I Was Sexually Abused by My Brother | Male Sexual Abuse

"It was something that I kept very silent about. I didn't know what it would do to our family unit."

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What do you do when profound betrayal robs you of the family trust and love that you are born into? Brian Brozovic’s answer: You build yourself a new family.

Brian was raised in a military family. Frequent moves made it difficult to establish long term friendships, so close family ties were crucial to the structure of his life.

And then he lost it all. At around the age of eleven, Brian was sexually abused by a close family member. The foundation beneath him cracked. “The only thing I could do was pick up the pieces and try to find a way forward.”

But it has not been easy. At fourteen he tried alcohol for the first time. “I had a lot of emotions that I didn’t want to process…It was a heck of a lot easier to keep them drowned in alcohol.”

His alcoholism followed him into adulthood, and Brian realized that the long-buried abuse was the engine driving it. He sought help through Alcoholics Anonymous and counseling and a male survivor group. The men had different problems, but also common ground: “We all had a problem and we kind of kept it in and we finally had to realize that this was no longer healthy for us, or for those around us.”

Brian has committed himself to re-creating a family anchored in love and trust. He and his wife, Jennifer, are raising three children together, and Brian marvels: “I was on a really bad path, and the idea that there’s really something better out there is something that I continue to find every day and I continue to grow on.”

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1in6 is a national nonprofit organization supporting the estimated 1 in 6 men who have experienced sexual abuse or assault. At 1in6, we believe that the tens of millions of male survivors who have had such experiences deserve to live whole, meaningful lives, but we know that isn’t always easy. Entrenched myths about masculinity, the stigma and silence around the issue, and a lack of male-specific services are just some of the barriers men face to seeking help and addressing emotional wounds in a healthy way.

Men who feel unsafe to disclose and seek help may risk exposure to social dysfunction and mental and physical health issues, including but not limited to: depression, PTSD, suicidal ideation, addiction, isolation, fear of intimacy, confusion about sexuality, interpersonal violence, and feelings such as anger, guilt, shame, and distrust.

We help men overcome the negative effects of past experiences and reclaim their lives by offering information, outreach, and free and anonymous services for men and their loved ones, as well as service providers working with men.

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[michaelsweeney]

Thank you for putting this out there and raising awareness. It is a very brave thing to do. Hoping you have all the support you need.

[Oldman]

A juvenile inmate in Baton Rouge, Louisiana nearly bit the pecker off a guard who attempted to sexually abuse him. The guard was fired and arrested after surgery.

[CHOPPA]

Id like to hear more about this i used to have an older step brother 5 or 6 years older than me he used to physically bully me in the day and harrass me on a nightly basis to do sexual things to him id allways refuse then he wouldnt leave me alone or let me sleep until i  did it i was very young cant remember exactly  i think i was about 9 or 10 hed make me belive it was normal but i shouldnt tell anyone about it . I'd moved away from my mums because i had an abusive step dad who used to batter her and me so i begged to go and live with my dad then had that bastard there making me do that then i wanted to go back and live with my mum again  which i did but things hadnt changed and i couldnt take it so had to move back to my dads and it all started again ive spent years drinking taking drugs getting into trouble being labeled as the black sheep of the family failed relationships self harm being suicidle, lost my younger brother in 2008 that drove me into more drinking drugs etc, i met some one had a lovely daughter and in 2015 give up drinking drugs, passed my driving test went to college and studied to be a air conditioning engineer things were going good for me well as good as i had ever been then got ill while on  family holiday, had life saving major surgery, come home got a deep seated infection spent months in and out of hospital then got told i have crohns ( at 46 ) then diagnosed with blocked artery in my left leg and now cant walk without a crutch ive spent 2 years at home sober and alot of time to think wothout any coping mechanisms ie drink or drugs and its driving me mad to the point that i know i have to do something its so scary but i am becoming more angry every day and realising that that abuse has dictated my life  every decision ive made in my life all stems from that bastard, when i came home to my mums when i was young  i would bully my younger brother i was horrible to him so when my younger brother died at 28 it hit me so hard the guilt is unbearable im the older brother  my family have eventually ghosted me as im the black sheep now who bullied my younger brother and was allways in trouble none of them know what happened to me its dictated my life and im not letting any longer my daughter is 16 now and i am so proud of her  .
I allways blamed myself then there's the added guilt of not telling anyone about it I suppressed everything for all these years praying that it was just me and that he didn't abuse anyone  else  but who knows ? I am a man who's never felt like a man allways over  trying to be a one never been able to make real friends and now I'm stuck at home disabled stewing evermore on how to move forward, I remembered that my dad even came in to the bedroom one night and saw me in my older brothers bed and walked out and didn't even bat an eyelid what the fuck did he think was going on ? Why didn't he protect me ? Probable more interested in getting back to his drink
My child hood was tragic to say the least  .
Now I'm dealing with all this while trying to get myself better, crohns disease, blocked artery, heart failure, lost my you ger brother my only real confident in life, if I hold on to this any longer I think it will kill me

[PedroCarrillo-qohw]

Somehow your story doesn't make sense!!!😮. It's one of these quickies, no details only your word of whatever it was he did to you!!!😢