When He Flakes On You, Send Him THIS Text (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

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You had a lovely date. The guy told you he was “looking forward to seeing you again sometime.”

Then a day goes by... then a week... still nothing…

Suddenly he texts: “heyyyy.” You send a few messages back and forth, but you wonder why he’s so flaky about making plans with you.

In this week’s video, I show you a live demo of the HIGH-VALUE response you must give a guy to guarantee he’ll grow a pair and schedule a REAL date with you...

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[opalfishy]

I swear dating is more difficult than organic chemistry

[fly]

Ok. If he really wants to see you. He will make plans to see you.

[terigalvin]

After watching a few of Matthew's videos, I've come to the conclusion men are too much hard work. I'm going put that energy into myself.

[heatherwhitt]

What is with the freaking games? I want someone who wants me. I don't want to have to play the stupid powerstruggle. How hard is it to have no b.s.?

[Ask]

I thought she messed up by responding at all lol. Girls just need to get real guy friends and watch them then pay attention to the way guys behave. They tell you loud and clear who they are, what they're about, and what they think of you. We just tend to try and excuse it with hopes they'll fall in love. Beauty and the beast ain't real life dolls.

[zanbaqmotta]

Man this shit is too much
I'm so tired 😟
Single is the way for me

[pinkunicornglitter]

The girl got so excited at the prospect of a date that she jumped the gun and made herself look less valuable.
Her response basically translates to : "Omg you are showing interest, here, take my weekend I have nothing better to do!"
I would have said "well i'm pretty busy this week but what did you have in mind?"
and to his "I'll hit you up over the weekend" I most definitely would have said " It will have to be something good since you owe me bigtime for flaking on the last one ;) "

Sidenote: An important rule to remember is unless you have a day, a time and a place, you do NOT have a date.

[Jamieisastar]

I was in this situation! ! I wanted things to work so bad and made all those same mistakes, and you're right the guy just treated me like he'll get to me when he felt like it. It got to a point when he had fallen asleep when he was suppose to be picking me up to hangout and would say we would see each other over the weekend but then totally ignore all my texts to confirm plans. He was disrespecting me soooo bad that I had to take a step back and be like this is not what I want! when he got back to me he acted like as if he didn't flake on our plans and that's when I told him I didn't want to see him anymore. ironically enough he would text me every single day since telling him that and I repeatedly had to tell him I wasn't interested anymore because of how he treated me. He was a jerk, never even apologized for anything he did so I'm so glad he is out my life.

[MainelY]

Problem is 95% of the guy's reaction will be 'I can't be bothered'.
We live in a world where being replaced by someone else easier to get is a matter of swipes.
I just think that the line between self respect and snob-busy-hard to get is very thin.

[Ivy]

Better to just end things with a guy who flakes. Better to find another guy who respects and cares about you.

[pashminagal]

I had that situation, I used sarcasm, and said sure I'll just wait around until you get your shit together. winky face. Then he started to back peddle, then I made myself busy for a while!

[queengoddess]

JUST USED THIS METHOD AND IT WORKED INSTANTLY!! Thank you Matthew. Mr X just flaked on our date and offered a rain cheque. I Responded with: Babe I don’t do Rain Cheques. Reschedules or nothing 😘 Call me and let’s make a plan for whenever..

He texted loving my “attitude 😍”. Explained what’s going on in his life that made him flake ( all genuine and very serious) and scheduled a phone call for later in the evening. Oh and confirmed how much he’s looking forward to seeing me again. In CAPITAL LETTERS.

Previously I would have responded in a selfless, pathetic “oh it’s ok....I know you’re busy” 🤮

[DearSybersue]

Such great advice Matthew! Although I think the first mistake she made was texting HIM after he flaked on her. That shows him that she is OK with being treated like that. If he really felt bad about it he would have texted her making new plans right away.

[missmadelinesadventures]

Don't chase people ever. Be you and let others want to be where you are.

[colleen]

Better yet, when someone is truly serious about ANY relationship they CALL.

[laurabarr-kyrzyk]

This, and the other types of videos, are really important for women to understand. Back in the mid 2000s, I bought an e-book called catch him and keep him. Was a sobering and embarrassing read, let me tell you. After I got over the embarrassment and started having more self respect (!) my dates got better. Self respect isn’t Bout being a snob or a b-atch. Play it cool at first when dating. Men WANT to be doing the chase. They are hard wired for that. Make yourself want able with good health, good attitude and values. The dirt bags will give up and your prince will appear. I met a wonderful man in 2009 and in 6 months he dropped the big hint that we would be married. And we did 2 years later. Still married now. God Bless you ladies and stay well!!!

[sashasemenova]

2:13 find a man who looks at you the way that guy looks at Matt

[fiachmactire]

I honestly don't want to play these mind games, I hate relationship politics and negotiating underhandedly. I expect an adult, who, when I give him options, he lets me know ahead of time what he's picking. Not this "I might give you a call this weekend since you look so free..." That man needs to go, because I'm not his momma and I'm not gonna teach him manners!

And this doesn't make me an angry woman...I would not angrily be saying anything to him.

[aprilfelton]

this really great solid advice. let's face it...we are watching this video because someone flaked out on us. If dude brings up a future date I know how to handle him.

[cinthiabien-aime]

I personally think it's too much work and overthinking (what to text, what not to text). A real connection flows naturally, but indeed, when a guy flakes on you, be cool about it. Let him know you're disappointed, but move on. Like Matt says, it's her choice if she still want to meet him. From my observations, men who keep on these epistolary relationships are either attached to someone else or getting over a breakup while not being able to invest in dating... and therefore most of the time looking to get