How To Win An Argument Against A Difficult Person

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We’ve all felt the frustration of arguing with someone that just won’t listen. So in this video, we’ll go through 6 tips to actually change a stubborn person’s mind, without hurting your relationship.


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0:00 - Intro
0:09 - #1: Say two things they’ll agree with before stating where you disagree
1:14 - #2: Use an analogy you know they’ll agree with
3:01 - #3: Maintain a calm conversational tone
3:30 - #4: Allow for playful breaks
4:08 - #5: Clarify the person’s ideas before you disagree with them
5:15 - #6: Debate ideas, not terminology

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[austinmalayil]

1. Say two things they will agree with before stating where you disagree
2. Use an anology you know they'll agree with
3. Maintain a calm conversational tone
4. Allow for playful breaks
5. Clarify the person's ideas
6. Debate ideas not terminology

[AMansWorldPodcast]

Listening to Someone is a sign of respect. listening, and responding to someone in a civilized manner (even if you disagree) is a sign you respect them.

[webjunkienl]

This only works if you're talking to someone who respects logic.

[williamhickock]

"Never argue with a fool. Onlookers wont be able to tell the difference" - Mark Twain

[PsychologyRefresh]

One of the most important thing is to never blatantly tell someone they are wrong, they will only resent you for it. Remember, that your goal is always to establish rapport.

[lukeyluke]

The main problem I see is that people go into their interactions with the "I'm going to destroy them, " mindset, that only applies in a formal debate- a debate is meant to be a game, not a proper conversation about ideas.

[DonQuixote]

Couple extra helpful points.
1) Know that you CAN'T change someone else's mind, only they can.
2) The best way to help that happen is to show that YOUR open to having your mind changed.
3) The best way to help THAT happen is to actually, genuinely, have an open mind. It's not as scary as people think, so long as you are in pursuit of truth rather than identity status based on "groups."

Another question I really like to ask someone after I've built repour with them is, "if you were wrong about this, is that something you'd genuinely like to know?" Their gut reaction is to ALWAYS say, "well of course!" but the truth is almost no-one actually is, because they think of it that way. However, when you frame it this way it helps them to go from "me vs you" to "us vs finding the actual truth, " as I also would and do genuinely want to know when I'm wrong about something.

A joke I used to make when my friends accused me of jumping teams in sports is "life's too short to root for losers." Well, the same is also true of truth. "Life's too short to waste time believing lies."

[SteelyEyedMissileManic]

So glad y'all finally did a Jon Stewart breakdown, truly a legend in discourse, satirical argument, and charisma.

[lbj]

How To Argue With Someone Who Won’t Listen:
Don't.

[graysongrahamcracker]

Treat every debate like everyone is on the same team. Then instead of being rooted against each other, it just turns into two people genuinely trying to find the truth

[Alan_Skywalker]

All of these work great when people are actually trying to communicate, or trying to look like this way. But will not work when their sole purpose is to discredit you. That's a big problem.

[darktk]

We need more content like this
Such as how to talk to people who don't use logic who don't listen etc and ty for everything

[notallthatbad]

I've found the willingness to listen without judgment or commentary works magic. It's like a super power. Just by listening to someone without injecting your own opinion (for the time being) opens things up incredibly well for all parties.

[quelorepario]

Simply: just respect the other person's ego.
The moment it feels that you are disrespecting them or not acknowledging the other person's experience, they will get into a defensive mode and will stop listening you.
"Tact is the ability to tell someone to go to hell in such a way that they look forward to the trip" - Anonymous (usually attributed to Churchill, but this is not true)

[Flimmertje]

I had the problem where a group debated what being a victim was for 15 minutes. Absolutely pointless.

[smith]

"A debate is to see what is right, an argument is to see who right' Whenever I argue I usually lose because competing is pointless.

[marcello]

Excellent point with the importance of debating ideas and forget for a moment about the terminology and the mere word. If more people did that I'm sure they would find more common grounds and agree or disagree in a healthier way.

[Pablo]

I absolutely disagree with the point about terminology. Every highly inteligent conversation HAS to start with establishing terminology otherwise you end up with one side talking about something completely different than the other side and understanding one another is simply impossible because you might be using the same sounding words, but in your heads you have two completely different meanings.

[xanthippus]

Some of these conversations are only worth it to communicate an idea to the audience. If the other party clogged their ears and scream at you, it's a waste of time trying to get to them.

[daniellucas]

The other advantage to this technique is that it forces you to think of the other person as someone who is mis-applying an agreed-upon principle, rather than as an unrelatable demon with fundamentally evil beliefs. It's a lot harder to just write someone off after you've stepped into their shoes, even if it was only for a moment.