Why it's HARD for women to APOLOGIZE

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Why women so very rarely apologize.

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[maxjohnson]

Then, just tell her resolving the issue will put you in a better mood. Pro tip: She will still avoid the actual issue at all costs.

[joncarbone]

An ex cheated on me. Tried to apologize by saying 'sorry if I hurt you.' So the issue wasn't her cheating. It was me being upset about it lol

[MrCovi]

The sad thing is, most women that I've met don't have the humility necessary to realize that just apologizing WOULD change the way he feels. So they'll do anything else instead.

[Icarianbrother]

A past girlfriend would flirt with other men. I misinterpreted it as disrespect and became angry. I used cognitive restructuring to change the way that I thought. I came to the conclusion that she wanted me to see her as a recreational use only woman, not as a girlfriend so that's what I did.

[MileHighTsunami]

Women don't apologize because if they do, they will turn into a cloud of bats and fly away.

[blondienhouston]

Woman here! Apologize! It melts his heart! And usually I AM wrong. Grow up take responsibility for yourself.

[naamanmagnusanthony]

A woman will never cry for the things she has done, but will always cry for the consequences she has to pay.

[CallMePreet]

Yep. She can key your car, slash your tires, cheat on you, criticize you in front of others, etc and the REAL problem is that you're upset about it lol. I married the first girl I dated who was capable of apologizing for her behavior. I married her when I was 42, just to show how long the search took.

[jayedwards]

People choose to not apologize in order to be able to repeat the same behavior later. If they openly acknowledge their behavior as bad they then cannot repeat that behavior again with immunity (which is what happens the first time). Women know this and exploit it.

[carlessola]

That's why most women can't solve the most basic problems in their lives, they talk about them for hours and hours, do nothing, and the problem remains unsolved and added to their baggage

[AtabekZingi]

My ex wife always said I had to change my way of reacting to her "perceived" mistakes. Accoding to her I was the main obstacle for my own hapiness because I felt that way. When I tried to follow the advice, I could not recognise myself anymore... But one day I stopped that shit and got away. But it took me 15 years to understand I was manipulated.

[Intension]

It's another excuse for not beeing accountable. Women never take accountability for anything

[eddyecho]

this is exactly how a woman chips away at your manhood and sanity. This is why men need to stand their ground or walk away instead of continually conceding.

[tg]

Accountability is like Kryptonite to a woman.

[yoshiperspectives]

Women don't apologize because the idea of them being imperfect and not a princess is unbearable. That's how they were raised as little girls. Telling a little girl that she's a perfect princess is not only lying to her, but ruining her and creating a big problem for her in her future relationships. Little girls need to be taught their vulnerabilities and taught the value in accepting yourself as a faulty human that needs to improve through life.

[Khan-rzqi]

Men focus more on what’s being said, while women focus more on how it’s being said. Men care about finding a solution, women care about resolving their own feelings. Under these circumstances, it’s very hard for men to logically find solutions when problems arise in their relationships.

[tg]

Men; your most precious and treasured possession is your "Respect". And your no#1 means of defense of said "Respect" is to have enough "Self Respect" to walk away.

[stefanmatton]

If you place feelings before behaviour, you literally can not expect women to ever improve or change as a person. This is why baggage on women is so much worse

[ShooterMedic]

Women dont ever apologize because they would have to actually accept fault of theirs actions. They dont want to have the guilt.

[howiesfunware]

The real reason they don't acknowledge fault is because they believe they are above you and you're replaceable. Royalty doesn't apologize.