You deserve someone who cares

Sometimes we get so concerned with silencing ourselves to not make our partner upset that we forget...you deserve to be heard when you have a concern. You deserve the bare minimum of consideration when you have something on your heart. You deserve someone who cares.

How to get HER in the MOOD (funny)
#marriagevideo #relationshipgoals #anxiousattachment

[txspacemom]

Exactly. And there are no good times anymore. I laid it out on the line and all I got was silence. Silence is an answer. So I'm moving on.

[ElenaEll]

I am literally going through hell in my marriage right now. So much effort and sacrifice for someone who has never made a minimal effort for me. Wish strength to all people going through hard times

[LuciaAlejandra-xkbk]

So true!!! Nothing is worst than the feeling of loneliness while next to your so called partner, it's heartbreaking.

[edenjennings]

"You are always so negative" (invalidation) "you need to be grateful for the positive things" (toxic positivity and cognative dissonance) "even my family has commented on it" (triangulation) "you are why we cant move forward, quit living in the past!" (After being repeatedly stonewalled and no attempts at resolution, rendering the past the present)

[HimeMeagan]

Well now I’m sobbing at my kitchen table because that’s exactly what I’m going through

[MidnightPaprika]

I am currently going through a divorce because of this. There was no good time to talk- he was tired after work, or he was just trying to relax during his day off, or his kids were with us, or I was being "crazy" again. He told me repeatedly for 17 years that problems would go away if we ignored them long enough and that the only issue in our relationship was me because I was "crazy." I am watching videos like this to make sure that if I ever decide to date again, I set boundaries early and have a good handle on how to cultivate a healthy relationship.

[familyofmany]

How many times have I heard “now we can’t have a good weekend!” when I shared what I was thinking 😭
Thank you Jimmy for doing what you do.

[xems]

Closeness cannot exist in an environment of neglect. That right there is what I need to constantly remind myself

[excel]

In Japan they have the concept of Kintsugi - mending broken pottery with gold. The theory is that by valuing and embracing the imperfections of something treasured something even more beautiful is made. The wisdom you share here makes me think of this concept. You've been on a long and difficult journey in your marriage that no doubt broke apart what existed before. The gold you channelled into the cracks is now so bright the world can see and appreciate it.

[MzNayNaysWorld]

This is exactly my current life. Been dealing with this for years. But I'm so tired and hurt and stressed out. I have good days and bad days. What I mean by that is, some days I can put my pain and anger aside and it would seems like I'm happy and others the pain and anger rushes over me and i just sit and stare out of a window or cry. But I can't always talk about my feelings to him without an argument starting. I literally have to build myself up to a conversation about the hurt I'm feelings I know there will be a fight. So when I finally do, he will sigh roll his eyes get defensive and say what did I do now? We were having a good day today, you were ok this morning before I left. I have tried, but I'm tired now. I'm so exhausted being sad angry and lonely 😢I think I'm just scared to start over. Been with him for 16 years. I know I have to move on, just hard to do it😢

[monthc]

"I"m sorry for ruining your weekend" in that tone. You know, that tone.

[alip]

OMG this sums up my entire 10 year marriage (that is now over thankfully)

[riverafamily]

Man oh man I needed this video when I was 18. I endured it for 28 years. 😕

[laureldevine]

This is so true. I've been living this for 30 years.

[BrittanyHunter-fw]

Yes! My “partner” would threaten to or leave when I would bring up issues, and say “I don’t want you yelling at me” or something along those lines. My complaints were very valid, and due to neglect and the burden of the relationship being one-sided.

[Sarahmarie]

I’ve watched this a couple times already today. Completely correlates with my life right now and reassures me that I am making the right decision.

[HannahMickunas]

True. The real truth is that I don’t feel safe.

[asimcoe]

"You always ruin our good time!"
Oh yah, "our" good time, definitely together

[JennyAdiers]

You’re doing the Lord’s work friend! Well said 👏🏻

[nnylasoR]

Get this nail a bandage, will ya? — because you just HIT IT on the head.
I live with ‘Damned if I do, damned if I don’t.’ It is *never* the right time to talk about anything of substance. 😣