Understand THIS About Making Decisions

Dr. K’s Guide to Mental Health explores Anxiety, Depression, ADHD, and Meditation

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[shannonjones]

Just take your burger, toss the bread aside, add more veggie toppings.

There's your salad right there.

[repli]

I feel this, once I stopped playing League of Legends, I started being more productive... Now I just need to stop doomscrolling youtube

[ItsAsparageese]

Ooh this really validates my construct/epiphany a while back that Wanting to Quit and Wanting to Smoke were two DIFFERENT bars/levels/metrics in my brain and I could want both at varying independent levels. I got much better at sustained quitting once I realized I could never rely on the Wanting to Smoke level dropping, but instead had to develop/feed the Wanting to Quit more than the Wanting to Smoke.

This view has really helped me and others I know with addiction and other behavioral health issues. Glad to hear it's a decently approximate reflection of these types of things actually cognitively being separate choices rather than simply their own single 1/0.

[prinnydadnope]

The best thing you can do if you try to stop eating processed food is to not buy it. If you go buy your food when well fed and all, and focus on not buying process stuff, you won't have the option to eat the process stuff later when your focus is out of the window

[G.r.e.g.g.l.e.s]

I actually like salads, but I'm an impulsive ADHDer. So I DEFINITELY know the distinction between these 2 tasks lol

[them]

This works exceptionally well with getting people to "quit" smoking. Don't QUIT doing what you do, that's too hard. BECOME a non-smoker, because you want to.

"Easy Way to Stop Smoking" -Alan Carr

[ayemiksenoj]

To me this is a very spiritual understanding and practice.

[thatdirtydawg]

I don't have the full context of the clip, but in most cases it seems to me that a generally healthier way to live is to adjust and moderate our access to the "bad" and "unhealthy" things rather than framing them as bad and unhealthy and totally abstaining from them. This is especially true in the case of food where I think such labels don't entirely make sense. A burger, for instance, can be a perfectly "healthy" food choice (in that it is nutritionally dense) if prepared a certain way.

[simonflodin]

wow never thought about it like this. another task is even coming up with an alternate option

[megabeetlejuicer]

Great insight, gonna remember this one

[renxiongmao]

Coming in clutch with the advice I needed yet again

[mythmakroxymore]

Reflected in our movies too. “Make your own way, ” am i right?

[caitlynvayne]

I'll eat both the burger and the salad for efficient decision making. 😂

[DeaFX]

This is the exact same thing as when you mentioned work hours in another video. We go to work for 8 hours per day but only do 3-6 hours of effective work because of other things that get in our way and occupy our time

[denote]

Recently I found myself not taking pride in work that I’ve done because I didn’t recognize getting rid of the bad as a step forward because I was so focused on the outcome. Thus id put myself down. Acknowledging that now I have started to feel better. I’m learning to be kinder to myself. Which in turn is helping me achieve goals whereas I’d be hard on myself in the past and not feel as I’ve accomplished anything

[marc.vonwyl]

I always see this as a two parts problem. The second one is unrolling the event (which I learned on this channel). Thinking about what will happen if I take the salad, and I see future me (2 hours later) feeling good and healthy, or taking the burger and I see future me feeling sluggish. This makes the desire for junk food go down, and the desire for healthy food go up.
Now the first part is the most important, as the first works on the assumption that the following is true. I need to love myself. Because, if I love myself, I will want to take care of myself to feel good in 2 hours. I feel if I secretly despise myself, I will be more tempted to take the junk food knowing it will hurt later. Somehow, numbing myself now and giving myself what I believe I deserve.
It seems at the core of most "bad" behaviour we can find a deep, often unconscious and internalized self-hate.
What do you guys think?

[jena]

Bro left that renovating analogy as soon as he figured out it wasnt going anywhere lmao.

[chrisshurtz]

My wife literally talking how she doesn't want to go out with friends because she needs to eat salad but wants a burger. She said this to me while I was on a ladder ripping down my garage wall. I'm not even joking. YouTube Algorithm is getting scary good.

[second_second_]

Interesting. This type is if there's two opposite types (healthy & unhealthy, good & not so good, resisting & choosing the good instead of the bad).

What if it's a decision between two neutral things/actions (not that good, but neutral things that have pros and cons)?

[honeybun]

For me there’s a third passive option which kind of fed into an eating disorder, which is just “don’t eat” because I don’t want the healthy option but also I’m resisting the unhealthy option, so I’m stuck in diet limbo where I don’t eat 🎉😅