledged to others that literally everything had been 'perfectly agreeable' in our relationship. (Translation: his adoration & flattery = love-bombing, NOT love.) Although I didn't know what had gone awry, I KNEW I was going to be in for a lot of emotional pain, followed by incredible embarrassment and unwarranted criticism-- from mostly everyone. The Deceived (victims) get it from both sides, or all sides, as the case may be. The words I think best describe all narcissists are traitor, betrayer, and deceiver, which all equal 'evildoer'. They PLAN to do any and every kind of evil to the very one they've vowed to love and care for until their death. They just want their death to come sooner, rather than later! AND they PLAN to enjoy every moment of causing their partner's demise! Honestly, this continual ill will leaves one with no choice but to get out, get protected and get far away, as quickly as possible. But NOTE: Fully 40% of FIRST attacks of physical violence, including those which cause death, happen within 3 months of the time a woman is leaving a relationship. Be very, very careful-- put nothing past them! Remember, they were, and are, walking a totally lying, evil path while only pretending to be a good person.
Again, thank you so much, Darren, for all the understanding you've imparted which facilitated deep emotional healing that I could never have achieved on my own. I'm certain you've worked hard, but you're also very gifted. Thank you for all the time you've spent helping lift up poor souls just lying in a heap, weeping from their many intense wounds. May God richly and intensely bless you!

[BobTheSchipperke]

You got it! If you do well that's a problem, if you don't that's a problem.

[jeankipper]

Right on, right down the line. And they can take offense incredibly easily. About important things, true. But also incredibly trivial things, even invisible things, even imaginary things. Wasband would become livid, describing events and discussions of 40 years before, in grade school. Let alone more current things. And everyone is obligated to pay homage. Well except from superiors, while in their presence. VERY difficult to be around. And never, ever, acknowledge that THEY CAUSE so much misery for the people around them. Awful people.

[gaillowrie]

Nobody could word it better darren magee what a guy!

[lemonzestsalt]

I'm a young adult, and I've been struggling with anxiety (and currently under antidepressant medication) for the past 3 years
I did know before all that, that my father was toxic, and I had many "traumas" because of his behaviours, and so does my Mom and my little sister. But it was only after digging deeper in my memories and using the internet, that I realized that he is, in fact, a covert narcissist (your video about the covert narcissist is so much fitting with is personality and behaviours, it is so disturbing that i shared it with my Mom and she agreed with me)
So... Whenever we have some things to fix at home that require a foreign person to come into the house and fix it, he snaps, blames us for breaking it and not being too careful, and deminishes us for not being able to fix it. So, each time, when the plumber or any other worker, comes home, he starts "showing off", like he knows better than him and that teh worker an uncapable person, and he starts touching and interrupting the worker so many times, that my father ends up injured, the past week a massive brick that was put still againt a wall fell upon his hand and broke 2 of his fingers, and yet he still is deeply convinced that he is right for interfeering with the plumber's work