THIS Is Why You Text Your Ex When You KNOW You Shouldn’t

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In today's video, Thais Gibson explains why you text your ex when you know you really shouldn't. Watch now to learn about the importance of reprogramming your subconscious mind as Thais provides useful tips and guidance.
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00:00:00 - Intro
00:01:58 - Conscious and Subconscious Mind
00:05:03 - Reprogramming the Subconscious Mind
00:06:27 - Getting A Need Met
00:08:24 - 7-Day Free Trial: Discover and Embrace Your Needs
00:08:28 - Meeting Your Own Needs In Healthy Ways
00:10:34 - Conclusion

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[a.d.b]

He closed the door to us to allow me to find someone better. Thanks ex!!!

[omgcarsonnn]

It's really sad because as an AP the thing we want more than anything else in the entire world is for someone else to love us as much as we love them, and to not leave.

[Bulldogsrentfree-mg]

You know, I haven't done this with an ex, but this reminds me when I quit the gym as a personal trainer to become an independent one. I remember how difficult it was to spend time making phone calls to build networks, send out hand written letters introducing myself to prospects, and filming content for my YouTube channels as advertisement. Taking on those responsibilities was overwhelming to say the least and I often wanted to crawl into bed and go to sleep at the very thought of it. I simply made a rule to do what I knew was right regardless of how I felt and eventually it worked. I theorize I may have completely bypassed my subconscious mind by simply taking action. Had I not done that, I can practically guarantee I'd be working a J-O-B (I still can't say the word fully) sitting in morning and evening traffic everyday hoping for a fifty cent raise at my next review. Really good video, as it takes me back to those times!

[Mermaid_]

I’m an FA and yes I won’t do it again. I had to delete his contact info. Now, I don’t have his number.

[Butterflii]

I always struggle with the notion that I know I am capable of meeting most of my needs, but if these patterns derived from childhood where we learned to adapt in lack, am I just tired of doing this? I think I’m at that point where I just want someone to take care of me from time to time because caring for myself has become exhausting.

[Pinkyxohx]

I love this. I text mine this weekend, I had sent an audible by Eckhart Tolle, and I instantly regretted it because again takes forever to respond. He replied the early next morning, surprisingly used a lot of words and said good morning in the message, I freaked out and didn’t respond back. Because that’s the crap that i realize I genuinely can’t stand, which is when people act like everything is all good when it’s clearly not and it just reminds me also of how immature and fake the feeling is. It gives me the ick, it could be coworker or a stranger, if you know you did something wrong and pretend nothing happened without even apologizing or acknowledging what they did at least, I get so turned off. Ive been keeping myself busy with work, bible study, talk to an old friend and exercising.

[deannarobinson]

Thais Gibson… get out of my head, how is it possible that you can read my thoughts!!! 😂 Dorsnt matter…. I’m just here to express gratitude so deep that I can’t find adequate words… you’re saving so many lives! 🙏🏼

[quietmind]

I think a powerful subconscious attraction to someone is what can lead to a securely attached person becoming insecurely attached after being with the toxic dynamics of an avoidant narcissist.

So the subconscious mind can undermine a secure attachment style.

The vetting process has to beable to identify bad characters even through a powerful subconscious attraction, which can be very difficult.

[venusonearth]

Oh you ATE that!! Whew, the messaging in this video was so clear and hit me so hard it almost knocked my wig off😭

[uofodile]

I did text my ex over the weekend…no response and now I feel bad…never doing it again!

[suziesmith]

How do you fill the need for emotional validation? And physical intimacy not sex but hugs affection etc from yourself?

[emmikays]

I am in this situation with a DA friend right now. I used to work with them, left the job because it was a toxic environment, and we made plans to continue being friends. More than a month goes by of radio silence, where I'm texting but getting no response, and it triggers my anxiety (as my anxiety is already flared up bc the job triggered my core wounds). I text "are we okay?" and get nothing... so eventually I just sent a goodbye text with a letter about how I valued this person but this perceived abandonment hurt me so bad. I didn't want to say goodbye, but I thought they'd already walked away, so it seemed easier. Like, tidy.

Except...then my friend texts back and explains some things in a really meaningful way. And then I felt guilty, because the only person in charge of my emotional response to things is me. And this person clearly has their own struggles but is open to change. So I send another lengthy text (vetted by my therapist lol) saying while the silence hurt, I let my own fears lead me to interpret it a certain way and put words in my friend's mouth. And also that (as a DA) if they need space, they deserve to be able to set that boundary, and if they had communicated that I would have been happy to learn how to meet that need. That I wasn't saying that to guilt-trip, but that I know I feel X way when I set boundaries, so if they at all feel that way too, it sucks but they deserve to be able to.

And now, even though I logically feel good about communicating securely and being empathetic, it's been more than a week and I catch myself checking my texts and thinking of how long to wait until I send another. This person made me feel safe in an environment I didn't always. I guess it's time to find other materials to build that safety net with, on my own.

[muma]

ppl don't text to feel better, ppl text to share... well, I'm talking about healthy ppl. And sometimes ppl tell you not to text a friend out of jealousy. You have to work things out yourself, case by case.

[shahendaelmahdy]

I suffered from this a lot and now after realizing the causes I will work on myself

[pixieazul]

Thanks for putting this in perspective and explaining it in plain language.

❤

[katenicholson]

I don’t know about this. The needs I received from my ex were humor and affection. I’ve gotten my needs for humor met with my closest friends and affection dating other people, but I still miss this particular ex. Maybe because he is my first love. What about when the need is being met but you are still thinking about the ex? There’s something unique about every person. I don’t know if it’s fair to reduce it to needs. We shared our hearts with them. We invested. It meant so much more. Spoken like a true FA lol.

[Angie.]

My God the Makes so much sense! Every video including yours always states that you put tiur ex on a pedestal smh that is definitely not always true i clearly see what he is not, done, is and his heart good and bad yet i can't ever find the tools to help me understanding myself to not continue with the urge just to land in a mary go round after 7 years. If the mind understands then you can move towards change and relief in not continuing the cycle. Ive gained some relief in my understanding with what you explained just now. Thank you immensely ❤

[hijadewebber]

This video is so insightful, thank you!

[bossbear]

Holy cow this is a super super great video Thais. I am a healing AP trying to get secure and this is a huge blueprint for me. Thank you so much!!!

[kate]

Hi Thais! Can you please make a video on how to overcome shame and guilt as an ex fearful avoidant for being toxic in the past? I feel like a terrible person but I didn’t know better at that time..
And a video on relationship ocd and how it relates to the attachment styles? Thank you 🙏