The Power Of Patience

If you exercise patience consistently, you are in a fairly exclusive club. Dr. Les Carter describes why patience can be so difficult to master, then he highlights 8 adjustments you can make as you seek to improve in this necessary trait. It can be learned, but it requires concentration and planning.

Dr. Les Carter is a semi-retired psychotherapist who spent 41 years in private practice in the Dallas, Tx. metroplex. He now resides in Waco, Tx. He has conducted over 65,000 counseling sessions, written extensively, and has presented many workshops and seminars.

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[AlwaysStampinVideos]

“Love is patient. Patience is love.” SO good! TY, Dr. Carter!

[loveorganicteanotwar]

Because my Dad is narc, impatience was how my repressed anger manifested as a young adult... I had a child with autism when i was 21, and boy did that teach me patience and compassion ... Hes now 20 an lovely lad, Im very proud of how he's become a happy go lucky polite young man... Now my only time I'm impatient is when I'm driving lol. But I'm aware of it and laugh at myself if someone makes me get worked up.

Thanks for your videos Dr C, as a survivor of childhood narcissistic abuse, you have helped me tremendously with your other channel. Much love from the UK.

[lovemymini]

Thank you so much for caring for the mental well being of other people. My life is better for it. 🙏

[renee]

Very very very patient for 27 long long long years... 👍

[sklavinian]

After multiple videos of narcissism, this is a welcome addition in learning to cope, deal, and handle stressful situations and difficult people. If nothing else, the power of patience is the power of self-control, of keeping cool, or seeing the bigger picture, and most importantly, of helping yourself in in being flexible and adaptable to uncertain and oftentimes painful situations. Thanks once again for "dad voice" counselor :)

[jeffwatkins]

The secret to patience is set your ego aside and give yourself to the task.. vs the usual ego indulgence and wanting the world to revolve around you. Also if you run into a hiccup, slow down, stop, take the time to sort it, and to learn.. then keep repeating that w/o respect of time so that you take the time to be a rookie at things as needed.

[pepperbird]

To be patient is already having a key to inner peace. Patience gives an opportunity to listen and observe and learn about others. It's an advantage that supports empathy and helps it grow. Narcissists can take advantage of one's patience and even use it as their "supply, " so one must careful of that.

[anesasosevic]

Whenever I am a patient in my life, I help myself to overcome problems l face to, as well as, to win difficult people. Whener I am not a patient, I help others to win me. Patience is salvation.

[izawaniek]

Patience is Love. I like it. Thank you dr Carter.

[susannay.]

I can't control others but I can control me (most of the time! 😏). And that patience I exhibit can help others know what that's about. ❤

[rihannagirl]

Thank you for the practical tips!
1. Be adaptable and flexible within your goals and desires
2. Know when to assert yourself and when to let things roll off your back
3. Accept people for what they are (flaws, limitations etc.) ~no one is perfect~
4. Be persistent and diligent as your pursue your goals (work around difficult tasks or characters)
5. Know what you are responsible for and what is not your responsibility
6. Know what you can and cannot fix (Don't fixate on solving things esp when they can't be)
7. Have back-up plans and have realistic expectations before facing a stressor
8. Know that life is unpredictable- Have empathy (for yourself and others)

[leonap]

PATIENCE IS LOVE!!LOVE IS PATIENT!!
Patience keeps me from from getting a headache when people aren't patient.

[jlo]

Contingency plans…sounds like what my Father taught me as a kid “hope for the best plan for the worst”.

[maryseboyer]

Patience shows your wisdom and inner peace.

[olgakim]

"Stress is caused by being here but wanting to be there." -- Eckhart Tolle

[oxigenarian]

#8 is really important.
I worked with a guy who was trouble with a capital T and I did not like his impulsive, bullying nature. Even so, he had a saying that added an enduring piece of wisdom to my life:
He would often say, "Twenty years from now, what difference will it make?"
When a situation arises and I feel like jumping in with both feet, I ask myself that question. It always adds the right perspective.

[AlwaysStampinVideos]

Patience (for me) was (is) always difficult when dealing with the narcissist(s) in my life because when chaos is stirred up (by the narcissist’s rush to dismiss, demean, disqualify, or deny, ) i tend to feel/desire an even greater sense for the need of peace to be present. I use to think for peace to be present, resolve had to take place. I’m learning resolve is simply a rare jewel when dealing with a narcissist. Coming to terms with this realization has helped me to develop patience with the narcissist (which actually ends up looking more the color of a gray rock than the color of a rare jewel.)

[shotpusher]

I’ve found to not expect too much from people or situations helps to increase my patience.

[gloriacoleman]

Yes indeed need to work on patience, Lord help me, but also diplomacy is another, Lord help me with that too.

[joannajohnson]

I have all the patience in the world for children. I have worked with disabled/special children for years. When I know an adult is extremely intelligent & they fail to "listen" intentionally, that is where I need to do a better job. I guess being with a narc they expect everyone to listen, but they epically refuse to be considerate.