How To KILL Your Fear (in 7 minutes)

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Failure might delay your dreams, but fear will kill them. Because fear leads to inaction.

So in today’s video, you’ll learn 7 tricks to help silence that voice in your head that fears rejection.

That way you can go into any conversation with confidence, knowing you’ll feel completely unphased even if you do get rejected


⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰

0:00 - Intro
0:23 - #1: You are not your first impression
1:05 - #2: Rejection is inevitable. Shame is optional
2:09 - #3: Life is a numbers game
2:45 - #4: Amp up your carrot/stick motivation
3:15 - #5: Rejections are good for you
5:24 - #6: See rejection as a sign that you aren't a good match
5:49 - #7: Focus on becoming the type of person who has options

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[vd]

I really like the idea that they didn't reject you, they just rejected what you presented to them.
Who came up with that? Thats really strong.

[RurouniTim]

"The longer you live, the more you fail. Failure is the mark of a life well lived. In turn, the only way to live without failure is to be of no use to anyone. Trust me, Ive practiced”

[sidogga]

When I was a kid, I was hypersensitive to rejection and what people think of me. Nowadays, I cold approach and cold call prospective dates and clients on a continual basis, facing rejection after rejection after rejection. The best way to overcome this is when you cold call or approach someone to time yourself 3 seconds and just act. Get out there and do it, the world isn't watching you, only yourself.

[Domzdream]

I just love the quote from Dune 1984....'Fear is the mind-killer'.

[Pretzelman]

Fear of rejection is the main thing holding me back in life right now. I've realized this lately more than ever. This video could not have been better timed.

[deadeyejac]

Instructions were unclear. I went to a bank teller and asked for all of the money in the vault. I'm now on my 5 min prison internet allowance with extreme fear of rejection.

[BlueMist]

I grew up with the usual shyness and insecurity (might also stem from being homeschooled and having few social interactions apart from my neighborhood friends), I'm also introverted so putting myself out there and being all "Hi! Hello! Can I be your friend?" was the least of my interests.
Then, I don't know, something kind of broke inside me where I just felt, "F*ck it I'm tired of this. Whatever they think of me, I don't care."
And somewhere along the line I grew to have this "It's their loss." and "Whatever, I'm still awesome." mindset. So interacting with people, whether I connected with them or not, held no weight to me. If I made a friend, cool. If I didn't, so what?
And also, I can have fun by myself, so making friends became optional. Which apparently gave me this somewhat cool or aloof or chill image, which ended up drawing people to me instead of me chasing them. I became sort of mysterious I suppose. And the more this went on, the more confident and self-assured I became. The notion that every interaction with anyone is just 1. Optional, and 2. Can go either way and I don't care which way it goes, I'll be fine.
(I might add that I also enjoy focusing on my work/activities and particularly excelling at them, so my results kind of spoke for themselves and with that, people noticed me more I guess).

[justoneman]

One day, a couple years after my divorce, I thought to myself "what do I have to lose, really? and lost all fear of approaching women. Now I'm 7 years strong with an amazing woman. There was definitely a learning curve for dating after so many years of marriage, but it worked out.

[noneofyourbusiness]

As a barista, please don’t come in and ask for free coffee. I promise you can find rejection acceptance practice somewhere else. 😅

[yc]

I always remember this quote from somewhere, every additional no gets me closer to a yes.

[NeonSuperNovas]

One trick I use is remembering that in 100 years from now, everyone in your situation is going to be dead and no one is going to remember any of that situation. It’s kinda dark, but it takes away my anxiety because I know that none of it matters in the end.

[stevenkoops]

If you let go of the fear of rejection, by getting a lot of rejections. It doesn't matter anymore if you get rejected, if the anxiety goes away, it will be much easier to have more confidence. And therefore, get less rejected.

[maozetang]

This has got to be one of the most useful videos I've ever seen. I'm in door to door sales, and I signed up for Charisma University in order to help me improve my results. But on the days when I need help keeping the darkness at bay, I really needed this perspective!

[Gal-znkm]

This makes sense in theory, in practice it's certainly often a different story. If rejection always came in a very clear format that was easily understood and with feedback on what you did wrong, it would be a LOT easier to learn from the mistake and improve. However, many times rejection is unspoken and you're left guessing on whether you've been rejected or not, whether you did something wrong or not. Now some would argue "Just ask then" and that's true, that is an option. But after a few decades of rejection after rejection when you thought you were doing good things and needing to ask if something is wrong and what you did wrong, it becomes a habit to ask which is also a problem for many people. And when you then learn that people will literally reject you for asking if you did something wrong, you stop asking and start internalizing. So I like the advice on paper, but in practice it falls short.

[DigitalAndInnovation]

I swear this channel has taken the DBT curriculum and put it into practice incredibly well!

[bgjazz]

This was awesome! Helped me get over some mental barriers

[Warden-NiNJeN]

That's actually so good!

A valuable video! ✨

[edwindelacruz]

Wow. Just WOW. I know I've been doing this but sometimes it still hurts. Watching this video liberated and empowered me more. Just seeing those celebrities and remembering that they too had to undergo such regiment of embarrassing situations made me feel already a success while being rejected. Thanks for making this video. I'm hungry for rejections now because I know that at the end of that tunnel is a pot of gold. 🤔 Ü 👍🤗😇❤️

[snapeinvader]

I definitely could have used this video a couple of years ago. Good to learn from!

[kulik]

That only works when you do get success sometimes (girl, job, etc)... when you've had literally nothing but rejections in your life, each rejection kills even more what little hope you have left