Therapist reacts to Coming Undone by Korn

Therapist analyzes the lyrics of Coming Undone by Korn to discuss how allowing yourself to come undone, to be unraveled and opened so others can see and help you sort through your pain is one of the strongest things you can do. She also discusses how men, in particular, are often conditioned their whole lives to NOT do this, and how it can be difficult to break that conditioning, and they often hide their pain in order to appear "strong". Coming Undone is sometimes a necessary step in the healing process.

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[stevenfehrenbach]

As a child, Korn was like my therapy band. It was like, if this guy lived an abusive childhood but could become this amazing artist and influence, maybe there was hope.

[donavanantoine]

Fun fact, Coming Undone was written to go along with We Will Rock You. They even do a chorus of it when playing Coming Undone live.

[JMulvy]

Korn has always been really good at turning these really tough subjects into memorable and joyous songs. To the point where people can get away with fudging their way through the lyrics, but when you read the lyrics your mind is blown. Like you had no idea that it was so heavy.

[Am_bb]

"Alone I Break" is another song by Korn that hits deep. Definitely recommend checking that one out.

[NogrimStoneson]

even in in suicide the fear of failure plays a part for men, the only thing worse than doing it is fucking it
one day at a time guys, one day at a time.

[andrewmcallister]

As an Army Infantry veteran, These lyrics Sink Deep, So Strong so delicate.... We're supposed to be the toughest and strongest, winning Battles and pulling people out of the fire, but our community doesn't reach out for the help that is needed, and this results is a heartbreaking💔 amount of Veteran suicide. We place this prideful stigma on ourselves, I wish that could be Undone. There is No Shame whatsoever in being in need of some help, Iron sharpens Iron. It's only with help from others that be can be the best version of ourselves. Can't do it on your own.

[AppalachianChaplin]

I will never stop coming back to watch her enjoy life as much as she does. I've said a couple times in the comments how I just struggle to anymore due to going certain routes in life, but I always get a smile seeing others enjoy things, and let's be honest, ain't no one enjoying music more than this beautiful soul of a woman. Keep on bein you, and I'm sure all of us will keep on watchin🤘👍

[michaelsutherland]

As someone who's spent a lot of time in therapy and inpatient/outpatient programs and juvenile programs for the way I was and slightly still am I can say that korn is truly a blessing. Allowing people like me to have a release and see that my pain isn't the end of me no matter how much I tell myself I just can't do it. Being able to put your feelings to words when you're at a complete loss is something so touching to the soul.

[SurroundedByIdgets]

Someone needs to tell her. Most metal music is pain. Struggling in life and hating life and jamming out to express that pain. Which is why metal helps so many people

[ondramusil]

This song is pure gift. I've been dealing with anxiety and panic attacks for few years and I refused to find any help just because of the mentioned reasons - be strong, keep it to yourself, it will go away somehow, just try to hide it to be "a man". Man, I didn't tell my lovely girlfriend, that I'm expieriencing something and I don't know how deal with it. But then I opened to her, scared as fuck by thoughts like, She won't love me anymore, cause these things are not manly, and it means I'm weak... Surprise, surprise, she helped me to find a psychologist to go to, she supports me everytime and our relationship is beautiful. KoRn music helped me, still helps me, when bad moments come just by listening to it and it reminds me, that I'm not alone.
If anyone reading this feels like I did, I have to tell you, You ARE strong and great person and if you feel like you need help, don't be afraid to ask for it. <3
Best of luck to y'all, this is beautiful community.

[darkripper]

I love that how, in the beginning, it was day, later night and later just nothing...

[ReactsReacts]

Love the way you turn the dark lyrics into a way of moving forward in a positive light, it is very true that people need to be able to release the things that have happened in the past that they can’t change, not saying to forget about it, but instead to accept it, to learn from it, and move forward in a positive light, love this reaction, well done!❤

[ghilean]

More Korn please, and thank you! <3

[mikebadjester]

This song just reminds me of masking. I was having a terrible time with my mental health even asking friends for help and getting blank looks. Asking my work for support and not getting it because I didn't seem that bad. It took a support worker asking me to give him a numerical value of how I was feeling because I had been hiding my CPTSD and undiagnosed ADHD and my mask was too good to be seen through. Then my support worker saw the pain I was in and got me to push to see a psychiatrist to get a diagnosis and help. I am still on that journey and after 53 years I still get days when I am coming undone. I found this channel and love how you use music to discuss mental health as music has always been the way I survive and not end my days. Music is my way of seeing I am not alone. Thank you from a 53-year-old man still here and fighting.

[glendaly]

Korn have so many songs that are gifts. Sean Olson is a gift song, along the same theme as Daddy, but addressing the feeling of powerlessness and how as a kid you think that you are in control by giving what they want.

Good God is a gift of a song.

[phenixfire]

@heartsupport you really should do a binge of Korn there are so many songs that are so good at portraying many different mental struggles that JD and many man go through. There are actually people who have thanked Korn for saving their lives because of their music.

[SvenS]

Surprised you haven't covered "Falling Away From Me", given you also covered "Freak on a Leash'.

It's a direct continuation to that track

[chrisd]

"It doesn't sound sad." It isn't supposed to. The lyrics aren't filtered through sadness, they're filtered through anger, years and years of using anger as a coping and survival mechanism. "Don't be sad, get angry!" "Don't feel pain, get angry!" "Don't give up, get angry!"

[russfed]

As a psychologist in training, who loves metal, who also has struggled and still struggles with my own mental health, your insight and passion is incredibly inspiring. Talking about coming undone being like a present to show our beautiful and vulnerable selves really hit hard. Please keep reacting to emotional metal/hardcore videos. You are incredibly valuable and entertaining.

[danxrs]

First of all, your videos and analysis are SUPER interesting but I have to say that your energy is contagious. I watch your videos and headbang with you from Canada! haha.
Love it!