How to Solicit Help when you Need It | @ShadeZahrai #shorts

Picture this: you're in a meeting, and you need help with a task. You ask, "I need someone to help me pull the report together. Does anyone have the capacity?"

Silence…
People avert their gaze…
No one responds.

Has this ever happened to you when in a group setting?

This frustrating situation is a prime example of the ‘Bystander Effect’ — a psychological phenomenon where individuals are less likely to offer help when there are others present.

In this scenario, responsibility is diffused among the attendees, causing the plea for assistance to go unanswered and leaving the person in need feeling unsupported.

And this applies in professional setting, social setting and even personal relationships.

So what can you do?

Rather than asking a group for help, go to individual directly.

When you ask someone specific for assistance, they are more likely to feel personally responsible and invested in the task at hand.

(PS – It’s worth noting that studies have also found that various other factors influence the likelihood of people offering to help, including whether it’s an emergency, the relationship dynamics and perceived expertise.)

What about you? Have you ever noticed this in action? 👇

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[davidleonard]

People are afraid to put their hand up in a group, 100% need to ask people individually and then thank them in the meeting for helping.

[rubencaballero]

I carry the attitude of gratitude with me every day. Asking for help doesn’t mean you’re stupid or inadequate, it simply means you need help with something specific for a time. Instead of seeing that we are giving others an opportunity to contribute, we think that asking for help means we are a burden. But confident people often ask others for help, not only because they are secure enough to… they know that asking, ‘Can you help me?’ Shows respect for others person’s knowledge and abilities. Otherwise, they wouldn’t ask.
Practice asking for help. Make a list of what you could ask for help with; laundry? Walking the dog? Ask for help.
Thank you for sharing, your are a treasure.

[leobeaupre]

Thank You Shade, very Sensible : - )

[mfiin]

Totally agree Shade, love all your tidbits 😊

[lahongwan]

Yes so true be helpful and friendly to others, proactively, so they'll help you back when required this make you comfortable to give others love. Thank you Shade for your help.👍✨💯❤️

[benvergus]

Good tip! Bystander effect is very true, also in groupchats

[baharhussain]

Too nice lesson
Responsibility is important and people are always afraid of this word

[patrick_]

Trust me, I love the way you talk, your voice is so sweet, you are indeed such an inspiring person to me.

[Living_Maximally]

For what it's worth (and I'm by no means an expert), I think that the principle of reciprocity is far more powerful and effective. I've found that if you make it a habit of being kind and helpful to your colleagues and friends etc., most will jump at the opportunity to help you, sometimes even without the asking—though this should obviously not be our reason for being kind, it does seem to explain people's eagerness to help when the need arises, seemingly through a feeling of indebtedness on the recipient's part.

"Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for a kindness."
—Seneca

"To find the best in others; To leave the world a bit better... To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded."
—Ralph Waldo Emerson

Hope this helps💜

[kashifhasnainofficial]

Valuable information. I will try this in my training session

[Hans_Magnusson]

This is a really good idea 👍
Groups are individual people together in one place.
Remember to consider how each individual communicate in the group.
If you want their individual point of view, the order of your inquiries matters.
The big boss first. You run the risk of everyone agrees with him/her

[aarrvindmbd]

she is one smart women without acting like man
, well maintained feminine and smart

[walterpen]

I've learned to never ask a close family member. They first seem to be extremely helpful and then completely ignored me at a very crucial time. Lesson learned.

[Arhan]

Listening you is always pleasure...grt stuff and grt presentation 😊

[coachjimmyers]

You have an amazing voice! 💥 Definitely some valuable content also 👍

[paulmakali]

Great advise madam. You are speaking to me.Thanks for sharing!!

[trshy]

Thank youuu!! ❤ This is so need <3
Especially for students who really want to be in a group that is teamwork

[keerthichandra]

The ignored my pleas even though I used the word please. Made me feel like an unpleasant peasant

[KuldipSingh-pwec]

When we ask someone for help, it also means that the person is affectionate or good in nature that you have selected out of many.

[hoiabaciufan]

That is what they taught us at the CPR course