Men Fall in Love When You’re a Challenge

In this video, Fareen discusses how men fall in love when you're a challenge. To have a happy, sustainable long-term relationship there will be moments where absence and/or space are required, not out of playing games, but as a reflection of individuation, healthy self-esteem and self-worth. Without key moments of separation in long-term relationships, dissatisfaction and a loss of attraction will occur. In this video, I go over when absence works best in relationships and why it is crucial for long-term satisfaction in relationships. Men and love fall in love differently, and women usually treat men like women and do with them what they would want, which rarely works with men because men are hardwired entirely differently. Men love a woman, which appears as a challenge because this activates a different part of their brain, making them feel like they’re working for something they want - women don’t want that feeling. Naturally when there’s space, as humans we want to fill it. Painful and unpleasant emotions will make him move toward you - and if he’s not feeling that anxiety, he won’t do anything to close that gap. Your absence creates that pull for him to be with you more. This is the opposite for women because women fall in love in a man’s presence although our sexual desire peaks when a man is not around.

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[eclecticd]

Space and separation doesn’t scare me. I too value my freedom and independence it’s when there’s mixed signals and game playing that trigger the crazy in me.

[ytcitvu]

The only "coach" who truly said "if he is not into you, no push and pull, abscense, hot and could can help"
Works for both genders, please hear this

[amed.abraham]

I think men who fall for girls who make things unnecessarily challenging are those men who don’t have goals or aspiration and the ones who are internally lacking .. any true busy man doesn’t want any further challenges apart from business challenges and his time with his woman should be his respite and break from the perpetual challenges a man has to bust through everyday to progress. Why would a healthy, stable man invest with someone who makes life extra hard for him? .. it’s a recipe for a draining relationship that’s doomed

[hillmeli]

I can definitely resonate with your words. I have always been the type of girl that just doesn't give herself away to just anyone and definitely not right away. It's like my dignity won't allow me too. I think about my reputation alot and also how I stand for my honor as a woman. Men, I know, do see me as a challenge...and it has nothing to do with attitude...but with how I carry myself. I don't strut myself even though I am good looking and I don't show off because my esteem is from within and not without. There was a time when I thought, "Sheesh! Girl, give in a bit!" But, it always felt like I wasn't being real with myself. So, I believe guys see that, and they love that allure, because they know you're not out here chasing men...you're a woman who deserves to be approached with respect.

[goddess_Kate]

When you give him space, he can appreciate your presence more 🎁

[cosmolosys]

As someone with childhood trauma I think having a healthy amount of seperation like this can be healing, as is will be challenging to deal with some anxiety. I'll probably need a therapist during the process of growing closer to someone I feel mutually attracted to. And also along the way I'll need a therapist.. But I really hope I will be able to heal and grow and eventually find a safe and healthy relationship at some point.. or rather it finds me 🙈 🙏 this video made me feel less anxious about seperation

[jpchipper]

Not true..men dont like a difficult woman..but also dont want a push over woman..so what we find attractive is a receptive honest woman who shows her feelings and intensions but also stands up for herself so that she is not abused in a loving way..

[loreladumbrava]

Basically means to take care of yourself and that will create that healthy "space"

[Chrissy.H]

Great message. I believe what you are explaining is autonomy, which is very healthy.

[starrhall]

Just believe when they are attracted to u and stop imagining anything else. They will call or text when they're ready. They're busy getting their lives successful in order to take care of u.

[anita.]

I love this fareen! ❤❤ I love how you talk about how this works from a healthy, humanizing space for people who want attraction and passion in a healthy way and not from playing games and insincere strategies ❤❤❤❤

[lmusima]

This is why women should never chase men. You’d become less of a challenge

[TreasureSeasons]

I admire what you're trying to do - I'm 45 (almost) - I've been married before, we were together for a decade and he passed away 2 years after the divorce in 2015. I've experienced five long term relationships in my life; and each and every one of them - when distance was set - they missed me but that was not my intention. My five year relationship at the moment, he disappears when he's going through down moments; he needs time to himself, to relax, to fix his home - and I understand i'm homeowner as well - and work from home; he's said often that by the time he gets to me; he barely has any energy - plus he cares for his mother (she lives in his home) - the father died two years ago - anyway - life is journey - and love well when you're married - sometimes - people take each other for granted - thanks for listening.

[Elidicious]

depends on what you mean by giving him freedom. If a guy has been dating you for 2 months and still refuses to leave the dating profiles with the excuse that "we're still getting to know each other" feels like he's keeping you as an option rather than giving him space and freedom.

[pinkturtle]

This is fuckin true. They find quietness, solidarity, and confidence attractive because they'll think you're mysterious. (In my experience with men)

[Antoinette]

You are So refreshing. all the male dating coaches on YouTube were just confusing me. Thank you 🙌

[agent_exodus]

I couldn’t agree more, it is natural/organic.

So, I think for someone who has unresolved attachment trauma, if they try to create space, it’s going to be unnatural and create a kind of anxious tension. Whereas, if they work on themselves, this will become more organic.

I think the challenge part, is also natural and another byproduct of becoming more securely attached as opposed to anxious, fearful, dismissive.

Not everyone’s the same but, chemistry/compatibility and… those extra natural qualities, if you will, those things that we don’t quite know how to explain, are what has built a loving bond for me.

Definitely a reciprocal communication and transparency is major. An ability to express and disclose vulnerabilities.

Healthy space is great, mandatory even. But I wouldn’t say that or the challenge is what made me fall in love.

It’s the person. The unique connection that we have.

But again, I know there is no one size fits all. I’m just saying, from personal experience and pov 🙃🙂

Thanks for reading and all the best

[jayTerry]

I fall in love with women who are kind and trustworthy. Out of sight out of mind 😌 I assume if she isn't crazy about me she won't be faithful.

[sept]

Sometimes even in the best relationships men need space. Successful marriages reveal this all the time. It's a natural thing for men. It's that women don't NOTICE this when they are secure in themselves.

Then, the men respects them for it.
I personally would feel smothered to be in ANY relationship without some form of space.

[thatElene]

Didn't work for me 😂 it was always an ignorant game, , until my hubby showed up ❤ no games, no play