How to Learn to Say 'No'

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The trick to saying "no" is to do it in a way that doesn't invite discussion. These strategies will head off any arguments.

Step 1: Just say "no"
Just say "no" – don't offer any reasons for your refusal. Simply say, "I'm so sorry, but I can't." Then change the subject. Otherwise, you invite the person to challenge your excuse.

Tip
Make sure your body language conveys "no" by standing up straight and looking the asker in the eye.

Step 2: Sandwich it
If you can't be that abrupt, slip your "no" between two positive statements. For example, "I'm so flattered you asked! Unfortunately, I can't do it. But aren't you nice to think of me!"

Step 3: Offer an alternative
Offer an alternative if you can, such as, "Why not ask Susie? I'm sure she'd love to." This is especially satisfying if you know Susie will dread the request.

Step 4: Compromise
If you feel guilty about declining, make the person a counteroffer. Say, "I can't do that, but here's what I can do."

Step 5: Compliment them
End on a positive note by complimenting the person. It will take the sting out of your rejection. We're all suckers for a compliment, even if we suspect it's insincere.

Did You Know?
Eighty-two percent of women surveyed say they have trouble saying "no" to people.

[deborahdahlsimpson]

It is very hard to say No.But so very important to us.

[UmaKelleher]

Wow! I had learn a hug step say “No”. This was my biggest trouble with me in the entry life. Thanks so much.

[TheBigBlueNargle]

I acctualy prefer when people are abrupt I worked up the corage to ask and you have the right to say no if you don't want to say it.

[naughtynavraj]

i know some people fing this thing stupid, a crap that tells common things in too detail. But there are some people who are not that good in socializing, making friends etc. etc. and this video really helps them. Including me.
Good job :)

[TheSkim]

congratulations!!! you've done'em

[bravealexander]

These guyz are working hard on these videos, , , can people just stop making joke of what they doingg ???? actually, there is a lot a of useful information that some people don't notice it.. beleive me...

[alkku]

1:20

thanks for a `bright`women logic 

[Arlothedno]

I never thought it took so many steps to say no.

[oldpiq]

The problem is that most people saw the tutorial called "How to make people agree to do everything you ask".

[zomgmadii]

Step one: Place the tip of your tongue against the roof of your mouth, and then move your mouth into a circular shape.
Tip: do this in one fluid motion, while vibrating your vocal chords.
Congratulations! You've successfully said "no."
Did you know: This fact has absolutely nothing to do with the video you just watched. :D

[Teenscenequeen]

Think of it as your mom telling you to tidy your room then its easy to say no ;)

[garlic_time]

this is how that survey probably went down:
a randomer runs up to a hunder women asking yes or no
82 of them said no

[goldbullet]

i only watch howcast videos for the facts at the end

[isimmer]

Step 1: Say
Step 2: Say
Now put it together.
"No."

[WinterNevada]

if you can't say no, say.. THIS IS SPARTA!!!

[wwekristian]

this is how you say now
first and last- just say no

[mitsign]

step 1: say "let me
step 2: walk away

[igurl]

if someone i know asks me something i have a heart that won't say no cause i just don't want to embarass or hurt anyone so usually i have to say yes unless i dont know them.haha

[alaakamal]

step 1: put ''N'' and ''O'' together to make the word ''NO''
step 2: say it!
step 3: Done
Fact : do u know that my parents not from the 82% who cant say ''NO''

[wwekristian]

this is how to say now
first and last- just say no